This video is about = "How to Stay Strong after Walking Away!" and there are FOUR
principles you MUST remember so you can stay strong, after deciding to cut people out,
walk away from them! To find out what those FOUR principles are, please stay tuned to this video!
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At the point of me recording this video, one of the most popular videos on this channel
is the video "The Power of Walking Away," (but obviously that can all change) but that video is
about how there's SO MUCH POWER in walking away from toxic people, relationships, or a situation!
I was raised to not be violent by parents. I was told never to be hateful with my words (if i can
be) I've seen people ruin their lives by acting out, committing acts of violence for revenge...
I've also seen people humiliate themselves for letting their emotions get the worst of them...
but walking away (metaphorically and physically) is a FANTASTIC solution! It requires NO attention to
do so, it can be done smoothly and quietly, and it has tremendous POWER! Walking away includes =
obviously going no contact, possibly blocking off social media, Whatsapp,
leaving or moving out, and planning your future life without those people no longer in it!
Walking away from a person is basically standing up for yourself and what you believe is right!
You've come to a logical conclusion and you should pat yourself on the back for doing so!
What happens after you walk away, when that adrenaline rush, inevitably you know
goes down? When the reality kicks in that = you're alone again or you feel lonely? That's when the
REAL TEST of resilience and belief sets in! I've successfully walked away from a lot of people
in my life. I don't say that proudly, it breaks my heart that I've had to do so, and I've lost so many
friends, exes, and even family along the way! But I also do not regret any of the decisions I have
made to do so. And there is power behind it, and I have gained vast experience in doing so, hence the
reason behind this post! People say "thank you for inspiring me to walk away, but how do I stay strong?"
"How do I keep it together after walking away?" In a weird way, walking away is actually the easy part...
THIS is the real test! Here is HOW to stay and remain strong after walking away....
Walking away is actually the EASY part in the beginning. The hard part is the recovery,
the acceptance, the healing. When I walked away from a toxic relationship (which was really bad)
it was relatively straightforward. We fought a lot, I realized they were toxic, a narcissist,
I eventually built up the courage to check out and said "it was over for good, thank god!!"
I cut contact, blocked, removed reminders within 24 hours, I threw away photos, and refused to meet and
talk about it further, it was over! You may think that's really harsh, and hard to do, but when you
date a narcissist, and you realize what they truly are, it's quite simple! The NEXT stage was tough.
The first evening alone without them, no more calls or texts, realizing you're back to being single again...
seeing how much damage you've taken over the course of a toxic relationship. The first weekend
where you would normally be out on a date, but instead you're at home eating a meal for one...
The first valentine's, the first christmas, other harsh reminders. This may sound easier said than
done, but I told myself the following = "look this is going to suck initially"
"It's part of the decision, and I must stand by the decision, but over time and eventually
things get easier!" As time went on and the longer it got, and I remained no contact it DID get easier...
You can't allow a toxic person back in, not even to chat! You'll get hoovered hence, why I
blocked them and kept it that way! And despite many nights of being in tears, and alone, and desperate
and depressed, it got easier! However several months later the pandemic started, and then I lost my dad...
I had no choice but to tackle my grief head on... I was locked down, and to heal. I have no
ill feelings to my ex, I wish them the best, but in NO WAY will I go back to them, because I've healed
from the trauma, the pain, the relationship, and the mistakes! If you stare into the abyss long
enough, the abyss starts to stare back at you! That is how you're going to remain strong! You must heal!
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Another important tip and reason for you to REMAIN STRONG after walking away, is a very
harsh and brutal truth = people don't change! Really ask yourself the following question, and try and
be honest okay? How often have you changed in your life? How much have you changed? Have you
made the sacrifices and stuck to them? Now I'm not suggesting people NEVER change...I was a gambling
addict for 14 years, BUT I've remained clean and sober for two, with no desire to gamble again!
BUT is that really changing, and in my opinion it's not. I believe that's cutting a habit out
of my life that was toxic and dangerous. I educated myself that gambling was doing more harm than good
and I've eliminated that desire, that need to ever bet again! I wake up happy, never thinking
of wanting to ever gamble, and that is truly amazing! Now has that changed my entire personality?
Like what makes me who I am, quirks and all? No! I'm probably the same person I was who
gambled, but maybe less irritable, and angry, and stressed! People rarely change, that's why you're
walking away! Remember you're walking away because you evaluated what your life is like
WITH these toxic people around you, aka a burden, stressful, difficult, negative, miserable...
Have you tried reasoning with them? But where's that got you...? You've given them multiple chances
they've failed them all... You've tried to explain boundaries, yet they STILL abuse their powers...
Throw in the towel, cos it doesn't make you weak! Give up, because you cannot please the unpleasable,
satisfy the unsatisfied, and on top of that it's NOT your job to change these people or anyone
else! The ONLY thing you can actually change is your surroundings, and your personal circumstances!
Remind yourself you have left and walked away because you're not qualified or able to change
them, and don't take that personally! Those who want to change genuinely do so, but again that is really rare...
To Stay Strong after walking away, you got to remind yourself WHY you did in the first
place! Our emotions are going to get the best of us. We often have very short memories, we all do...
We turn the other cheek and we're like "you know what, I was being harsh, come back into my life!"
A woman once stole money from her family, returned after a decade, and then when she returned it was
like the crime never happened! They hugged, her welcomed her back, she cried tears of joy,
"why did I ever stop talking to you?! I love you all!" Fast forward only a few months later...
and ONCE AGAIN she scammed her family out of even MORE money and fled the country for good!
A leopard doesn't change its spots. When I walk away from someone, a relationship, a friend,
a deal, a family member, I write down a list of the things that's happened, and they've done.
Because again our Goldfish memories will allow them to hoover back into our lives! I'd write in
detail all they've done wrong, what has led me to the logical conclusion of cutting them out and I
even went as far as making an audio version, so I'd walk down the street whenever I'd be triggered or
get reminded of something like an EX or something = I'll just play the audio of "they've done this..."
"they've cheated on you..." and then immediately I'm okay! Walking away means walking AWAY.
Means cutting out that toxic element of your life, and letting in good and better people instead!
Do yourself a favor, and sit down somewhere where you won't be disturbed with a notepad,
and a pen and write down the reasons you are hurt, upset, betrayed by the people you've walked away
from! List it in detail, have a good serious think and when you're done, keep that list to yourself
and obviously after walking away REMIND yourself as often as possible with that list...
maybe read it every day, several times a day out loud until that penny drops!
Do NOT act on a whim here, I guarantee you this is an enormously powerful and important step
to remaining strong! Remind yourself WHY you have walked away...
Now speaking firsthand here, things will get so much better for you once you stay away after
walking away and remain strong! I assure you and promise you that the GRASS is GREENER!
Look at the alternative, if you don't stay away after walking away you will welcome in MORE arguments,
drama, stress, issues, problems, abuse, potential violence, gaslighting, manipulation, mind games,
insomnia and so on! You KNOW what life will be like if you don't stay away!
Most likely you might be a reasonable, empathetic person. You've TRIED explaining all the problems
and issues you've had to endure, where's that got you? It's got you to walking away...
and after you do the healing, recover and improvement of your boundaries = life gets better!
Trust me = you attract better people, opportunities, circumstances, you just have so much more fun!
It will be painful and hard initially, but after time that passes, and one day you'll be sat
somewhere with somebody else, or even on your own, and take a HUGE sigh of relief, because it feels
GOOD to be toxic free! I know I did, that's how you stay strong after walking away! Thanks for watching...