Hey guys!
Today, um, as part of my Sex Ed/Sex Talk Stuff Series, I'm gonna be talking about being a trans-posi--no,
a sex-positive trans person.
Ha, "a trans-positive sex person". Mm!
Hwhy, hwhy, hwhy, why am I talking about this?
Well! Um, two years ago, I started a blog with my friend called FTMsextalk.
Bless him for being able to take over most of it, 'cause I've been so busy...
Um, but I'm getting back into it...and that blog is really just focused on us giving advice and information
about sex-related things for FTMs, because there was not really any information out there.
So, I wanted to make a video about...being sex-positive as a trans person, and how you don't have to be...
um, but it's okay if you are.
And you're allowed to still have dysphoria and all that fun stuff, because...you know.
It me.
So I like to, like, think back at my transition.
And I never really had dysphoria related to, like, doing The Sex, like
It wasn't like, a thing for me.
And I guess, eventually, over time, my dysphoria moved from top to bottom.
Because I, um, got top surgery.
And I think it's starting to make me feel dysphoric...and it's weird, because for me, it comes in waves.
So, I could be dysphoric about sex things, and then two months later, I'm like, "I'm fine and dandy".
And it's very strange, and that still happens now.
And I feel like now is a good time to make this video, because I feel like it's a good time for me because I feel sex positive I guess?
...and I don't really have any dysphoria?
I mean, I'm still sex positive when I have dysphoria, I just don't wanna talk about it.
So, yeah.
So being sex positive for me is, like, really important, because I feel like I repressed it for so long...
It felt like I wasn't allowed to, like, talk or like or enjoy or feel things about sex
and I felt like, "oh, because I'm trans, I shouldn't like to have sex with my... *click, click*...hooha... My front area."
And I felt like that was like, inappropriate, but, like, if...come on, come on.
If you've known me over the past years, my views have evolved like crazy
and...it's, like, awesome that I can watch it through the videos and it's cool that I've realized that, like,
"fuck everyone". Literally, like *pop*. Who cares? Who cares about other people?
If you like to use Da Front, and you like talking about Da Sex, then do it.
Do it up.
Talk about it online...you know, there's so many different ways that you could talk about it
and I think that is a fantastic, fantastic thing that we have.
Like, the internet.
What I'm trying to do with this series is provide information.
I've done a lot of sex-related videos in the past, and those are the videos I get like, not like the most views,
but like, people are interested about FTM sex and stuff, so I have a bunch of videos I'm making for this series
on sex and sex education, so there's a video about STIs for FTM, about, uh,
making sure you understand and...whatever...the health of your hooha...
related to like, yeast infections and UTIs and stuff like that, and then, like, seeing doctors about STIs
and, you know, all--all these things that, like, are very like,
"oh, yeah, we don't talk about that and I don't know what to do about that and I don't have any information on that".
Well, from my experience, and the research that I'm doing on all of this stuff, I just thought that I would provide some information
and I really like that I'm doing that, and I'm making videos, like, I made a video about anal a long time ago,
but this is going to be like Anal 101.
Like, I'm gonna talk about, like, specific things, and I'm gonna talk about topping cis men,
and I'm gonna talk about, um, lube, and sex toys, and sex toys for anal specifically,
and sex toys for the front, and like--like, stuff like that.
And I think that I'm really excited for this series because this stuff was never around - and still isn't - um,
and it would be cool to be able to identify with someone else who feels the same,
or maybe has the same experiences as me sex-wise.
Um, I identify as queer, so I'm -- obviously if you're looking at me right now, you--hmm -- I'm very queer.
Visibly queer. And...internally queer...Oh!
So, I mean, I'm just whatever, right? So I'm a squiggly line.
I mean, I just date whatever. Whoever, like..."whatever".
Chase Raw™. Chase...Raw...
But my point is, um, that even when I have dysphoria, I talk about sex
and it's like a different way of talking about sex, like, take the like, "oh, I have dysphoria, let me talk about sex dysphoria".
Dysphoria during sex, and all that other stuff.
And like...Hello!
Um, and I don't--I don't know. I dunno. I dunno.
