Hey there, Ronnie coming at you, and I'm going to teach you about hanging out with your friends.
I don't think I need to teach you that, I think you know how to do that.
But some phrasal verbs, yeah, phrasal verbs, some expressions we have, and some social
clues that you're going to need to pay attention to if you go to somebody's house, because
sometimes if you go to somebody's house and you hang out, it's time for you to leave,
and people will do certain things to maybe not say, but to let you know it's time to
get out of my house because I want to go to sleep.
And maybe you're a house guest, or maybe you're hosting a party.
Hosting a party means you have your friends at your house, or you're the host to someone
who has the party at their house, or has friends at their house.
Maybe you're the host, and you want your guests to leave.
Personally, I just fall asleep, and I'm like, I'm going to bed, bye, but I'll teach you
different phrases and different ways to get them out in a less direct way, just to be
nice.
I'll just do it my way, and oh, oh, nope, we're here.
Okay, so phrasal verbs, here we go.
Drop in and drop by, these are the same.
Please, I don't know why we use a different preposition with in and by, but you can call
your friend and say, hey, I'm going to drop in tomorrow.
What are you dropping?
Why are you drop...
It just means that you're going to go and visit the person, you're not actually going
to drop something.
You can drop in or drop by.
You can say, yeah, I'm going to drop by tomorrow at about 6.
The other way that we use this phrasal verb is drop off.
Now, you can drop something off.
So let's say that you have a bottle of water that you would like to give your friend because
you're generous like that, and you say, oh, do you know what?
I'm going to drop it off tomorrow.
You can also just say, I'm going to drop off the water tomorrow.
This means you're going to go to their house, give them the water, and then that usually
tells the person you're going to leave at some point.
So you're like, here's your water.
You usually don't hang out for a long time or stay.
Other expressions we use, swing by.
It has nothing to do with a swing.
It just again means you're going to go to the person's house for a short time.
So drop in, drop by, swing by.
You're telling the person, I'm going to come to your house, we're going to hang out for
a little bit, we're going to visit, and then I'm going to leave.
So you know, it's okay, you don't need to make a bed for me or prepare a dinner.
Short visit.
Pop in, same thing.
Oh, I'm going to pop in for an hour.
Okay.
Time limit, perfect.
I know the person's only going to bother me for one hour at my house.
Yes.
So, these phrases, drop in, swing by, and pop in.
Short time, in and out.
Uh-oh.
Now, if somebody wants to hang out, this is where we get into some unknown time limits.
So, if I say to my best friend, hey, do you want to hang out?
And I don't say, do you want to hang out?
I say, do you wanna?
This sounds like marijuana.
So it's going to be sounding like this, do you wanna, do you wanna, hey, do you want
to hang out tomorrow?
Yeah.
Okay.
What time?
Oh, let's say about 1.
Okay.
Usually, when you hang out with someone, there's no time limit.
You don't say, oh, I'm going to leave, one hour, hanging out.
Because hang out is more casual, and you're like, you can do anything you want, really.
So, if you're hanging out with someone, be prepared.
They might stay a bit too long, and you're going to want them to leave.
All of these expressions are going to work in the past, too.
So we can say, oh, you know, oh, he dropped by for, like, 10 minutes, and he was busy,
and he left.
This is weird, too.
He swung by, whoo, he's like, car's in, whoo, just swinging by.
I guess we're all monkeys, really.
He swung by yesterday for a visit, we had some eggnog, and he left, popped, popped.
Say the T, popped.
So, we don't say popped, we say he popped in.
Oh, he popped in for, like, I don't know, like 20 minutes, and then he had to leave.
Maybe people don't like you, and just stay 20 minutes.
But if someone hangs out, or in the past hung out, oh, what did you do yesterday?
Oh, yeah, I hung out with Jen for, like, five hours, we had such a wicked time, we had such
a great time.
We hung out, we went to the movies, we went to her house, we ate some food, it was great.
Do you want to hang out tomorrow?
