three steps to quit porn, i'm dr. trish leigh, cognitive neuroscientist and sex
addiction recovery coach okay let's talk about the three main things that you need to do
if you're gonna leave porn behind number one is you must must must admit there's a problem
and i know that's difficult for so many people because there's shades of gray surrounding this
thing and it is so insidious because you are stuck in it and it's impacting you but the number one
thing it impacts is your self-awareness around it so you can't even see that you're sucked in
as you become even more sucked into porn so at those moments and i call it the change point
at that moment when you think to yourself i think this might be a problem that is the time to admit
it to yourself and to someone else and that's why we offer discovery sessions so that you can
schedule one get on a call and you can tell us what's going on with you and we can validate if
this in fact is a problem or if you are the point zero zero zero one percent that it's not a problem
for and if it is a problem we help you do number two make a plan so when you're in a discovery
session we help you figure out what the plan can be the 90-day program that i offer is the plan
just so you know i developed it after making this channel because people need a plan so it's
a comprehensive 90-day plan that walks you through the 90 steps that you need to be able to unwire
that porn brain pattern rewire your brain get the positive feedback loop going and ride off into the
sunset hardwiring that new pattern in but if you don't want to join my program stay with me here
on this channel watch the brain tip strategies at the end of the videos and put together your
own plan when people comment on this channel that that they relapsed or they had a slip i will say
get yourself back up my friend dust yourself off don't let this you know rocking the road trip you
up forever but make a plan you need a plan and this is what the plan should surround physical
mental and emotional transformation because if you do the same thing you get the same result
so things need to change and physically you have to change the way that you use your body
clearly going into porn and masturbating isn't part of that plan secondly mental you have to
change your thought processes you have to tap into how you're feeling mentally in your mind
and physically in your body and when you can feel those things your self-awareness increases and
you're able to see and feel and think about where you are in this journey and that leads you to the
last thing which is emotional transformation and i always call that your true self it's your spirit
it's the real you that's in there that's been escaping into porn this you needs to be able
to get on purpose with the things that you really care about in your life i asked someone last week
who has a very high profile job i said do you enjoy doing that and they're like no
and i'm like well then it's time for change you can't go into a job that you don't enjoy
all day every day you're crushing the soul of your true self so when you set your true self
free when you figure out what that person is when you get on purpose and you're able to move
towards the job that you love being with the people that you connect with and enjoying the
hobbies that you deserve to be able to do to give your brain recovery life changes make that plan
number three is incorporating daily steps for the plan if it's not scheduled it's not real so
when you figure out what your plan is going to be that comprehensive approach
you need to put the daily action steps into place and i would encourage you not to put a million of
them in place on day one only put one or two but put it into your schedule in a sustainable way it
has to be sustainable or you're going to do it for one or two weeks and then you're going to fatigue
and your brain is going to go right back into that stressed out overwhelmed mode and it's
going to lead you into the screen the goal of your comprehensive plan is to take you out of anxiety
and overwhelm and fatigue and bring you your brain into the middle where it's resonating
at the perfect frequency so you feel calm and focused because when you feel common focused
you can stay out of the screen for the rest of your life and love it and that is my goal for you
so the three main things that you need to do to quit porn is to admit to yourself and to
somebody else somebody safe who's emotionally mature that you have a problem so they can hold
you accountable to that number two make a plan and science shows the plan has to have
the right pieces if you want to know what the right pieces are even if you don't want
to join my program go to doctortrishley.com and under porn brain rewire we have a page that says
why porn brain rewire it outlines the 10 lessons in my program and the pieces to it and it will
give you really good hints of what you need to piece together to make your plan by yourself
then when you make that plan figure out how you're going to actualize it in your life schedule it in
the next day and one more hint is to make sure you have a solid morning an afternoon routine
or wherever you're at risk for watching porn put something new into that place in terms of being
able to use your body your mind and your true self okay i hope that helps you out and again go over
to drtrishleigh.com why porn brain rewire check that out and i would love to help you on your
journey if you're looking for it and as always remember control your brain or it'll control you