I'm going to tell you 10 ways to do that in this video.
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So 10 ways.
10 ways to actually negotiate through email with narcissist.
So the first thing that I'm going to tell you
though is it's not really a great idea to do that with Narcissist
and the reason why is because it's really hard to
do and actually get them into a corner with the leverage that you need.
Most of the time, they don't feel like they really
backed into a corner most of the time
and I talked about this in my Slay Program,
the better way to do this is where they
really feel like they're squeezed in a certain way
and most of the time through email,
they haven't been squeezed enough.
So I'm going to talk about these 10 ways when you're negotiating through email.
I'm going to just gonna give you my caveat.
Most of the time it's not the greatest
but if you do these 10 things, then you're at least on the
right track and maybe it will work.
Okay, so let's get into it now.
Alright, alright. So first of all,
because I know you don't like it but
you know, you got to fluff up their ego a little bit because
you know they need that adulation.
So I call it a little bit of bartering,
you know barterings normally, you know a
trade for goods and services but with and with a narcissist.
What do they need the most?
They need you know that narcissistic they want to
fluff up their ego.
So you know, I call it fluff for favor, vomit later
because you know,
I know you want to go vomit because you can't
stand them but it's okay
you give them a little something, something if they want and
you know, and you get a little
something, something that you want
so little friendly introduction, right?
So that's number one.
be clear about what you want and why.
All right.
Make sure that your points you have good points
be able to support them and why.
All right, you need to be in control of what's going on.
Make sure that you've got your leverage ready to go you got it.
Make sure you understand what their points are as well,
you've researched their side also.
You need to make sure that you've kind of given
what their arguments are and why their arguments don't carry any weight.
So what's going to happen to them if they don't play ball.
Okay?
they got to feel like you're trying to be conciliatory
but also that you know,
things are not going to go so nicely for them.
that you're no longer retreating,
you're walking forward now they're not going to like it.
Tantrums are going to start to happen,
but you got to understand that there are certain ways that
narcissists are going to start to respect you.
There's only certain people certain types of people that narcissist respect.
I have a whole lot more on this in my video, certain ways that narcissist respect you.
Certain types of people that narcissist respect.
There's only one way, I got a whole video on that
you definitely need to check out that video.
Don't worry.
You got this.
I want you to right now in the comments.
I got this. No problem, right?
I got this right now, Okay?
You don't want to ask questions. You're telling them how this is going,
right?
New game in town, right?
That's number six.
It's not like, oh, I meant to say
I was going to
No, it's not like that anymore.
Right?
No more victim, you're not defending yourself.
Not doing that. No defending.
You're not attacking anymore.
You're not saying you did this and you did that and
blah, blah, blah.
That's not happening.
No signs of aggression.
You're not looking like you're being aggressive.
You're staying polite but firm.
All right.
If there was anything that happened in the past,
you're not going to be replying to that.
You're not going to do anything
that makes it look like that you were triggered in any way.
You are controlling this process.
You are basically saying here's the offer, that's it.
It's specific,
It's concise, It's to the point being clear about
what you want.
Why you're going to have a deadline in it?
You're going to stay here is when it expires.
This is your new game.
This is how it looks
and why.
This is you being powerful and the next time they come back,
well this that mean.
No. This is it.
This is how it goes now, sign it.
This is the agreement.
This is what I want.
You know, have them sign it.
Make sure that you know
it is what you are now asking for.
This is the bargain.
So, you know you have to make sure that you're coming from a place of power now.
You're not begging, you're not pleading.
there's no vagueness anymore.
That's how you start to negotiate through email.
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Don't you dare ever do that.
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We got this.