Yeah, let's do it.
Okay.
We have to be careful with some other words, so hang out is how we speak naturally, right?
If you're kind of an older person, you might use the word "visit", so maybe you would hear
grandparents say, oh, oh, my granddaughter visited me yesterday, it was great.
Or your parents, like, mom, I'm going to come and visit you for a short time, because they're
not hanging out.
So this is kind of an older vocabulary.
You can use it, but just be aware that we mostly say hang out.
Now, play.
Okay?
I've told you about this before.
When we get to a certain age, we do not play with our grandmother, we do not play with
our friends.
Okay?
When you play with someone, it means you're having some kind of sexual relation, so please,
the word "play", don't say it.
I would never call my best friend and say, hey, do you want to play with me today?
Oh, well, friendship boundaries have kind of changed, so be careful.
Don't say play.
Hang out is okay, visit, okay?
These are expressions we have when people stay a bit too long.
The first one, probably the most common one, is people wear out your welcome.
You're welcome.
No, but it doesn't work like that.
If you wear something out, it means you use it too much to the point where it's almost
broken.
So, if you wear out your welcome, oh, when you first get to the...
Oh, welcome to my house, hey, I have some cookies, I made them.
And after a couple hours, you're like, where are the cookies, come on, more cookies.
The cookies are gone.
It's time for you to leave, you've worn out your welcome.
You've eaten all my cookies, you've drank all my booze, it's time to go now.
Okay?
So, if you wear out your welcome, it means you've stayed too long.
Here you go.
Overstay your welcome, so if you've watched videos before, over means too much.
Overstay or wear out your welcome, too long, bye-bye, time to go home.
My mom taught me this expression, thanks, Mom.
After three days, maybe one or two in some cases, after three days, fish and guests begin
to stink.
Maybe because they don't take a shower.
You can see the fish analogy, right?
If you have a fresh fish, one day you should eat it, two days...
Three days, you're like, oh, get that out of here.
It's the same with houseguests.
My mom always taught me a three-day rule.
If you go to somebody's house for three days, perfect.
First day, you're like, oh, it's good to see you.
Second day, you're like, this is fun, this is nice.
The third day, they're like, you're leaving tomorrow, right?
Yeah?
Okay, take a shower, get out.
So, maybe this has happened to you, okay?
You go to the person's house, you're having a great time, and you know it's time for you
to leave.
Now comes the opposite.
Maybe you are the host or the hostess, and you need the person to leave.
My technique?
I told you before.
Well, I'm going to bed.
So, here's the scenario.
You were nice enough, and maybe now regretting, inviting some people to your house to have
a little party, a little get-together.
"Get-together" means, like, a low-key, you know, a small party, and, well, you want to
go to sleep, okay?
You've had enough to drink, you're full, maybe you're feeling sick.
You just want to go to bed, but your guests are still here.
So, you can do what I do, as I said, pretend to be asleep.
Go to sleep, just go, "Oh, bye, I'm going to sleep.
Bye."
But you got to be careful, because some people might try and steal your shit, or they could
try and paint your dog pink.
I don't know.
Do you trust these people alone in your house with you sleeping?
I wouldn't, but this is what you can do.
So you have a choice.
You can be direct.
You can tell the person, "Hey, guess what, guys?
It's time to go home.
Bye-bye.
Please leave now."
That's not your style.
You have to think of more creative ways to do this.
Examples.
I like this part.
Let's say you're having a party at your house, and, like, "Oh, hey, guess what, guys?
We can grab last call at the bar or the pub."
Now, last call, where I live in the land of Toronto, is 2pm, 2am.
So around 11 o'clock...
We have very strict rules in this city that you can't make noise past 11.
So at 11pm, you know, "You know, I got to get these people out of my house because the
neighbours are going to complain, the police are going to show up.
I don't need that."
So it's a really great idea to tell the party, like, "Hey, guys, let's go to Larry's for
last call."
And it's, like, "Ah, more booze.
