Hi everyone, this is my dementor Hannah
She will suck out your soul for pleasure
Are you enjoying yourself? H: I'm so cozy and warm
I think maybe you should remove the hood or at least reveal yourself
S: Look, it's Hannah H: It's me everyone
S: Ha, fooled ya
I will be wearing this in the next all of our videos
It's chilly right now, it's like 60 degrees H: Yeah, 60 yup
You'll notice I don't have something so warm and wonderful like you
I'm cozy and warm, you're freezing cold
You know the thing is I can fit inside of that with you
H: You could S: Maybe...
S: For today's video, we're talking about our wedding
S: Guys it's so warm in there, your body is like an oven H: Okay
[intro song] Hello, hello, welcome to the show, welcome to the show
Welcome to the show, it's time to talk about our lives [Chloe bark]
S: Okay so what are we talking about, our wedding
H: Are you talking to me or them? S: No, kind of both
H: Okay well we kind of know what we're going to talk about
H: Let's begin, so I guess background for anyone who has forgotten
H: Or isn't like intimately... S: Aware of every aspect of our life?
H: Uh huh
S: everyone that's commenting right now 'I thought you already got married'
H: Yeah, I'm gonna take this down, I look weird
H: So we did get married already S: Yes
H: In September, and we got married just ourselves on Zoom with our officiant
H: And we postponed our real wedding with our family and friends to next year
S: Yup H: So now that is looming
S: That's coming up in... later this year H: Later this year in the summer, late summer
H: And we're not... it's... S: We're not moving on it
H: We haven't planned it, yeah, also we hadn't planned the wedding
H: So there was this joke when we cancelled our wedding we didn't have to cancel anything
H: We just had to move the day because we hadn't booked anything
H: And we were like well now we have a whole 'nother year
H: And yet it's been four months now, five months, we have not booked a single thing
S: The only thing that we have booked is our venue
H: Yes S: We found a lovely venue that we fell in love with
S: And our caterer, although we don't have our food picked out, we'll talk about that
S: So we've done all the down payments, like the wedding is fully paid for basically
S: other than like the entertainment H: And the flowers
H: I do have a dress, we have a photographer S: Oh yeah
H: So what we really have to book still would be like dessert, flowers
H: What else do you get? Music?
We completely forget to say that we have not yet got the piñata, the moon bounce
The magician H: Okay Shane, nope
S: Decorations H: Yeah, anything else we need
H: Hair and make-up, stuff like that
S: And then like the logistical planning like where is family staying
S: What's the order of events for the day H: Sending out invitations, yeah
S: So there's a lot that has to be done and we have not begun that process yet
S: I mean, we have time, there's enough time H: Yeah
S: But it's becoming more and more pressing
S: We're like we need to begin if we're doing this
H: And our caterer, I think they have been doing tastings right?
S: Yeah H: And they invited us to them
H: But we didn't go because of the pandemic
H: We didn't feel comfortable going to a communal food tasting
H: We're not eating out, and so we didn't do that
H: And we have to do that before the spring Both: before we send the invitations
H: Because we're doing a plated dinner, and so we would have to do it soon
H: And yet we're not comfortable doing that and there's no alternative
H: Like we either cancel the wedding or don't have food
H: I'm just confused as to what we're supposed to do
S: Yeah H: And it's non refundable
H: So like the venue is fine and comfortable doing all this stuff and we're not
H: And therefore there is no... if we're not comfortable doing it then cancel the wedding
H: And you lose all of your money S: Yeah
H: Which makes sense, I mean it's not a bad thing that they're doing
H: It's just that we are in a particular situation where we can't really go out in public
H: And they need you to go out in public to taste the food and do things
S: Maybe we could have them come to our house with all of their food
S: leave it on the front porch, we'll taste it
H: Yeah S: And then we'll get back to them
S: Hannah and I had a conversation the other night
S: About what if we just didn't have the big wedding
H: Yeah S: And we're kind of on different pages for that
S: I like that idea, I know that that sounds bad, on the surface
S: Like, Shane doesn't want to have a wedding? H: I think that's very understandable
S: There's a few factors that make me feel that way
S: I hate stressful planning, like I know just based on the timeline now
S: That making everything come together is gonna be a headache
H: Oh yeah S: And I don't like headaches
S: And so I'm more inclined to avoid that than to like jump in
S: And be like yeah, lets make it happen H: Yeah
S: But then kind of the bigger thing is that I feel like we, or at least I
S: Had that emotional, 'oh my god this is my wedding' moment for our private backyard thing
S: And that's not to say that Hannah didn't
S: But I'm like you know what, I feel like I did the wedding
S: Like I'm good, I don't need another one H: Yeah
S: Like yeah I feel bad that we couldn't do it with our family
S: But the stress of it and the uncertainty of if the pandemic will be over
H: Well that's a whole 'nother page, why don't we take it one at a time
S: Alright, so but on the other hand you still want to have a wedding
H: Well the thing is you hadn't pictured the wedding
S: Yeah H: Shane has not pictured the wedding
H: So he did a wedding and he's like that's fine
H: Like I bought a dress, I have texted my friend about how we're going to get ready
H: What time we should get there, like what food we should order for breakfast
H: Like there's a whole thing S: Yeah me and my best man have not talked about that
H: No you haven't, and like I've pictured walking down the aisle
H: Like what will my nieces look like
H: And all of this stuff that Shane has literally not thought about
H: And therefore he's not losing anything, he's like a wedding? Oh I did that
H: And I'm like yeah, but we didn't do all of these hundreds of parts
H: That are part of a wedding, you know I thought about where people would sit
H: Where our table would be in the room, so all of this stuff that I've thought about
H: I'm losing, and Shane isn't, and so I think that's why I'm like
H: No, I think I would regret not doing any of that
S: Yeah H: because our backyard wedding was nice
H: But I didn't wear my dress, I didn't process out in the yard
S: And it didn't have that extra... H: There was no moment of 'here we go'
H: We were just sitting in our house all day
H: And then together we were like shall we get the computer?
