- Have you ever been serious about a guy
but wasn't really sure if he was serious
about you and your relationship?
If so, then you are absolutely not alone.
This is one of the most requested videos
that I get from you sexy, single ladies,
which is, how to know if a guy is actually serious
about you and a relationship, keep watching.
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What's up all you sexy, single ladies?
Adam Lodolce from sexyconfidence.com
where I help you create your love story
and I'm here to break some
very, very bad (beep) news for you,
most relationships don't last very long.
According to a recent study,
60% of couples who are together for less than two months,
we're still together a year from now.
So basically, the new guy that you're dating,
if it's within the first two months of dating him,
it's likely not going to work out.
Then, of course, once you make it to that first year,
the chances of that relationship lasting
for a longer time goes up significantly.
So let me jump into those five signs
that a guy is serious about a future with you,
so that you can invest your time
and energy into the right places.
Sign number one is that he is authentically very curious
about you and who you are.
So if you're in a new relationship with a guy
and you're out with him,
I want you to really get a feel
for whether or not he is authentically listening to you
and he's asking questions
and he's really curious about your personality,
your background, your desires, your values, your future,
all of these things,
versus is he just asking you questions to get laid
or, of course, maybe there, somewhere in between.
I will say this,
back in my 20s
when I was not interested in a serious relationship,
when I would go out with women,
I wasn't really diving deep.
I would try to keep it at surface level as possible
because I really didn't wanna give off this impression
that I wanted something more.
Sign number two is that he wants
to spend quality time together.
Look, if every time you meet up with this guy,
it is at the night club or it's at some bar at 12 P.M.
Because he just finished drinking
with all his buddies and was trying to meet other women,
that is not quality time.
On the other hand,
if he is inviting you to a park
or spending time with you during the day
or even just taking you out to a nice dinner
with no strings attached
and he's not just always trying
to get you back to his place,
then I would consider
that to be quality time spent together,
this stuff really matters.
Sign number three is that he asks your opinion
about things going on in his life.
Once you're in a healthy relationship,
really, your partner should become, ultimately,
your most trusted advisor
and as a guy gets more serious with a woman,
he's going to come to you with the (beep)
that's going on in his life
and he's going to ask your thoughts
on how he should deal with it.
By the way, the same thing goes for you,
if you're in a new relationship,
or of course, a long-term relationship,
you should also be going to him with questions
and asking his opinion
on how you should deal with things in your life,
this is why a great relationship makes you a better person.
Sign number four is that he's honest
and willing to have very difficult conversations with you.
When people lie in a relationship,
whether they know it or not,
that is really a short term focus
because you can't continuously lie in a relationship
and expect it to work out in the long-term.
However, if you're with a guy
who is more mature and he is focused on the future
and really building a life with someone,
he will have a real, honest, open dialog with you,
if he (beep) up or does somethin'
that you don't want him to do
and he does it anyways,
and he realizes he makes the mistake,
he'll have an honest dialog with you
because he's willing to take that short term hit,
that short term feedback and that pain and that fight,
in order to be with you in the long-term.
Relationships are really difficult,
especially when there's conflict
and the best thing you can be looking for is a guy
who can just be straight with you.
And finally, sign number five,
is that you're both slowly combining your lives together.
As a relationship becomes more serious,
you kinda go from having
these two very separate, distinct lives,
social lives where you're living,
where you spend your time,
what did you like to do for fun
but as the relationship gets more serious,
your lives really do combine.
So there you have it there,
the five signs and I wanna ask you,
have you ever been in a long-term relationship
with a guy who didn't display any of these signs.
How did it go?
Leave a comment right there below
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that will help you through every single stage of dating,
from finding love, to keeping love,
to overcoming heartbreak,
to even building an attractive lifestyle.
Thank you so much for watching.
I'll speak to you,
you sexy, single lady, next week, bye bye.
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