Hello everyone. Welcome to the class I'm your tutor for the day and my name is Michelle.
You know there are times, when our loved ones are really hurt and we want to encourage them
with some really good words. But we are mostly looking for such phrases. If you also feel
the same way, then this lesson is for you. Yes, because in this lesson, we are going
to learn some new phrases about how to encourage somebody.
So the phrases written here in black. These are the phrases that you can use to encourage
somebody, who has not yet taken a decision which is risky or difficult. So let's look
at the first one here, Give it a try. This phrase, let me give you a situation, so you
have a friend, who knows how to drive, she's never driven on a highway before and you are
along with her, your'e the one driving and you stop the car and you tell her, Why don't
you try and let's go on the highway and she's really scared and you wanna encourage her,
then you can obviously tell her, It's fine I'm next to you. You can always give it a
try. The second phrase is here, It's worth a shot. You know It's worth a shot. This phrase
also has a similar meaning like, Give it a try. Let me give you a situation, so your
friend is appearing for an exam and here she is really scared that they might just fail
the exam. But that's not going to affect anything, because it's just a competitive exam. So you
can always tell them, It's worth a shot. Your'e not losing anything. Moving on to the third
phrase, What do you have to lose? This is a very interesting phrase, What do you have
to lose? Lose, because in this situation the person has not yet taken a decision, so let
me, let's say that somebody we know maybe your friend likes a girl and he wants to propose
to her, but he's really scared, so you know he's thinking whether to propose or not to
propose? And he comes to you for an advice, so what do you tell him? What do you have
to lose? Even if she says no it's fine, your'e not losing anything and at all if she says
yes then you surely have something to gain. So this phrase here, what do you have to lose?
Basically means, you have nothing to lose at all and you could go ahead with the decision
even if you fail it's fine.
The forth phrase here, You might as well. Hmmm, What do you think we mean by might?
In terms of possibility may is used when the possibility of achieving something is really
high. But might is used when the possibility of achieving something is really low, so your
classmate has given this exam and she has an exam and you also have exam. She calls
you up at night, she's like, You know I'm really scared about the exam, what do I do?
I have not prepared well, I was caught up in this that blaaaah, blaaaaah. You don't
know what to say? So you can always tell her, you might as well just clear it. Sorry to
say there are lesser chances, but the fingers are crossed. Don't ever tell her that, Shhhh.
You just say, You might as well, so here might signifies that the chances are really low. We've already
looked at these four phrases and these four phrases can be used for decision that is risky
or dangerous. With this we move on to the second bunch of phrases written in blue here,
so these phrases can be used when somebody is in the middle of a very difficult situation,
when someone is in the middle of a storm. Middle of a difficult situation. The first
example for that we have is, Hang in there. For this let me tell you something that has
happened with me, My cousin she studies in a medical school and she has to study really
long hours and she has lot of exams to give, so often she calls me and tells me, You know
I have to study so much, you have no idea. I'm burning the midnight lamp and I'm spending
all nights studying and what do I tell her? All that I can tell her is just, Hang in there,
It's fine you'll get across, you'll cross the stream and very soon, your'e going to
bare the fruit of your hard work. So if you have a friend like that or if you know anybody
like that, then you can always tell them, Hang in there. The second phrase here, Never
say die. So let's take a very interesting example for this, You are in the middle of
a football match and your team is losing the match. What do you tell your team mates? Of
course, Never say die or Keep fighting. Why? Because your'e trying to win the match, so
you don't have to lose and you can always say, Never say die or Keep fighting.You can use it in a football match or any other
match or any other situation. The third phrase here, Keep pushing. Of course you know about
the push ups that we do in the gym, they're very hard. Yes they are, so let's just say
that, there's somebody in the gym, whom you know very well and that person is sort of
out of shape and you wanna encourage them to work harder. They are like, No it's too
tiring, It's too tiring, I'm just gonna stop and then you tell them, No It's fine just
keep pushing. It's just twenty minutes to go. So you can always say, With you know a
time marker saying that, Keep pushing. Maybe just twenty minutes to go or five minutes
to go, so here you can say it with time marker that would be definitely more effective. Because
when you know the end line, you work harder towards the finishing line.
