- Hey everybody, happy Monday.
We are back with another episode of
What's Happening With Kati.
And today we're gonna talk about a lot of things.
First, we're gonna talk about Lindsay Vonn
and her opening up about her battle with depression
since she was a teenager.
We're gonna talk about Adele and her talking
about her divorce and her anxiety
and all that's come into that.
Also body image and losing weight,
people hating on her for that, for some reason.
We're gonna dig into South Korea
'cause they're expanding their efforts
to try to prevent celebrity suicides.
I had no idea this was happening.
And also, Kelly Osbourne has checked herself back into rehab
after being sober for many years.
And we'll talk about the pandemic
and the effects it's had on that.
So let's just jump right in.
I don't know if anybody follows Lindsay Vonn,
but I have loved her since I was a kid.
She's actually, it's funny enough,
I didn't realize she's 37,
so she's almost exactly my age, I just turned 38,
but she's a skier and an amazing skier.
And I used to watch her as a kid,
I've always loved the winter Olympics.
And recently she had a sit-down interview with CNBC
and I really appreciated it 'cause she was talking
a lot about her struggles with depression.
She shares the things that she's done,
to help her get through and to continue on.
And these are things that you guys know I love.
Things like journaling. Hey, hey, I'm a huge fan.
She talks about how it helps her get things out of her head.
It helps her keep track of what she's working on
and working towards those goals
because she's had a lot of injuries in her career
and having those injuries,
leads to things like chronic pain
and not being able to get out of bed for a little while,
as you recover.
And these recoveries, she said,
can take sometimes upwards of six to 10 months.
And so, not being able to do the thing you love,
for her it's skiing, but doing something that you enjoy,
you aren't able to do that, how do you overcome that?
And so she journals a lot and I love that.
She also talks a lot about how her support system
is really important.
And I think there is something to professional athletes,
how they always have these teams.
Whether it's a physical therapist, a doctor, a coach,
all that stuff.
It's kind of like they're already used to having a team
and I think for those of us in regular life,
who aren't professional athletes, like myself,
is it's important to consider that for us.
What's a team look like for us?
What's our support team?
And putting that together because I know, I mean personally,
but also I've heard from a lot of you that
we're not gonna be able to do it on our own.
We need that extra support.
And then another thing she discussed is
how having all these injuries and this chronic,
it can be chronic pain,
but it's also just chronically having medical treatments,
is the self-talk.
And so she talks about using mantras
to kind of help her out of it
and how a lot of what she does,
is right before a race and stuff,
she has certain things she tells herself.
And then when all else fails,
and this is the last of the things that she talked about,
but my personal favorite, is she takes a lot of naps.
And as someone who needs nine to 10 hours of sleep a night,
I know, you heard me right, nine to 10 hours,
and there's no judgments around that, right?
The average person needs around eight,
but some people need upwards of 10 to 11.
And we just have to figure out where we fall in that.
And I happen to fall in the nine to 10 hour range.
And I just appreciated the fact that she talked about how
when she feels overwhelmed and starts
to be thinking negatively,
sometimes she just naps as a reset.
And I think if we have that ability in our life,
I know not all of us do, but sometimes a nap,
it's just the thing you need to set yourself straight.
We have more and more people coming out
talking about their struggles.
And I think the more people that do it, the better,
but what do you think?
Another person that was in the news whom I personally love,
and it also just caught my eye
because there are so many ways
we can take this conversation.
But it's the conversation around Adele and her new album
and a lot of it has been inspired,
I don't even like to use the word inspired,
but I guess a catalyst to this album,
was her divorce and her own personal growth.
She's talking a lot, not only musically, but in interviews,
She's been talking a lot about her anxiety.
And in the album, she actually includes a voicemail
of her having a panic attack and her trying to manage it.
She's just being honest about where she's at
in her struggles. And again,
the vulnerability of people that we hold in these,
I don't know, we put people on pedestals, right?
And Adele is amazing. She's super talented.
She has a beautiful child and had a beautiful family.
And you think all these things about people
and make a lot of assumptions
that because of success and fame,
their life must be, I don't know,
all puppy dogs and ice cream.
But she's sharing this part of herself
where she's like, "No, I really, really struggle.
And I've struggled for a long time."
What she shares really,
is that her anxiety was getting the best of her
and it was running her life.
It was making it hard for her to do the things
that she wanted to do.
And her relationship with her husband was deteriorating.
And she talks a little bit in his Vogue article
about how there wasn't really anything bad
that went on in her marriage. It just didn't work.
And she wasn't happy.
I know that sounds silly to say, "I appreciated that,"
but I think a lot of times
when we talk about celebrity divorces,
or even when people come out talking about divorce,
sometimes it can be really nasty,
or there can be drug or alcohol abuse,
or physical abuse or there's something going on,
where we're like, "Oh my God,
that sounds really toxic or terrible."
But Adele's just saying, "It just didn't work."
And I think that's the most common reason for divorce,
or reason for relationships to end.
And her talking about her worry
that it was gonna come out in the news
and they were gonna try to spin it into something
that it wasn't and that spurred on her anxiety
and subsequent panic attacks and things like that.
Once you put yourself out there and you share it,
I think this is why a lot of people don't,
is that then you can get backlash
and I'm sure she's seen some stuff online.
The one that shocked me the most was,
because I have the,
I don't know if it's the newest issue of Vogue,
she's on the cover.
And if you don't know,
Adele has recently lost weight
because she talks about how she was working out
to better about herself
and how she was in this self-destructive spiral.
