Is your relationship moving too fast? Today, I want to give you a self analysis, not a
relationship one but a self one, so you can know if your relationship is moving too fast
and you need to put on the brakes. Don't forget to download the first chapter of my book now
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All right. If you're worried that your relationship might be moving too fast, this is the video
for you. I'm giving you 10 signs that a relationship is moving too quickly. If you get three or
more, then it's really time to put on the brakes. Number one, you've gone from gym-junkie
to him-junkie. If your exercise schedule has taken a major hit due to him, you're spending
two or more less days per week exercising because of time spent with him and the relationship
is still new, it's a sign that things are going too quickly. Give yourself a point.
Number two, you're spamming social media with photos, or you've already changed your relationship
status. So this is a sign that I always like to check in with clients who I think might
be moving too fast. If it's the first month or so and they're already spamming couple
photos and look like a engaged wedlock couple on social media, or they've changed their
relationship status really early despite not knowing each other very long, it's a sign
they're moving too fast. If that's you give yourself one point.
Number three you spend notably less time with your friends. So you've gotta be honest with
this one. Has there been a significant change to your social time replaced with man time?
If there has, give yourself one point. Number four you have more faith and trust in him,
then his actions have actually earned. So you find yourself making statements like,
Oh, I know he'd never do that, or I trust him so much and yet you don't actually know
that for sure because you don't know him that well. Not yet. If you find yourself giving
him an eerie amounts of trust and and putting so much faith in him despite only knowing
him a short period of time, then it's a strong sign your relationship could be moving too
fast. Give yourself one point.
Number five, your hobbies and personal growth have taken a back seat. Now it's natural that
when you meet someone, your priorities are going to slowly shift as that person earns
a way into your life and you into theirs. Each of you are gonna make time for one another,
but these changes shouldn't be sudden and significant. And this applies especially to
your passions and your work on yourself. If you've gone from spending multiple days working
on yourself and time spent on your passions to almost no days doing those things and instead
spent with him, that sudden change is a sign a relationship is moving too fast. If that's
the case, give yourself one point. Number six, you can't name any incompatibilities
the two of you might have. So I like to ask clients who I suspect might be moving too
fast to name a few incompatibilities that they have with their new man.
This isn't to put a downer on things. It's simply to make sure they're going in with
their eyes open as to what some of the hurdles might be. If you can't name any incompatibilities
with your new amazing partner, give yourself one point. Number seven you find yourself
projecting beyond five times the amount of time you've known each other. Now, I find
this number can shift around a bit and usually grows as the relationship grows on, but the
magic point seems to be about five to seven times for relationships that are moving too
fast. So if I talk to a client who's been around a man for a month and she's projecting
beyond the five to six month mark, I know that it's very likely she's moving too fast
and that we need to slow things down. If that's you, give yourself one point.
Number eight your happiness fluctuates greatly depending on your new relationship. So this
is one that I really like to check in with clients and it's a strong sign things are
moving too fast. A month ago you were deriving your happiness from yourself. You were doing
your own things, your happiness was very much dependent on you and what you were doing in
your life and now, it's all about him. Has he texted back? Does he like me today? Your
highs and lows are very much dependent on the relationship with him. If that's you and
there's been a big sudden change to where you're deriving your happiness from, give
yourself one point. Number nine you've stopped taking responsibility for things due to time
spent together. It's easy to get carried away during time together. You have such a good
time that responsibilities, things that you have to do in life, take kind of a back seat,
but if it's serious, if work, if bills, if important things are slipping in your life
due to time spent with your new man, then it's a sign the relationship is moving too
fast. If that's the case, give yourself one point.
And number 10, you excuse red flags that you know are serious. If I suspect the client
is moving too fast, I want to check in to make sure that she's not ignoring or worse
excusing red flags that this man has shown. I need to know that she knows the signs of
controlling narcissistic, emotionally unavailable anger, all these types of personalities, and
that she's not overlooking red flags due to emotions coming up and powerful loss in her
new relationship. If you find yourself overlooking red flags, give yourself one point. Well,
that's the quiz. What did you score? Three or more out of 10, and I'd really recommend
putting on the brakes. There's no shame in slowing things down. If it's meant to be,
it's still will be. Well, that's the video. Thank you so much for watching. I hope you
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