With this we come to the third set of phrases for today. We've already looked at two sets
of phrases that you can use to encourage somebody. Here is the third set of phrases that you
can use to encourage your friend. So these phrases can be used in a situation, where
you cannot say yes and you cannot say no. And there you need to give sort of diplomatic
answer. Although your'e hundred percent with that person in whatever decision they take,
which your'e not going to tell them, You take this decision or you take that decision. So
it means no agreement and no disagreement. No agreement and no disagreement. But do remember
your'e with that person in every decision they take, so this is a very supportive set
of phrases that you can use to support somebody. Starting with the first one here, I'll support
you either way. The word support kindly focus on that, so if your sister god forbid is going
to file for a divorce and she asks you for an advice. I'm sure you wouldn't want to say
either yes or no. So what would you say in that situation. You might just say, I'll support
you either way, whatever way you go I'm with you. The second one here, I'm behind you 100%.
So this is very positive statement, where your'e supporting somebody, so your employee
in the department, he manages, he wants to change a policy and you agree with that policy.
So what do you tell him? You tell him, I'm behind you 100%. The policy is quite good
and we can go ahead with it. The third one here, It's your call. Call this word here
also says that you are doing hands up and your'e like okay, I'm not saying anything.
You decide what you want to do, so your girlfriend she's going for shopping for a you know used
car and she asks you that which one should I buy? Should I buy this one or should I buy
that one? Your'e like I don't know, It's your call. It will be better if you don.t say,
I don't know, so just go ahead with It's your call. The forth set of phrases here, Lets
just read the first one, Follow your dreams. Wow!! this obviously talks about the dreams
you take at night, Ohhh they are pathetic, Are they? Mine are quite good, I'm not talking
about them. I'm talking about dreams, day dreams. The dreams that you have in your life
to achieve something, those dreams. Follow your dreams. You can use these phrases for
inspiring somebody. I'll write for you here, inspiring somebody. Most commonly such phrases
are used in speeches, so of course if you giving a speech, you can always use these
phrases and when your'e writing, It's better to use these phrases particularly if they
re slightly towards a formal piece of writing. Follow your dreams. Let me give you a situation,
It's not actually a situation, real life situation for me. I have this friend, who's like awesome
at painting. She's really good and she paints so well, but then she's actually caught up
in a 9 to 5 corporate job. And she's left with no time for painting and It's been two
years that she's not really painting too much. Although she's painting and she always shows
me, she's also sort of an introvert, so she's not very keen on exhibiting her painting.
I always tell her you can continue with your job, but you must follow your dreams. Don't
stop you must achieve what you've dreamt for. The second one, Reach for the stars. This
is so nice, Iv'e always heard my dad saying that to me, Reach for the stars, don't stop.
You know you can achieve whatever you set your mind too, so even when I was quite young.
I always liked the profession of a teacher and here I am today, because my dad always
told me, Reach for the stars and I did exactly what he told me. Let's look at the third phrase,
Believe in yourself and others will be forced to believe in you. Of course, so this phrase
is more appropriate for a person, who has lost hope or who's lost hope that they are
capable of achieving anything. So if somebody's lost their job and they are saying that they
are not capable of achieving anything and they are all down and sad and sulky about
themselves. You can always tell them, Believe in yourself, It's fine. You can do it, so
you can always add to it, You can do it. And that goes out for most of you watching this
video, Believe in yourself, you can surely learn English, It's no big task. The forth
phrase here, Sky is the limit. The best example would be my painter friend. I always tell
her, Please put your paintings online, because out there on the web, Sky is the limit. There
is no end, there will be people watching your paintings and appreciating them and you'll
definitely be encouraged.
So with this video, we've definitely learnt so many new ways of encouraging a friend.
And it won't be good, if your friend is still sad or sulky after you learning all these
phrases. So please go encourage them, bring a smile on to their face and that would definitely
bring a smile on your face as well. Thank you so much for your time, I hope to see you
again with a new video next time and probably even more encouraging, interesting topic.
Till then you take care and miss me. Bye