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wedding season is upon us and if your
social calendar is booked for the next
few months with nuptials here here we
are here with a view reminders for the
do's and don'ts for wedding guests and
we are excited to welcome back Mary Ann
Parker she's an etiquette expert and we
are excited because we have lots and
lots of questions for you and okay so
one of the controversial things that we
all talk about is wearing white are we
allowed to wear white well what is a
very good question actually this comes
from the history back in the day a lot
of traditions involved from the 15th
century actually the first princess was
documented in 15th century but now the
trends are changing because if you can
wear white as long you don't upscale the
bright because the attention should be
on the bride not on you there's some
time you don't want to look very Bridal
so if you're wearing something white or
in general white outfit or whatever
you're wearing just you can match with
some something really bright bright
jewelry bright scarf very big statement
of a bells now whatever you decide but
you can't really be too Bridal could be
very appropriate so that's not upstage
you can't really do that that is very
that's right okay and then who pays the
bill traditionally it was like the
bride's parents that paid for the
wedding
very true so this is very good point
because those lucky parents one day
probably but seventy three percent of
the newlyweds actually are paying their
bills this is a very high percentage so
I don't know if the people are getting
married a little older and they're more
mature or the responsible or just in
general people are more responsible but
the parents of the bride are not paying
the bill any longer and I think that
that's a very progressive so who is
right I mean not only was the couple
couples actually I mean they are doing
at 73% I've got two girls yes okay all
right so let's talk about traditionally
weddings are restricted to plus-one
yeah are you sure about that that's a
very important point because when you
receive an invitation you can't really
bring anybody if it's not indicated on
the invitation but the rule the new the
new modern rule is that actually you can
bring a plus-one even if you're not
engaged or married and we actually saw
it for very high-profile weddings when
the guest wasn't really married
neither engaged so you can do so is
we're living in a different dynamic it's
very different atmosphere is a modern
day and you can bring your significant
one even if nobody else knows them ok so
there are there are a lot of things that
have changed yes so let's talk about
some of those classic rules that have
not changed first you need to be invited
yes you need an invitation if you don't
have an invitation you can't really
attend the wedding because this is
extremely and intrusive and you won't be
the favorite guests there no so you
definitely cannot attend you will be a
wedding crasher and you don't want to be
known as that and you still need to
bring it gift does anything need to
bring a gift of course if they let you
know that you cannot bring it at the
reception and you need to follow the
rules because some some newlyweds they
prefer charitable organization so
they'll direct you what to do but if you
go to a registry and need they indicated
I'll you know we prefer that register
Street they do have a website probably
it's a good idea for you to follow their
instructions but if you don't want to
because some people don't like register
is they think that is not traditional so
they don't follow it you can bring a
handmade gift or something that you
desire from your heart so you can
personalize it should stop behind the
exact and then is there a rule for how
much we should be spending on gifts they
are still limitation because sometimes
if you want to obscure everybody else
this is also not very good idea or
especially that they don't bring gifts
at the reception and you decide to bring
just because you want to show how in
involved you are this is not a good
etiquette because you
you indicate that probably everybody
else did wasn't so thoughtful and
apparently is really wrong yeah you're
making exactly what's the phone
forbidden well the phone is going to be
forbidden for I think for a long time
because remember this is not our moment
to shine so this is the bride and the
groom and the family's moment so if they
decide to make videos pictures if they
want to tag you they'll let you know
but we I think it's a very poor
mannerism if you go to a wedding
reception or in general in a wedding
event and if you're not allowed to take
pictures and videos and you're still
doing it I think it's very very wrong so
phones another proprietary okay where
can we go for more information
many of Mainers don't come okay thank
you so much thank you so much