I know that you are maybe upset that I don't have the cat wall behind me,
but I feel like for these videos - where I wanna put like, information - it's good to have like, a blank background.
Gotta work on that shadow that's right there but that's not for here.
Okay, so my point is, if you - like, I said that a hundred times already - if you have dysphoria,
but want to have sex, I am trying to work on a video right now about that
because y--you--look. We all got them sex drives, some people "no", some people "yes".
and some people wanna have sex, but they just can't, so finding different ways to do it
really, really, really helps me, and it helps me get into a different mental state.
So thinking about, um, like, visualizing a peen that is attached to me
like, permanently, helps a lot sometimes, but then other times I'm like,
"I wanna die 'cause I don't--'cause I--I know I don't have this," so it doesn't always work,
but I find different coping mechanisms.
So that's what I wanna share with you guys, like these things that I have found very helpful for me throughout the years,
and I also wanna talk about just some experiences, because...
Yo, I'm sorry, but like all these people, all these trans guys--like, whatever, I'm friends with them,
that's cool, whatever. Nothing wrong with this.
But they're all straight and they all have, like, girlfriends and wives and shit
and it's like, I--that's fine - except Alex Bertie, I know he's dating a trans guy,
I KNOW, don't comment that, I KNOW - um, but, I'm talking specifically like,
topping cis guys, like--like, I'm not saying
that there's such a difference between cis and trans guys, like I'm not saying that at all
but there is a different way of navigating that dating scene
and like, the way we were socialized and stuff like that.
So, there is a difference in that aspect.
So I think it'd be really interesting to talk about my experiences with that.
Um, and like...I dunno.
I dunno. What do you think?
Am I crazy? Am I just like...I dunno.
And you know what sucks?
Is that sometimes, like, you talk about sex and you, like, talk about--you mention anything related to sex
and people around you are like...confused 'cause they're like, "shouldn't you, like, not use those parts?
Like, obviously you're not a man because you're using those parts."
Really?
REALLY?
Anyways, I can't.
These peop--I--I hate that we, like, listen to people all the time,
and, like, take their bad comments, but then when people say positive things about us
we're just like, "no. I'm not listening."
I wish that it was the reverse and it's not 'cause that's how we were, like, socialized
and that's how society is built, but that's not for here again.
Um...but, yeah. I dunno, I just, I dunno.
I don't know.
I don't like the way that society treats us and I wanna give like a big, like, pfft
about this because I will talk about sex if I wanna fucking talk about sex.
All these like, cis straight people always talkin' 'bout sex 'n shit and I'm, like, here in the corner
like I'm not gonna talk about it?
No.
And I'm gonna talk about it in a way where it's, like, mysterious so they're not asking questions like,
"What do your genitals look like?"
"What do you use?"
"Do you have a penis?"
And things like that.
Ladies and gentlemen, The Penis.
If you don't know where that joke is from, watch the podcast that A-Aaron and I did,
the episode four, we talk about why we say, "A-The Penis".
It was a nurse...pointed as his crotch and said "the penis"...anyways...that's yeah...shh!
Alright, let me know what you think.
Are you sex-positive? Are you, like, sex-no?
And like--like, are you, like, not thinking about that?
Or are you not talking about that? You not wanna talk about that
it makes you dysphoric?
Um, let me know.
This floor is cracking like crazy and I'ma cut somebody so hard.
I'ma cut them...so hard.
Um, like are you asexual? Does talking about sex make you uncomfortable?
Like, I dunno.
Like, let's talk about this.
Like, I--I identify myself as a sex-positive trans guy?
Trans person.
Squiggly line.
Um...'cause that's me.
But, uh, sometimes it could change 'cause dysphoria.
That's it.
I literally said that the whole video, and this has been boring I'm so sorry
I love you, think of bee.
And, uh...
Take a look at the other videos in the Sex Series, and I feel like you'll enjoy it with the squeaky floor...
because this is where, like, these videos are made, so it's like, super...
Of course when I move there's no squeak.
Where's the squeak?
Okay, whatever, have a great week. Love you, bye!