Before I could react, she turned and her dentures fell into her plate, now that was funny.
[laughing] Rank for me in order, from most important to least important, family support,
financial, fertility.
I’d have to say number one would be family support, number two is fertility, and last
is financial.
To be honest it was hard for me to say fertility as number one, because that’s probably my
biggest priority right now, obviously in the big picture and you know for the past 5 years
family support’s been number one.
But right now coming up to 5 years of my cancer diagnosis and treatment, fertility’s high
on my priority list.
Okay I would say family support, most important, second financially, then third fertility.
So family support became first for me because I definitely would not have gotten through
this without them.
I’d say family support, fertility, financial.
I don’t think I would have been as strong if it weren’t for my family and my support
system.
Family support, and financial because I really want to help my parents with their finances,
and then fertility.
The family is really high number one, they did so much for me, sacrificed for me.
Yeah, I’d say family number one, financial number two because everything else will mend
that way.
I chose family because obviously at the end of the day, money doesn’t matter.
It’s just financial for me, fertility is not on my radar.
I come from a single parent household so the whole family dynamic is a little different.
I’m not the most family oriented person but my mom was there for me throughout everything
even in certain situations even when she felt uncomfortable seeing me in my sickened state,
she was still there throughout everything, she didn’t cry at all, I felt like because
she was so strong throughout the whole thing, that kept me strong.
I’m going to sound superficial here I’m going to say financial, and then followed
up with fertility, and then family.
I have, how do I put this politely, I didn’t realize how bad my situation was until I met
other survivors and heard their stories.
Where, my family wasn’t there, they did not know what to do, they went into assume
crash position, and completely utterly helpless.
Now since then things have got better, but during treatment, I had no one to rely on.
And I hear these stories, and I think it’s wonderful that everyone’s had this experience,
where I did not have overbearing parents, or even remotely I don’t want to say the
word interested, but helpless, and they didn’t know what to do.
And the silver lining to all that is had it not happened like that, I would not appreciate
what it means to do things like this.
Where I do the peer support and I don’t want them to go through what I went through.
It’s interesting how this is now a repsresentative spectrum, really good, and then Peter’s
just got really crappy.
But, [Thomas] you have me now, I know I do, my interpretation of family is I mean, my
immediate family didn’t really care.
But it was my other people around me that did, and it’s all about this family that
you create your own family.
People like Peter, you know what I said before, for instance, before cancer, I met my real
family now, and it’s relationships like this, and community based things that we can
do where you meet the people that understand you and then they become your family and you
can build your own foundation.