Heya playa, it's a new year which means it's
time to reevaluate how to go about asking out your crush.
2022 is going to hold a totally different approach that you need to learn how to take
so you can be most effective in talking to the person that you like.
In the video, I did last year I talked about how the pandemic has changed the state of dating.
It's a lot harder to meet up with someone in person to build that connection to go do things
so what you're really going to want to focus on this year around is
messaging someone and getting in their DMs.
Starting a conversation through Instagram DM or
Snapchat message sounds pretty simple and straightforward but it's actually not.
You see, you have to build somewhat of a connection with that person in order to get
a response back from them and if you're messaging them for the very first time,
chances are it's going to be a lot harder for them to actually see it and respond.
If for example you like someone in your school and you want to ask them out you
might think I'll find their Instagram profile, message them and then see where things go from
there but having that connection piece by talking to them in person,
talking to their friends, getting to know their world is going to make it a whole lot
easier for them to actually respond back and to have a back and forth conversation.
So, if your plan is to take a purely online approach to talking to them try
interacting with their online world.
That might mean commenting on their pictures, liking their stories when they share it,
getting involved in group chats with them and their friends whenever you can.
Just don't leave comments on their pictures saying things like "Hey, check your DMs."
This is a surefire way to get ignored.
It comes off as weird and creepy and not personal at all.
And remember the goal here is to go from less personalized
communication to more personalized communication.
That means starting off leaving comments, moving to their DMs,
eventually getting their phone number, and then ultimately hanging out with them in person.
Asking someone out in person, what does that look like in 2022?
Well, it's going to be pretty similar to what it was last year.
You have to be mindful and aware of what's open and accessible around you
as well as your own health and safety because the pandemic is still happening.
Having the courage to ask someone out is only one part of the equation.
You need to take those other factors into consideration, for yourself and for them.
They may be totally fine with hanging out with you and spending time together but
they may not want to do it in crowded places or in restaurants where people have their masks off.
The way to succeed then is about learning where
their comfort level lies and then building your plans around that.
So, if they're comfortable hanging out in person but they're a little iffy
about being in crowds of people, go to the park or go for a walk.
Somewhere with the two of you can kind of be isolated from other people
and still enjoy each other's company.
For some people they might be in an environment like school or work where they feel like there's
just no one they're interested in dating, there's no one worth getting to know so
the most logical answer seems to be why not turn to dating sites, right?
Let me stop you right there because even though the world
of dating and communication seems to be going more and more digital,
it's really not working out for about 80 percent of the guys that are on there.
And this definitely holds true especially leading into 2022.
Dating sites are kind of like clubs in a way, they know that if they have female users
then men are going to pay to have access to them so they take advantage of that.
And just like in clubs, average guys struggle to get in unless they have a boatload of money
to buy a table or a bottle and to just look all fancy-schmancy to get girls' attention.
So what ends up happening is that the majority of women really only focus
and see about 20% of the guys.
Those are the ones that they're chasing and those are the ones
that are probably going to be the most successful.
So if that's the case are dating sites even worth trying out this year?
I would still say yes, but make it a back burner activity.
Don't make it the focus of how you're going to try to meet people.
Instead, I have a better solution for you this year.
What I want you to focus on then this year when it comes to dating and
asking someone out is being way more involved in online communities, being a part of in-person
activities and groups and meetups, and overall just finding people you deeply connect with.
I think this is the best way to establish a foundation and it's going to make it easier
for you to ask that person out because you'll have something in common with them.
It's going to be way easier than a cold DM or just randomly liking someone's dating profile.
Either way, I want you to make 2022 the year where you put your confidence on full display.
Where you go after the things that you want or you talk to the people that you like.
Where you're not afraid to be your best self.
You have what it takes to be somebody great, now it's time to share that with the world.
Check out the videos and resources over there on the side,
thanks for watching the video and I will catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.