Out of my league??
What??
What does THAT mean??
OUT OF MY LEAGUE?
WHAT THE FUCK?!
Look bro.
If you think a girl is out of your league, you’ve ALREADY LOST and you’re in the
totally wrong mindset.
Thinking that a girl is out of your league is basically the same as thinking that you’re
too ugly or that your personality is too shitty to actually get certain girls.
This shows a total lack of confidence on your part and makes your chances of getting that
really hot girl, virtually impossible.
Despite what you saw on the Big Bang Theory, you are NOT gonna get a girl by constantly
pestering her with an immature attitude like that … the best you can hope for is probably
a restraining order.
The second you start to categorize girls into “leagues” … like “girls I CAN get”
on the left, and “girls I CAN’T get” on the right … is the second you totally
ruin your chances with all of those girls.
Because you’re telling yourself that you can only go for “lower tier” girls than
the ones you actually want.
And that’s a complete confidence killer.
For example, I get a lot of messages from guys on my Instagram saying shit like, “I
like this girl and I really wanna talk to her but she’s out of my league because she’s
a solid 8 and I’m only a 6, how can I talk to her?”
You mean to tell me that just because you’re average looking you’re ONLY going to go
after average looking girls??
NO!
You go after WHOEVER YOU WANT!
My point of view on the idea of “leagues” is simple:
IM MOTHAFUCKIN BASED ZEUS, I CAN GET ANY GIRL I WANT, AND THAT’S IT.
I never think a girl is out of my league, because if anything I’M OUT OF HER LEAGUE.
Either we’re in the same league, or I’m above her league.
I don’t even understand, how it’s possible, for someone to be out of my league like what
does that even mean?
If I see a girl I wanna talk to, I just go up and do it, no hesitation.
You should NEVER confine yourself to something that’s LESS than what you ACTUALLY want.
This applies to girls, and to everything in your life.
Pursue what you want, and if you don’t get it the first time you try, keep working at
it until you get it.
And, just to be clear, I don’t mean keep pursuing the same girl over and over for the
next 10 years until you get her - I mean keep pursuing whichever girls you want, regardless
of whether they’re hot, ugly, average, popular, unpopular, smart, stupid, cheerleaders, volleyball
players, chess club captains, or whatever.
Go for what you want.
Never settle.
Being confident around girls is a self-fulfilling prophecy, if you don’t think you can get
a girl then that’s it, you can’t!
You’ll act all nervous around her, you won’t believe you’re good enough for her, she’ll
pick up on that - because girls do have very good intuition for judging guys who come at
them - and you’ll fail really quickly.
Epic one-liner coming up: “How can you convince a girl that you’re worth liking if you don’t
even like yourself?”
However, if you are confident in yourself and say “fuck the league” then you’re
already WAY ahead of the guys who aren’t confident and are too focused on what fucking
league they’re in.
Don’t put yourself down.
Being confident will actually boost you into a higher league anyway - if you still want
to see things in terms of leagues.
Being confident will boost you up to a higher tier, because confidence is attractive, assertiveness
is attractive, being straightforward is attractive, and so on, whereas putting yourself down,
being negative, complaining, being needy, and other stuff like that, is UNATTRACTIVE.
Guys who BELIEVE they’re in lower leagues, ARE in lower leagues, but only because THEY’VE
PUT THEMSELVES THERE!
It’s all in your mind.
Whatever you believe is the truth.
Now, you might be thinking, “yeah but, girls who are really popular, they know they’re
hot and popular and they’ll look down on me if I try to get them because they know
they’re cool and I’m not.
That’s just how it works.”
WRONG!
That’s just how it works for MOST GUYS because that’s how they BELIEVE it’ll work, and
so like I said, it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy.
If you approach a girl in a way that conveys the attitude that she’s above you, then
guess what, she is.
If you approach the same girl in a way that doesn’t convey shit, you’re just a guy
having a good time and she happens to be there and you’re talking to her, then she can
be 5 points hotter than you but if that’s not the vibe you set then that’s not the
vibe that GETS set.
In all honesty, I’m not some Channing Tatum looking motherfucker, looking back on it,
in high school I was probably around a 7 out of 10.
And I went out with girls who were 7’s, and I went out with girls who were 8’s,
and girls who were 9’s, and girls who were 10’s, and I didn’t give a fuck.
I never even thought about giving myself a rating back then, because it didn’t matter.
“Do what you want to do, and if somebody tries to tell you you can’t, then that person
is a fucking loser.