- [Narrator] So me and this girl decided to go out,
but she decided to cheat on me around five
to six months later and she wants me back,
saying she made a mistake.
I still do care for her a bit,
but I don't think I trust her.
Any advice?
(beep)
- [Commenter} No, she left you. Don't let her in.
She thinks you are her plan B.
So respect yourself and ignore this girl.
(beep)
Never be someone's plan B. She cheated on you for plan A.
When that didn't pan out, you are her logical second choice.
Never played into that dynamic. You will never win.
Tell her you're holding out for someone worth a damn.
(beep)
Cheating is never a mistake.
It's a thousand small decisions. She chose to cheat.
You are plan B. Don't ever be someone's plan B, move on.
(beep)
Tell her you will not be exclusive with her,
but if she wants to bang you down,
this is your chance to spin a couple of plates and say,
"Hasta la vista, baby,"
when you meet a high value woman worth your time.
Your standards are way too low.
If you think you are too weak to cut her loose,
then don't go anywhere near her now.
When you get to be my age, you are going to say,
"If only I knew then what I know now."
(beep)
I will give you the same advice I gave my son.
Be friends with benefits with every girl.
Don't get emotionally attached.
How relationships work
is one person always chases the other one.
You want to be the one chased.
You don't want to do the chasing.
So if you make it too easy,
they will get bored and will take advantage of you.
With that said, you can take her back,
but don't get serious.
Don't blow off your friends for her.
If another girl is interested in you,
then spend time with her too.
Get marriage and all of that stuff out of your head.
What's the rush?
Single guys have plenty of money
and can do whatever they want.
Married guys are broke and don't have sex.
(beep)
Please listen to this and never be afraid or embarrassed
of being alone.
Marriage sucks.
(beep)
Marriage is fantastic with the right person.
It takes two to make a relationship work
and only one to destroy it.
(beep)
A friends with benefits situation is fine
as long as both people have an understanding.
Please still be respectful to any partners you have
and be honest about your intentions.
Relationships are not always one person chasing the other.
Once you find the right person,
you'll be equally committed to the relationship.
(beep)
I've been married 22 years.
I don't know anyone in an equally committed relationship.
What I do know is a bunch of people who got divorced
because they were not equally committed to the relationship,
such as men wanting sex
and their wives rejecting them repeatedly,
such as wives charging up the credit cards
and putting them in financial ruin,
such as guys drinking or gambling too much.
Where is the Brady Bunch land where everything is perfect?
(beep)
Just because you haven't seen or experienced it,
doesn't make it not exist.
I've seen many marriages and relationships
that don't have these situations you describe.
(beep)
Why would you give her a second chance?
What has she done to deserve it?
Saying she made a mistake and won't do it again?
Every cheater that has done it again
has said the same exact thing.
You aren't married, didn't even date that long.
It shouldn't even be that hard of a question really.
Block her.
There is a zero reason to maintain contact with her.
If you do that, it means you must like the drama.
(beep)
Unless you constantly want to live wondering
what she is doing when she is not with you,
then you are better off moving on before you waste
any more time on a cheater.
(beep)
She cheated on you once.
What prevents her from doing it again?
Being with you? I don't think so.
If that did, she wouldn't have cheated
on you the first time, so don't go back.
(beep)
No man, you don't have a secure
and loving relationship with her.
If you allow this, plus you seem to have zero self-respect,
which she'll take advantage of.
(beep)
No, cheating is never a mistake.
She knew what she was doing and she'd probably do it again.
Don't give that trust a second time
just so that she can screw you over again.
(beep)
Don't think it's worth it.
It's very painful to recover from being cheated on
and ending the relationship.
The relationship was in its early stages
so it was easy to get out of and move on.
You will have a hard time trusting her
for the rest of your life.
If you take her back and that can be very stressful
and can cause anxieties,
disturbing thoughts will keep entering your mind.
You don't need that BS. Ditch her and fast.
(beep)
Just move forward.
It didn't work out with the other guy.
She will use you as plan B until the next guy comes along.
(beep)
If you take her back now,
she knows that she may be unfaithful to you again
because you will take her back anyway.
Block and move on. She does not respect you.
(beep)
Considering that you're posting this in a forum
about cheating, no, you should not take her back.
You deserve better.
She knew cheating was a mistake before she did it,
but she still did it anyway.
She's not a good person.
(beep)
It depends. Don't listen to advice here.
Nobody here really knows you. Do you want her back?
Is she willing to go to therapy with you
and to be honest with you?
You could also take her back,
go to therapy, then decide it's not going to work.
This process is never set in stone
and there is never one simple answer.
If life were that simple,
so many people would not be posting here.
(beep)
The other guy left her and now she's coming back to you.
Only you can make the choice if you take her back or not
but in my opinion, I say, no, don't.
She lost the chance to be with you when she cheated
and left with the other guy.
(beep)
Listen, I have a few things to say
about some of these responses.
This, in my opinion, is pretty cut and dry. Why?
Well, they have only been dating close to six months
and if she has already displayed this type of behavior,
that's a huge red flag and should be grounds for him
to end the relationship on the spot.
Some of these responses say think about it
or do you want her back, et cetera,
but what are the long-term effects
if he decides to take back a woman who he has only dated
for close to six months, that has already been unfaithful?
One post already gave us a few clues;
anxiety and mental stress, to name a couple.
What about physical? She could possibly bring home an STD.
Yikes. This young man fails to have the abundance mentality.
If he did, he wouldn't even consider the possibility
of even having feelings for one woman
who has already displayed untrustworthy behavior.
In my opinion, she is done, next.
(beep)