- Hey everybody, I just wanted to take the time
to address all the hate and confusion really
that Shane and I have received for our video together
that came out last Thursday.
If you don't know what video I'm talking about,
I'll link it in the description but first of all,
I want to let you know who I am
if you don't know who I am already.
My name is Kati Morton and I'm a licensed
marriage and family therapist
and I've been creating educational
mental health videos online for almost eight years.
I choose to spend my time doing this
so that anyone who's struggling with a mental health issue
knows that they're not alone
and that there is help available
and to help them feel empowered
to get the help that they need and deserve.
Now that you know just a little bit about me and who I am,
no, I would never intentionally create content
that would ever hurt or upset anyone.
Again, my goal is to educate and empower you
and I was honestly shocked that people were upset
about the video that I did with Shane
because if you don't know how this was set up,
Shane called me and asked if he could come over
and just film me telling him
how I would go about diagnosing a sociopath
and let him know what symptoms they could have.
This was not a session, this was a friend of mine
coming over asking for my expertise
on a diagnosable mental illness.
So I did what any other clinician would do,
I grabbed my DSM which I know many of you
may not even know what that is.
And the DSM is the American Psychological Association's
Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.
Mental health professionals such as myself
utilize this book when we're diagnosing our patients
and trying to get coverage from health insurance.
It can help make sure that we're giving our patients
the right kind of care, understanding their symptoms
and ensuring that their insurance covers the visits
and that's really it.
It's not the end-all be-all,
I've talked about that a lot in my videos
and every country has their own version of a DSM
and many also even in the state of California,
many people also utilize a book called the ICD-10
so just know that that's what that is
and that's why we use it.
Now I know many people have argued
that there is a difference
between psychopaths, sociopaths,
and those with antisocial personality disorder.
But as far as the DSM is concerned,
as well as my training and the research
that I did on the topic, they're all really the same.
The only real diagnosis for these things
is antisocial personality disorder.
However, just like any other mental illness,
everyone will experience it differently.
This means that some people will have all their criteria
while others will only have some.
Also some people can feel like they're born
with a mental illness, not remembering a time
when they didn't feel the way they feel
or just be the way that they are,
while others can feel like it was caused
or triggered by a trauma.
But again, what Shane wanted me to do
was just to walk through what a sociopath is.
So I simply went through the diagnostic criteria
for antisocial personality disorder
as its listed and described in the DSM.
Also Shane knew I was creating a more intensive video
on my channel that would be a deeper dive into sociopathy
so that if you had other follow-up questions or concerns,
you could hopefully find them there.
And my channel is an education channel
and therefore would be much less dramatic than Shane's.
And I understand people are upset
that the conversation about mental illness
was so dramatized in his video but have you ever watched
any of his conspiracy videos before?
They're always dramatic,
that's what makes them interesting and exciting.
My video was supposed to be the less dramatic
and more educational version
and that's why they came out at the same time.
So that you can have easy access to all the information.
And if you haven't watched my video on that,
I'll link that in the description as well.
And it's also important to understand
that those with antisocial personality disorder
do not suffer from their illness
and I know that that is really, really hard to understand
but they're not upset about their lack
of a full range of emotions
or that they don't feel remorse.
And like I said in my video, no, they're not all violent.
Again, everyone experiences their mental illness differently
but when I was reading books
and current research on sociopathy.
there were many various case studies that they showed
just to let you know how someone
with antisocial personality disorder
could experience the symptoms.
For example, one person that they followed
was a successful businessman
and they tracked him back when he was a child,
they'd asked many people he grew up with and his parents
and they found that when he was little,
he enjoyed killing frogs.
That's something he did but he was never physically violent
with other people when he was an adult.
So that was kind of one version of one person story
of how they experienced the symptoms.
And then a whole another one was there was this woman
who would steal stamps from post-office every few months
just 'cause she could and she wanted to.
And she wanted to show she'd get away with it.
She felt powerful knowing that she could do it
and so I just show, I just give you those two case studies
to kind of let you know that everyone is gonna be different.
Those are vastly different stories.
We're all different, right?
But it's also important to know that having
a mental illness doesn't mean
that you aren't responsible for your actions.
We are all responsible for actions
and if we're manipulating others to get what we want,
that's a terrible thing and not okay.
And when I said it's just gross and really creepy,
I was saying that in relation to people
who don't feel remorse for harmful acts.
If you watch the video, that's what I'm referring to.
I'm not saying everyone is creepy or gross,
I would never say that but if someone is hurting you
and knows they're doing it, yet doesn't feel bad
and will keep doing it until they get what they want,
that's not a nice feeling
or a exciting thing to discuss, you know?
That's why the mental illness isn't discussed frequently.
Many people don't wanna talk about it.
And if you were offended
by any of my statements or descriptions,
I'm sorry that was completely not my intention.
My intention was to educate you so that you are more aware.
Remember only one in 25 or 4% of the total population
have this disorder so there are 96% of us
who could fall victim to that manipulation
that I'm talking about.
So I wanna make you more aware.
The last thing I want to address
are the actual comments and hate.
Here's one I received today,
"I hope this fucking dumb bitch dies just because!"
Awesome.
All I ask of you is that you recognize
that I'm a human too, I'm not perfect
nor have I ever pretended to be.
I would never speak to any of you that way, ever.
Shout at you or assume the worst without knowing you.
If anyone thinks it's okay to speak
to another human being like that and then expect you know,
a thoughtful conversation to happen,
you're really, really wrong.
The only way we can both learn from this and move forward
is if we can each share our own perspective on a situation
and really hear each other out.
Shaming, cussing, and shouting
doesn't leave any room for that.
In fact, I actually found myself completely shutting down,
blocking everyone whose comment was hurtful
and not even wanting to get online
and that doesn't help either of us learn from the situation.
So just consider what you say online
and if you would comfortably say this to me
or anyone else when looking at them in the eye in person.
If you would and you also believe
that your comment will lead to a real conversation,
then I'm more than willing to hear you out.
My longtime audience knows I have no problem
saying I'm wrong or that I'm sorry.
I've even taken videos down
and completely redone them when I misspoke
but I won't be able to really hear you
if you're just yelling at me in a rage.
Again, I'm not perfect, you know,
I'm sorry if you were hurt but what I promise
to keep doing is to try my best to be caring
with how I speak to others
and I just hope that you will do the same.
And overall, I really love what Shane did with the video.
I applaud him for even reaching out to me
and asking a real mental health professional
to weigh in on something and talk about it
and shed light on mental illness
and mental health as a whole.
His videos get a ton of views
and it was a wonderful opportunity for me
to bring more awareness and he's just a great guy
and I know that this has been really stressful for him
and I'm excited to see what the other videos hold,
you guys are gonna love this series
and it was just really great for him
to even reach out to me in the first place.
Thanks for taking the time to hear me out,
I hope that this comment section
will not be filled with more hate
but instead more human understanding
and thoughtful conversation.
I also want to state that I'm never gonna let
any misunderstandings or hate keep me from helping
any and everyone out there who is struggling
with a mental illness and doesn't know
how to get the help that they need.
Okay, that's all for today,
thanks for listening and hearing me out
and I will see you next time, bye.