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this is Damon Cart from NLP Gym how to
manipulate people NLP mind control
part two this is the second video in a
series of three videos if you haven't
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videos on a regular basis so the first
video i did about manipulating people
was sort of a disclaimer sort of telling
you what i mean by the manipulation and
how it's something we all do and it's
really about understanding that and then
getting clearer about what you're doing
when you're manipulating people so that
you can do it in a much better way and I
know much more ecological way where
you're not taking advantage of someone
they don't he originally started as
modeling incredible therapists three in
particular that was Fritz Perls, Virginia
Satir and Milton Erickson the reason
but John Grinder and Richard Ballard
shows these therapists is because they
were these are therapists who were not
so much interested in theory and much
more interested in getting results and
at the time to sort of put them on the
fringe of psychology because at that
time psychology with more about theory
and basically arguing over which theory
was better than the other and these
three therapists kinda through that
stuff out a new theory but they were far
more interested in what got them results
what these three therapists also had in
common was their incredible ability to
manipulate their clients and moving them
toward their own solutions and solving
their own problems and they did this
through their use of language and
psychogeography which is the spatial
relationship between two or more people
and also the people's physiology the
founders of NLP John Grinder Richard
Bandler were able to model this from
these therapists and then replicate the
results by implementing the model what
they discovered was that they didn't
need to go through years of psychology
training to have the same sort of
results with clients as these therapists
were having they also discovered that
this could be used for much more than
just therapy this could be used in many
areas so how does this all work well the
first thing is to know where you want to
bring the person you're manipulating
persuading are influencing start with
the end in mind most people who are
doing some sort of persuasion
manipulation or influencing don't have a
very clear idea in sensory experience
meaning they see and hear where they
want this to go where they want to
persuade someone to where they want to
move someone they don't have a clear
idea of this normally well a lot of
people do whenever they go into a
situation whether its cells are some
type of negotiation where they're
wanting to manipulate or persuade is
what's on their minds of fear of
rejection they're thinking what they
don't want what they don't want is to be
rejected so they go into these
situations with that on their mind and
so what happens is even though they
don't know what your objective they sort
of move themselves naturally in that
direction because that's what they're
thinking about what you want to do is
you want to flip this you want to be
focused on what where it is you want to
bring the client sure you can
acknowledge that you may have this fear
on this not wanting to be rejected but
if that's what's on your mind mostly if
that's what you're thinking about more
than anything else you're probably going
to move in that direction and that's
what you don't want to do so you want to
move in the direction of where you want
to take this person next thing you want
to do is build rapport with someone and
that's where the mirror and matching in
the sensory acuity and calibration comes
in that is usually the first skills that
were taught in an NLP training
this creates some sort of sense of
familiarity with the person you're
persuading and this is beginning of
trust and eventually they'll start to
trust you more and more
it's also the point of no return now
what do I mean by that
this is where you introduce the
possibility
betraying this person so you want to be
very careful about what you doing here
when a person starts to trust you and
then you decide to start leading them
where you want them to go which is where
the persuasion happens a lot of times
people are only thinking about their own
needs
they're not thinking about again ecology
what is needed what are the needs of the
system where the needs of the other
person where the needs of this
interaction and a lot of times
what's your cells people really go wrong
and usually the amateur cells types is
there only thinking about getting the
cell and then running running away out
of fear that the person is gonna want
their money back and they're gonna want
to return whatever it is that they
bought their going to complain
this is not a terrible approach if
you're a salesperson or if you're
negotiating are influencing or
persuading anyone the best thing to do
is to treat this person like a client
and not treat them just like a temporary
client treat every client like they're
going to be a life-long client meaning
you are now accountable for what you're
telling this person and what you're
promising for the rest of your life that
this person will likely come back for
more that this person has any troubles
with what it is you're the product or
service that you're selling them you're
here you will you will be here you won't
answer for that if that person comes
back and has an issue a problem or
complaint when you treat everyone even a
person who is only buying one thing from
you and only that one thing that
probably won't buy anything else but
when you treat them as if they're going
to be a lifelong client the tendency is
that they kind of fall into that and
they're more likely to buy something
else from you
they're also more likely to be on your
side if they only by that one thing and
something goes wrong they're not going
to come back at you yelling and
screaming and asking for a refund
they will have the sense that you're
going to help them you're going to get
them the outcome that you promised our
guarantee with that product or service
this not only applies to cells they can
even in terms that is a dating if you
treated every person who you date even
if it you go on one date
it's not a good
it but you treat this person like
they're going to be a friend of yours
for the rest of your life you're going
to create some amazing relationships
with people if you're only thinking
about a person of whether or not
attracted to them whether or not they're
going to give me what I want whether or
not we're a good fit and you just leave
it at that you are handicapping yourself
you could have an incredible social life
just by treating everyone you need
everyone you can date with everyone you
ask out as if you're going to be friends
for life you're going to get into a
relationship with this person or you're
at least going to be friends for the
rest your life will make incredible
relationships connections and if it's
you know more about sales then you will
you will network like no one else you
will make incredible connections that
people trust you and they will want to
be around you
this is the second video in a series of
three so to be continued
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with these three therapists also had in
common with what these three therapists
also had in common was the ability to
manipulate their clients into finding
their own solutions and solving their
own problems with these three therapists
also had in common was their own
problems with these therapists also had
in common was incredible ability they
have people
god dammit what these three therapists
also have in common was their incredible
ability to manipulate you