Hey, guess what?
The people are gone.
It's amazing."
They put on all their coats, their shoes, and they leave.
Yes.
Now's your option.
You can say, "Yeah, yeah.
I'll be there in, like, two minutes.
Yeah."
And you can, like, close the door and then go to bed, or you can go with them, whatever.
So you can jump to a restaurant, "Oh, guys, let's go get some food.
I'm hungry."
"Yeah.
You ate all my cookies.
Let's go get some pizza."
And people, drunk people, love food.
I love food.
"Oh, guys, let's go get a hot dog or something."
"Oh, cool."
Again, it gets the people out of your house.
They might not remember why they left or where they're going, but hey, it's not your problem
anymore.
They can go out to the street, and barf there, and do whatever they want, and they get food.
So they think, "Wow, you know, Ronnie's such a good hostess.
She kicked us out, so we got food.
Hey, it works.
Believe me."
I have a dog, and legitimately, which means really, my dog has to go out and pee.
Right?
So I can say, "Oh, guys, guess what?
You know, it's time for me to take my dog for a walk."
And my dog's like...
"Come on."
Or maybe my dog's like, "No, I don't have to..."
"Shut up, dog.
Don't talk."
My dog doesn't talk.
But the people go, "Oh, do you know what?
Yeah, I guess...
I guess it might be time."
People look at their imaginary watches, because we have phones now, and go, "Oh, what time
is it?"
"Oh, it's time for you to leave, because, like, I mean...
It's time for me to walk my dog, so he's going to go to sleep.
My dog's going to go to sleep now."
If they're smart, they'll catch it.
Now...
Hey, what if you don't have a dog?
Ronnie, I don't...
People don't have...
Well, your cat, your pet hamster is like, "Guess what, guys?
My cat, you know, he's got a very strict bedtime, and my pet hamster really needs his beauty
sleep.
He's got to look like a nice fuzzy, cheeky little hamster in the morning."
So these clues that you give the people, you're not being direct in telling them to leave;
you're dropping hints.
And hints are, like, clues, like, "Oh, I guess we should leave", right?
Another really nice thing you can do is you can offer to walk someone, them, to the bus
or somewhere.
"Hey, can I walk you off the short cliff?"
"No.
Can I walk you to the bus?
Get out of my house."
"Can I walk you to the bus?
The next bus is in 10 minutes.
You don't want to miss it."
These are clues that people go, "Oh, yeah, you know what?
Yeah."
If people say, "No, no, no, I'll get the next bus", you're like, "No, but it's the last...
You have to leave now."
Then you'd be direct.
Remind them of the time.
"Oh, hey.
Wow, guys.
I can't believe it's already 12.
You know, I might change into a pumpkin, so, you know, I got to get my beauty sleep.
It's 12 o'clock.
Yeah.
Let's...
Let's get out of here."
You can do physical things.
You can start to clean the area, like pick up all the beer cans, clear away the glasses.
Start to clean up.
Right?
And people might get the idea that, "Oh, hey, do you know what?
I think Ronnie wants us to leave."
If it's winter or spring or summer in Canada, because we wear coats all the time, you can
physically grab their coats and give it to them, and they go, "Oh, what colour is your
coat?"
"The black one", because everyone has black coats.
You have a black coat.
"Oh, here's your coat."
If you physically get people their coats, they know it's time to leave.
Let's say that you've told the people, you know, like, "Hey, let me walk you to the bus.
My dog has to go pee.
It's 12 o'clock.
Here's your coat."
Everything's cleaned up, and they're still not leaving your house.
You got to get new friends.
Okay?
So don't be this friend.
Okay?
Check yourself.
Don't be this friend that hangs out too long on the couch and eats all the cookies.
You have to understand social cues.
And the next time you go to somebody's house, don't wear out your welcome.
Leave a little early.
It'll give you time to go home and watch some more of my YouTube videos.
I'm Ronnie, and I'm getting out of here.
Cookies are gone.