The defamation trial between Johnny Depp and Amber Heard has revealed a lot through tapes,
recordings and of course, testimonies.
But there are many behavior signals that paint a picture way more complex than you can judge
at first sight, including the disturbing reason why Amber was copying Johnny's clothes on
the first days.
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The greatest challenge so far is that every day of the trial has been eight to ten hours
of footage, so, to make it more practical, I'm going to describe from the general clues
to the more specific tells.
And one has to be very careful with the circumstances for each person that we are going to analyze.
Let's take, for example, Johnny's friend, Isaac Baruch and Johnny's sister Christy.
At first sight, you have two vastly different body language diplays.
Isaac is kind of nervous, moving a lot, nodding many times even as he speaks and stuttering
a lot.
There's a very clear hand signal that is speaking with his palms up, and most of the time, shrugging
at the same time.
Like, I have nothing to hide.
That fidgeting is a clear signal that he's in distress.
He doesn't feel comfortable at all of being there and having to recall everything that
happened.
Now, being in distress or nervous does not mean that he's not telling the truth.
It can just mean that he feels uneasy for the situation.
And in fact, one of the key questions was, "How did he perceive Johnny and Amber's relationship",
and he answered that he always saw them as a loving couple, that most of the time there
was nothing more to see than a man and a woman that really loved being together.
What's more, that Amber always treated him, Isaac, with respect, deference and in a very
warm way.
This is important, and please remember this, because that's gonna be useful later on.
His voice is something worth mentioning, like the moment that he is almost on the verge
of breaking down and he says that he just wants both of them to find peace.
Now, remember that Isaac's recollections are the point of view of a friend.
But what happens when we switch to Johnny's sister Christy?
It's a totally different behavior.
She's calm, collected, thinks before speaking, her voice tone is stable all along and there
are very few strong emotional displays.
Then, does this mean that she's not telling the truth?
Well, that's something that we really need to be aware of.
We cannot jump to conclusions from the body language of one person to the other, and that's
why it's so dangerous to believe that any gesture has a specific meaning that applies
to any situation.
I mentioned that Isaac was speaking from the point of view of a friend.
But Christy is speaking as a sister, with all the memories she is sharing about Johnny's
mother and how she treated him and his father.
That was, beyond the subject of the trial, painful to watch, because most people just
cannot even consider the possibility that a woman could do all those things to their
own child.
That is a way to understand Johnny's statement later on, when he was asked, "Why didn't you
leave Amber"? and he answered, because Miss Heard had made life threats against herself,
so Johnny was instantly taken back to the moment his own father left and his mother
tried exactly the same.
So, Johnny wants to make it clear that he stayed because he did not want to be a 'failure'.
And this possibly comes from his disfunctional household and upbringing.
This can happen to any person that ends up developing 'savior complex', and if you combine
it with a strong work ethic, then you can end up thinking about your relationship as
something that must be saved AT ALL COSTS, even your own integrity or safety.
Think about, Will and Jada Pinkett Smith.
And this is not healthy.
In his own words:
"I didn't want to fail.
I wanted to try to make it work.
I thought maybe I could help her.
I thought maybe I could bring her around.
Because the Amber Heard that I knew for the first year, year and a half was not this,
suddenly this opponent.
It wasn't my girl, she had become my opponent."
Now, I found it really interesting how Johnny described his first year, or year and a half
of marriage with Amber, as, and I quote,
"She was too good to be true.
She was attentive, loving, smart, kind, funny, understanding, we had many things in common,
music, literature... for that year or year and a half it was amazing."
This can be surprising, because how can everything turn out the way it did? and the problem is
that this is exactly the way relationships with narcissists kick off.
There is an inmense love bombing and the person can't possibly imagine that things are not
gonna end well.
Now, nobody wants to be in a relationship with one of these toxic personalities, so
we might as well learn to spot the signs.
So you might be wondering, what were the first signs that made Johnny think that there was
something odd?
Well, it so happens that in all this attentive personality of Amber at first, one of the
things she always did when Johnny came back home from work, was to tell him to sit on
the couch, she took his boots off and offered him a glass of wine.
And well, he said to himself, this is great!
I've never felt like this, like, ever!
But one day, he arrived home and she was on the phone.
She was busy.
So, he just sat on the couch, took off his boots and helped himself to a glass of wine.
When she appeared, she put a Kathy Bates face and just asked the question: "What did you
do?"
And Johnny was confused, as in... what did I do?
what do you mean?
.
Amber replied, "You took your boots off.
No, no, no.
That's my job.
That's what I do"
Well, Johnny did not pay much attention to that at the moment.
He just thought that Amber was trying to be helpful.
But the fact is that one of the main obsessions of the narcissist is control.
In the name of protection, safety or even love, they are going to treat you like you
don't have to do anything.
As in, "No, no.
You will not drive to the mall.
I can take you there."
Yeah, it sounds exactly like someone who wants to be helpful.
But the problem is when this becomes a controlling nature.
Such as when Amber was going to sleep, and Johnny was not sleepy but instead he wanted
to stay up and watch some TV, and she went like, nope.
You're not going to watch TV.
You're going to bed.
And so, what started like a cute quirk, developed into something that began concerning Jhonny.
Like, I'm a fiftysomething man, I shouldn't be dealing with this kind of stuff.
But, back to his testimony, you can watch any clip of his, any moment of him recalling
all the details, and he talks really slowly, with sudden facial gestures.
It looks like this process has been quite unnerving for him.
In fact, one of the questions was, how did he feel about exposing so many intimate details
in this trial? and his immediate answer was about his children.
That he always wanted to protect them from any kind of fallout from his failed marriage,
but this was a necessary step.
This was the right thing to do.
Even so, he laments not only how his children are going to be affected by all these revelations,
but also his whole family.
He goes as far as mentioning Amber, that he laments her intimate details being exposed
like this.
I'm sure that was not an easy thing to do, but that tells a lot about Johnny's character.
We should also remember that Johnny doesn't like interviews.
Like, AT ALL.
So, if he doesn't like a twenty minute interview, you can guess what speaking for one or two
hours about his intimate life can do to his behavior.
And speaking of odd behaviors, it's a bit unsettling to see how Amber copied Johhny's
clothings in the first days of the trial.
I don't know what kind of strategy was that, or who was giving her advice, but what I can
tell you is that if she wanted to look like the victim, she was getting the opposite effect.
It's like when you do something, and some prankster begins to imitate you, or copy what
you just said.
It's uncomfortable.
It's knowing that they are watching you and they are really aware of your actions.
And that must also be the reason why Amber has been constantly looking in Johnny's direction
throughout the trial, while Jhonny, well...
couldn't care less about her.
That's strange, because if Amber was the abused, then why does she feel the need to constantly
look to her "abuser"?
And yes, she has displayed a lot of smirks that are not very consistent with the situation
she allegedly went through.
There is also some odd changes in behavior, like when she's got this facial expression,
and when she is handed a note, her face changes completely in seconds.
In general, what I've seen so far is that Johnny feels really comfortable and confident.
I think his lawyers must have a very good case and that is projected through his behavior.
Again, these are just my first impressions from this trial, there is a massive amount
of content to watch, and not to mention what we are going to see in the following weeks,
so if you see any other clips or details that are worth analyzing, you can tag me on TikTok,
Twitter or Instagram.
I will make sure to check them out.
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