Tripp Kramer here from www.trippadvice.com. On today's video, let
me teach you exactly what to do when you get rejected. We're going to be going
over a really cool practical technique that I have used, that I have taught all
of my students when I'm coaching them and something that I will be teaching
you today. I know rejection is, to say the least,
very very hard to deal with. It's very emotional, it's very scary, it
just brings out a lot of things in us that we don't want to be feeling.
It makes us feel like there's no hope for the future. Maybe you're not thinking
this on a conscious level, but that's why it's so painful. You get rejected from a
girl you think, well it's never going to work out for me and if I get rejected
now I'm going to get rejected in the future. This is the negative part
of what I call reference experience. A reference experiences is being
able to have experiences, going out meeting girls and then referencing them.
And of course, if all your references are negative, meaning that you got rejected
or you look at it in a negative way, then this isn't very helpful. Let me get
into what you can do to reverse this, make all the rejections positive and if
you follow this technique, it actually will help you get more girls. What
happens when you get rejected? What happens is all the negative thoughts
about yourself come up. I said a second ago, we want to reverse this.
Instead of thinking negative thoughts, you might be thinking, oh Tripp think
you know positive thoughts. No, we're not going to go that route. That's
a little too cliche and that doesn't always work. Instead, we're going to go a
little bit more of an analytical route. I believe that meeting women is a skill. It
is a skill. It's something that can be practiced because it's about socializing.
It's about being good with people. It's about being charismatic. It's about being
confident and being that it's a skill, it's something you can practice. So with all
that being said, when you get rejected what you want to be doing is looking at
where you potentially made errors. Now we're thinking about rejection in more
of a neutral way. That's what we're doing. It's not about it being negative or
not even so much positive, but just be neutral and say hey okay this happened,
it's a fact, I'm not going to let it affect me and instead, I'm going to take
this fact of being rejected so to speak, not that I really condone using that
word too much because it has a negative connotation, but it's about
looking at it and thinking what can I do better next time? Is there anywhere or
maybe I screwed up. Could you have continued the conversation a little bit
longer? Did you say something that made her a little bit turned off? Can we
look back at your interactions with these women and see what it was it got
you rejected? Let's be honest, it's not like you're going to look back and
think that you could have done everything right and it would have gone the
way you wanted it to. That's not necessarily going to happen. You
can't attract every single girl you come across, but you can still work on
becoming a better version of yourself and by doing this, really working on the
skill of interacting and approaching women and this in turn will get you more
women. Here's what I want you to do. Every time you get rejected, let's just
say every time you don't accomplish the goal of getting her number or moving the
interaction forward, think what can I do better and you also think what did I do
really well? This analytical thinking even writing this stuff down is going to
make you analyze it in such a way where you're going to progress. You're going to
get better. So imagine any other skill, say you were rock climbing and
you know you couldn't get to the top one day and you had a really hard route up
to the top. Maybe you can look back at that and say what could I have done better?
Where could I have grabbed a different rock? Where could I have moved in a
different way? Should I have started in a different way by using more of my arms
and my legs? All these different things. Also, be very careful here.
We don't want to overanalyze. I don't want you to be completely over analyzing
everything. If you look back on the interaction and think, hey I can't find
anything, everything seems like it went the way it should have but it still
didn't work out. What's okay. You chalk it up to the fact that that
was an interaction that was never meant to be and that is not because you are a
crappy person, because you're a loser, it had nothing to do with that. It just wasn't
the right girl for you and that's where you can bring in some of those more
realistic and positive thoughts. I promise you, if you start to do this it's
going to help so much. What you can do is you can come back to this YouTube
channel and you can do some more research or you can go through my
programs or some of my free stuff and you can use all of that to
with the reference experiences. If you don't know what you did wrong when you
can look back in the material, look back at all this YouTube and then you can see
oh I should have done this a little better, oh I could have done that a little better. That's
where the studying and the actual action come into play together which is going
to make you really amazing at being able to get the girl that you truly want.
Here's another way to work with some of these reference experiences.
Come join me every single week on my facebook live. It's completely free. I do
a live every single week where you can come on and ask me questions and we can go
over some of those interactions that you've had with women. I'm gonna put a
link down in the description below. It's just facebook.com/trippadvice.
You'll get notifications if you like the page on the live shows that I do
every single week so I can help you out. Go check that out, comment below in
terms of maybe you have an experience right now where you got rejected and
maybe you can help us help you in terms of figuring out what you did wrong so
you can get better. Go to that and I will see you on the next video.