H: And it was like, so us, and adorable, but it definitely was not like a...
H: Magical, like I didn't get my hair and makeup done, I got ready in the bathroom
H: And that was it S: [laughs]
S: And I think, I mean you might imagine that the fact we have differing feelings about this
S: Might be a bad thing H: Yeah
S: But it's not, I'm super understanding of Hannah's feelings
S: She's very understanding of how I feel about it
S: And we're not forcing either of us to make a decision
S: We're both just kind of at the point of like, we don't know right now
H: And what you had brought up is we don't know if the pandemic will even be better
H: So it's like do we again send out invitations and again send out another one
H: That says nevermind? S: Nevermind
H: We've done this already, so it's just exhausting
H: To be like, how do we know if later this year people can come?
H: And our family is like all over the US, and my family is in Poland
H: I really don't see how it would be safe to travel by then
H: And then, are we putting it on each individual person
H: To be like, I'm comfortable or I'm not? S: I know
S: And that's so crappy, like lets say that vaccines are not widely available
S: By the time that they need to be H: Yeah
S: How could we have a big gathering knowing that some members of the family
S: Are so vulnerable that they can't come H: Yeah
S: Like we're putting them in a really awkward situation and that's not fun or fair
S: So it's just tough, and like we said we're not committing to having it
S: Or not having it yet, we have some time although that feeling is slipping away
S: But we just want to let you know that we're at this point of, what do we do?
H: And we really, we only have like 3 months to decide
H: before we either send out invitations or we send out 'it isn't happening'
H: And you know, there's other stuff we could do
H: Like uninvite people that don't live in the area, but it's all just so crappy
H: You don't want to send out a thing that's like we're only doing people that live in Minnesota
H: And Shane's entire family is in Pennsylvania
S: We invited you to our first wedding but for the next one, no, sorry
S: You did not live up to our expectations
H: So yeah, it's hard to know what to do S: It is
H: So we've been stressed about it, and there's nothing we can do
H: Which is even worse S: I know, yeah
S: I guess when we get back to Minnesota we need to figure out
S: How we're gonna do our taste testing H: I know
S: Because that somehow is the first step, you know? H: I know
H: But we're not, the way that they do it is with a bunch of different venues
H: Because it's a caterer that does a couple so they have like hundreds of people
H: That go to each one, and they say they're doing it safely
H: I'm sure they're doing it safely as they can, but every restaurant says that
H: And we're not going to restaurants, so we're not doing that
S: Even if they're doing everything safely, there's still risk for transmission
S: So we're not gonna waltz in there and sample meatballs for an hour
S: How do you feel in terms of other aspects that need to be figured out
H: Like planning the wedding? S: Yeah, are you excited or like... ?
H: No, you know I'm not excited about that S: [laughs]
H: That's the other thing is like, as much as I did want to have that wedding
H: I didn't plan it the first time, I'm not really that into it
H: You know, I think it would be really fun but I'm definitely not like
H: I need to have this wedding, I need it to be this way
H: I would be fine cancelling it S: You're not a...what's the word?
H: Bridezilla? No S: She's the opposite of a bridezilla
H: Yeah, I'm not that into it, but I would like to have it
H: I don't know, we're just [sighs] S: Maybe I'll become a groomzilla
H: Okay S: You know what, I'm taking this wedding on
S: I'm gonna make it the most fabulous thing
H: That's not a groomzilla, that's not a bridezilla
H: A bridezilla is like a bride that's horrible to everyone around her
S: Oh, I thought it was someone who was like, I have to have flowers cut in heart shapes
H: Well yeah S: Oh
H: But like in a rude way, it's not just being into the wedding
S: No, I was gonna do it in a rude way H: Well you said I'm going to be a groomzilla
H: I'm gonna make this wedding fabulous, I'm like that's not exactly what a groomzilla would do
S: I'm gonna make it fabulous, and make everyone around me really unhappy
H: That's exactly what it is S: I vow [laughs]
H: So I don't know, I can picture it both ways
H: I can picture us cancelling it and being fine
H: I can picture us having it and being fine, I'm curious to know what's going to happen
H: I really am, and I guess we don't have to keep adding on, this video's long enough
S: [laughs] what was your point?
H: I was just gonna say I want to have pictures in my wedding dress
S: Oh yeah, that's true H: And I want you to see my wedding dress
H: I've kept it secret for like 2 years, I guess a year and a half
S: I'm excited, I mean I'm excited about the moments of the wedding
S: It's just like getting there H: And the fact maybe we can't get there
H: So it's hard to get excited for something that again is going to get cancelled
H: Like we were excited last year and it was really upsetting to cancel the wedding
H: So then for us to this year get excited again
H: I think both of us are just not allowing ourselves to get excited
S: That's true H: We're just like well, this has happened before
S: Yeah we're tempering our excitement a lot H: Yeah
S: To the point where I don't want to have it Both: [laugh]
H: You're like I'll just cancel it before the pandemic can cancel it
S: I'm so not gonna get excited that we're just not gonna have it
S: So that's where we're at, we'll keep you updated
H: Yup S: Fun fun fun
H: Yeah, really fun
S: Alright everyone, maybe you have an idea
S: What should we do? H: I think we've sort of gone through all options
S: Well maybe they've thought of something that we haven't
H: Maybe S: Let us know in the comments below
H: Yeah S: Maybe we'll hire you to be our wedding planner
H: Hmm, okay S: Who knows
H: Okay, bye everyone S: Bye