And she started working out and she started to feel better
and then she wanted to work out more.
She doesn't talk about it like a weight loss thing,
or any body shaming.
But what shocked me the most is,
her conversation about weight loss,
from an eating disorder specialist perspective
and another woman in the world, is I was like,
"Oh, that's a pretty healthy way to look at it."
She didn't talk about restricting and crazy diets
and keeping track of numbers
and working with all these trainers.
She didn't talk about this huge team or anything.
She essentially said,
"I used to not treat my body well,
and I felt bad because of it. And now that I have a child,
I don't want them to be around an unhealthy relationship,"
like her marriage, she didn't feel it was healthy,
"and I don't want them to see me being unhealthy."
And she didn't talk about healthy, unhealthy, like,
"I can't eat food that I want." She was like,
"I want them to see me being active
and I want to feel good and I wanna be doing good things,
setting a good example for my child.
And I feel better when I do exercise and so as a result,
I've lost some weight."
People were mad.
Finally, someone just talking about how it feels good
to move your body, it felt good for her,
she wasn't doing things that did feel good,
she made some positive change and she got shit for it.
And I didn't understand.
If you're one of the people that were frustrated by it,
explain that to me.
Is there something that I'm missing?
Maybe I didn't read a certain portion of an article
or I missed the part where she said she was
counting calories or something. I don't know.
I was really happy for her.
I like to see people feeling good and doing good.
And I like that she wants
to be a good example for her child.
I don't know, it was all good to me.
So I was really excited to hear about Adele.
But moving right along,
because there's just so much talk about,
the next topic is South Korea apparently,
has been having an increase in celebrity suicides.
And the reasons that they say are,
depression rates have risen, anxiety rates have risen,
I think we could all agree with all that,
but then cyber bullying has been a huge component.
And so they're trying to figure out a better way
to navigate this and how they can better manage
cyber bullying and also how can they check in on people
and make sure there are resources available?
And I think that's something that our world needs to do,
is to make sure that resources are available.
I think so often, especially mental health treatment,
isn't part of our healthcare system.
Or they give us six sessions,
or you have to wait for two years to see someone,
and then you get 10 sessions.
I feel like the understanding of mental healthcare
just isn't there at the highest level.
My hope is that someone will stand up and speak up,
so that we can set up structure that is actually helpful.
We need to have more early-on care.
And part of that comes with removing the stigma
and just having conversations like this, right?
Where we talk about mental health
and how important it is for us to take care of it,
just as important as our physical health.
I'm really just glad that South Korea is talking about this
openly with news outlets so we can read about it
and that they're trying to implement some strategies
and put resources in place to help people better manage
and feel supported.
Because it's been a rough go here
for the last year and a half.
But for many of us, it's been a rough go for,
I don't know how long.
And the final story I wanna talk about
is Kelly Osbourne checking herself back into rehab
after being sober for four years.
And she shared on Instagram,
she talked about the relapse and how hard it's been,
kind of relating it to the pandemic
and how it was hard for her to get her footing.
And she didn't really know what else to do to cope.
And I really wanted to bring this up, not only again,
someone speaking up about their mental health
and talking about addiction in a real way,
but also just the fact that we know because of the pandemic
that drug and alcohol relapses have gone up.
And I forget the exact percentage,
but I know as a clinician,
other clinicians in my space are talking about
how many of their patients have struggled
to stay on track and to continue their sobriety.
Again, going back to how celebrities,
they don't have special powers,
they just maybe have more resources, right?
Kelly Osbourne found herself struggling.
I'm glad that she's talking about it honestly and openly
and I'm glad that she's in rehab
and I hope that she gets the support she needs
to get back into her sobriety.
You guys know this,
I've always hated keeping track and counting,
I know it can be really powerful,
but I also feel like it can be
like a heavy weight or like expectations
start to get greater and greater.
I know there's pluses and minuses to it,
but I'm definitely more leaning towards the side of
not keeping track like that
and being like, "I got through today, kudos to me."
But I'd love to hear your guys' thoughts too.
Did you struggle during the early days of the pandemic?
Are you still struggling?
I know that sobriety isn't easy in general
and I'm sure with the added stress of just everything.
Could be job loss, right? Those are little T traumas.
It could be relationships,
I know divorce rates went up during the pandemic,
probably 'cause we had never spent that much time
with our loved ones.
There's a lot that had happened
and a lot of those are traumas
and a lot of those are very stressful events
at the very least.
Not to mention, just feeling like our world's on fire
and that can cause us to wanna cope in ways
that maybe aren't the healthiest.
I know I struggled at the beginning,
just trying to figure out how I'm gonna take care of myself
in the new, I don't know, the new way that the world is.
I don't even know how to talk about it.
And I'm still learning every day how to take care of myself.
And thank you to all of you who sent in your videos
and your questions for the next What's Happening.
I'm still getting those together
and we'll add those into the next episode.
But please, if you are new and you want to participate,
feel free to send in any questions
or any articles you want me to read,
to kati@katimorton.com.
You can record these video questions on your phone,
make sure that you do it horizontally, 30 seconds or less.
Make sure that there there's lighting,
so we can see your beautiful face
and hear your voice and feel free to send those over
as you get them. I will be putting a bunch of those
into the next episode of this.
And yeah, I'd just love to get your thoughts.
Let me know what you thought about
any of the stories we covered, down in those comments below
and if there's something else you want me to address,
you can leave it there too.
Have a wonderful week and I will see you next time.
Bye.
I was starting to sweat there at the end,
I don't know why. (exhales)