- So you're dating a guy,
or maybe he's your boyfriend,
or even your husband.
You have been chatting over texts,
or perhaps to send him a message first
and he did not reply back.
It has been a few hours, a few days
or even a week or more
and you're wondering why he has not responded
and most importantly, what you should do about it.
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- One of the reasons that men actually
don't text you back, for a while
or maybe even until you text them
is because they've learned
from other dating coaches in particular,
that they can punish you
and you won't like the fact that
they're not texting you back.
So they use this as a way to punish you.
So this is why it's so important that when a woman is
you know, receiving no contact from a man
meaning he's not texting you, that you don't chase him
especially if there could be a possibility that
he's punishing you.
Men will usually do this
if they feel like
a woman has done something that they don't like,
she's not chasing them enough
or, you know, you've chased them a bit too much
and then all of a sudden you've started to pull back
and now he's pulling back too just to punish you.
So, just be very mindful of this
and just don't chase him.
- Have you been too keen?
Maybe you've been chasing him too much.
Were you sending texts like,
"I miss you, where are you?
Hello, how's your day?"
Or, "When can I see you next?"
Ladies this might be turning him off.
In fact, it probably is.
If you're the one doing these things
he's gonna think you're needy.
You need to take a step back
and think if you've been chasing him, try to think,
have I done these things?
A man wants a challenge.
He doesn't want what comes easily.
So if you're the one doing the chasing, listen up,
a man needs to chase after you,
I'll give you an example,
there was a girl who chased after her guy
and they had been dating for about a few weeks,
maybe two or three
and she chased after him so bad that finally
after only a couple of weeks
he decided he didn't wanna really respond to her,
he didn't wanna text her back,
he didn't wanna see her
and she was begging, "Can you please call me,
when can I see you again?
Are you not that interested in me anymore?"
Just ladies think about whether you're doing these things.
A man who doesn't view the woman as a challenge,
will get bored.
- He is playing games
and wants you to chase more.
He is enjoying his ego stroke,
maybe you send him a message
and it is making him feel very, very good
and now he is holding on to that message thinking,
well, I'm not going to respond for awhile
and maybe she will get so insecure
but she will double text.
Ladies nowadays there are so many dating coaches online
who coach men not to respond to your texts for even a week
or two in order to make her feel insecure, promising
but if you do do that,
she will come after a man begging
and pleading for his love.
So what do you do?
Well, if you texted him first, then just leave it
and let him get back to you in his own free time.
Yeah, if you are in a relationship
and he started to play these games,
if you don't want to let him go for these games,
well it is time to at least set in some boundaries
and how to do that, check out my video right here.
- Another reason that men don't text you
is because they're in a pulling away.
Now this usually happens after
you've either spent time with him in person
and you've had a lot of loving time together
or even if you've not met him in person,
you guys have had a lot to talk about,
you've been talking quite a bit
and he just wants a break.
He just wants to concentrate on other things,
he needs to basically go away from you,
build up his testosterone again, miss you
and then eventually he will come back and text you again.
But in the meantime, the key is don't run after him,
give him the space.
If a man is giving you space
or he is taking space, give it to him,
don't ask him why, don't question it, just give it.
- Here's another big reason ladies.
He's just busy, he's got a life, he's working,
he's maybe going to school, maybe he's at the gym,
maybe when he gets home from the gym
he's tired and wants to take a shower and eat,
maybe he's just busy.
We love a guy who's busy.
So let's take that into account
and you should be busy too.
No matter what, we have to let the guy do his own thing.
Hopefully he's a busy high value guy,
we love that.
So ladies, just let the guy come to you on his own time.
- He is only replying when it is convenient for him.
So if a guy is using you, for example
you need to have plus minute at his place for fun only.
Well then there is no reason for him to text
or reply to you in between,
as he is not interested in you as a person
or what you have to offer besides fun.
So he only texts you on his terms to have some fun
and leaves you hanging in between
because he simply doesn't care and is using you.
- Another reason why men don't text you back
is because, he's maybe going through a tough time.
Now we as women, when we process our emotions
we can do that and multitask
and do a bunch of different things.
Men are a bit more linear in their focus where it's like
they deal with one issue at a time.
So if they're dealing with something
which is emotionally burdening them
they will go away into their man cave,
they will take time away from you,
they're gonna try and solve their problem,
they're gonna try and process their emotions
and they're gonna try and do it
without interference from anybody else.
It could be that he's sick,
it could be that, you know
he's got a tough time going on at work,
it could be that he's got family problems.
The point is if he's taking space,
and you know that there's something going on
or even if you don't know if there's something going on
maybe you'll find out later
that there was something going on,
maybe you won't know either way
if he's giving you space
and he's taking his space, give him the space.
Sometimes what will happen is a man will come back
after a week or two
and he'll just be like, "I'm so sorry."
You know, I've had all of this going on
and I'm not saying it's a legitimate excuse
but this is just the way that a lot of men deal with things.
So, the point is don't chase him,
give him space when he takes it.
- Another reason why he may not be texting you back.
He's just not that afraid to lose you,
for whatever reason he's not that invested in you right now.
He could be keeping his options open,
maybe he just hasn't fallen for you yet
or maybe he just doesn't see you as a good fit.
All of these reasons, you do not blame yourself.
Sometimes guys are just not the right fit for us
and that's okay.
But, keep in mind, when a man is not afraid to lose us,
we've got to let him be,
we have to remain the queen that we are,
we don't chase after him,
we don't do any of that stuff, we just let him be.
No matter what, we do not try to convince him otherwise.
A man who was afraid to lose us, won't let us go.
An example was one of the ladies in our VIP group,
she was kinda chit chatting with this guy on a dating app
and he would send her, "Oh, let's meet up."
And she would say, "Yeah, okay."
And then he would never make a plan
and then he would kinda go surf for like a month or two
then he would show up again, "Oh, let's make a plan."
And eventually she realized
this guy's just really not invested in me,
who knows what's going on?
And she just went on with her life.
It doesn't matter why, he just wasn't that invested.
- He is taking you for granted.
If you totally head over heels in love with him
and you are showing it by constantly putting him first,
trying to please him by going out of your way for him,
you put him as a priority in your life,
you are the first to apologize in the arguments
even if he was wrong,
you are giving him a green light to mistreat you
and to take you for granted.
There is no point for him to reply to you
or even charm you during texts
as he knows, he already has you
and you will be there desperately waiting for his reply.
And when the man feels this, a lot of times
he wants to tease you even more
as it makes him feel more powerful.
Obviously, this is very, very unhealthy yet at the same time
and you being desperately and do everything for a man
he starts to lose his attraction for you
because he's attraction for you is going on a low
he doesn't see the risk of replying to you late
as he is not that scared to lose you.
Please watch my video right here.
What to do when he is taking you for granted.
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