Hanging out with complicated personalities like INFJs can be extremely challenging.
Sometimes one may feel like you are walking on thin ice. As you don’t want to upset someone as
sensitive and peaceful as an INFJ, there are a few guidelines you may want to go through.
The INFJ personality types see the world from their own separate lens, that most
of the time goes parallel with the rest of the world, and that can be uncomfortable for them.
They are usually observant, dedicated, focused and hate being distracted while
they are working. But these are only a few of the basic things that everyone knows about INFJs
Today’s video will dig a little deeper into multiple studies and try to form a road map
for you of the things that INFJs experience in their lives and want everyone to know about them.
Please leave a like if you enjoy this video and let me know your thoughts in the comments.
Now with that let’s get started.
You May Be an Acquaintance but Are You a Friend?
Do not get your hopes too high with an INFJ. They treat everyone nicely because that is
a huge part of their personality. Being polite is like second nature to an INFJ
and it basically has nothing to do with whoever is sitting in front of them.
They will be kind to you, catering to your feelings during the time you spend with them.
However, that does not mean that they are letting you into their lives.
See where they draw the line, don’t get too close unless they give you access to themselves.
INFJ people have very selective friendships. They may seem reserved to general people,
but they can be very friendly and open with the people they genuinely trust.
Now the question if you are one of the close ones, is something you are going
to have to search for an answer for. Because INFJs are not easy to decipher.
Deep Thinkers
If you have an INFJ friend, colleague, or a family member, pay attention to their
patterns of functioning. You will realize a lot of things that usually go unnoticed.
INFJs are incredibly deep thinkers. Sometimes they drift away while paying complete attention
to what you are saying, until a point when they lose track of what you were telling them.
They will be observing every small detail from your words to the hand gestures and processing
it one by one, so being bombarded by information tunes out their brains
until they are comfortable enough to process more information later.
They Understand the True Meaning of Gifts
To an INFJ person, care and attention, regard of their feelings matters more than a material gift.
You can easily please them by just giving them the care and attention they need,
without having to go that extra mile for fairy lights and expensive gifts.
The only condition, however, would be that of sincerity.
Genuinely give them the love that is meant for them and watch them love you forever.
Perfectionism: They Will Never Have Enough of It
When you hear INFJ, what is the first characteristics that comes into your mind?
Perfectionism would be up there, right?
INFJs are extreme perfectionists, they struggle with finishing a project because
they invest all of their energy into creating a masterpiece.
Most of the time they look for a complicated idea that is not taken up by average people.
They will dedicate their souls toward the completion of the map, a rough sketch that they
have created in their minds. And honestly, the outcome will be mind blowing to you.
Emotional Attachment Over Physical Closeness
Long distance relationships are compatible with the INFJ
personality type, while other types may struggle with it to quite an extent. They
prefer the true essence of relationships over a surface impression of being close.
That is because INFJ people believe in the emotional connection that they develop with
the people they love and value, instead of being able to physically spend time with them.
That obviously does not mean that spending time with their loved ones upsets them, it is just
that they don’t mind the distance if they can access your emotional system from afar.
Open to Everything
Unlike non INFJs who tend to have a judgement on every situation and a certain perspective,
INFJs are more open to multiple sides of the same story to understand it better so nobody gets hurt
and they also get a good understanding of the situation, instead of being superficial.
They understand the grey areas and nuances better than anyone else
which gives them a leverage of being understanding over everyone else.
They will keep asking thought provoking questions and looking at different angles
until they have formed a detailed analysis and conclusion which satisfies them.
Yes, they really are that responsible and careful when it comes to situations that involve others.
Highly Observant
INFJs like to analyze, assess and observe everything happening around them. Their minds
work like computers that are sensitive to the changes in the environments they are in, and
they can build quite an accurate conclusion based solely on their intuition and observation skills.
They like to go deeper into things, surface value is never satisfactory for an INFJ.
They will be looking forward to taking everything to a philosophical level with you.
When to Talk, When to Not
INFJs usually love observing and analyzing situations,
holding their conclusions bottled up within themselves, as we have already discussed.
If they don’t speak in front of you, that probably does not mean that they lack the
confidence to say anything in a gathering or the eloquence to express themselves freely.
Rather, it is more about not having anything to say because when it comes to communication,
there might be only a few people who are better at it than an INFJ.
They Will Validate You at The Expense of Their Own Feelings
This part is painfully right. You may not see it much, but INFJs try really hard to
avoid any conflict that may make you question your vision and sense of judgement. They will
go to any extent to protect you from having an argument with yourself over your beliefs.
Sometimes they may not believe or understand the reason you give them during an argument,
but unlike others who dismiss it, they will appreciate your effort and surrender to the
conclusion you come up with, because they simply don’t want you to be sad and upset.
Feelings matter a lot to them because INFJs feel very strongly about themselves,
and they know exactly how being strangely lonely in a crowded room feels like.
And they will protect your feelings from getting hurt at the expense of their own.
Do you think this is accurate? Let me know in the comments.