Hey! everyone welcome back I’m Niharika and you are watching Skillopedia, the place to learn
skills for the real world. Well, in today's session we are going to look at certain types
of toxic people that you need to stay away from. We all build relationships, certain
relationships are way too successful and certain relationships are way too harmful. Now already
life is super stressful and you don't really want to burden yourself with toxic people
around you. You want to be more productive and you want to achieve success. So how do
you do that? So here are certain types of toxic people that you need to stay away from.
The very first kind of toxic people that you need to stay away from are the gossipers.
Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events and small minds discuss people. I just
don't understand what pleasure people derive from discussing people's misfortune. Do you
think it's a fun thing to do? Do you enjoy that kind of discussion, where in you are
making fun of other’s misfortune? Well definitely I don't appreciate that. So if you end up
meeting people who are absolutely these gossipers, you need to quit being with them. You are
definitely not going to achieve your goals. You are not going to improve yourself as person
and you are just going to be considered as a very negative person. So rather it's time
for you to stay away from the gossipers.
The next kind of people that you should not really hang out with are the victims. Now
the victims are really tough to identify because in the initial stage when you come across
such victims, you kind of empathise with their problems. You try to understand them; you
try to help them out. But as the time passes, you realise that they are way too pushy on
you. Now they do not look at these difficult times as opportunities. They just want to
complain and crib about everything. Now these are the victims. Of course we all know that
the pain is inevitable but suffering is optional. So it's important for you to realise these
kind of people and stay away from them. It's okay to empathize with people at the very
beginning but then that's about it. In order for you to attain your goals and to be a very
positive person, just stay away from the victims.
The next kind of people that you should stay away from and are absolutely considered as
super dangerous for your career are the envious ones. Yes there are people who would always
appreciate your bad times, than your success. Well when it's victory for you, they are definitely
not going to be happy about it. They would try to intimidate you, the moment they realise
that, hey you are stepping a step further. So it's important for you to just stay away
from such envious people. Now we all know that there are people around you who are doing
so much better than you are. But then that's how our goals should be. In order to be successful
or in order to be like one of them, you need to work hard, you need to improve yourself
in every aspects of life. You cannot depend on such envious people because for them the
grass is always going to be greener on the other side. They are not going to appreciate
your efforts. In fact they would always look forward to put you down in every aspect of
life. So stay away from these dangerous kind of envious people.
The next kind of people that are absolutely dangerous for you are the arrogant people.
Well yes they are considered to be super dangerous. The reason because they consider you as competition
or they always want to put you down by their arrogance. Well I totally believe that arrogance
is complete lack of confidence. It's very easy for people to be rude, to throw tantrums,
to show off their skills. Well everybody does that, which is okay. But the moment you try
to put down the other person, well that's arrogance. And if you have someone in your
life who does that to you, well please stay away from that kind of a person. You are not
his competition. You need to compete with yourself. You need to improve yourself in
order to be successful. So the biggest waste of time is hanging out with arrogant people.
The next kind of people that you need to get rid of are the people who criticize you way
too often. Yes we do have people around us who love to criticize us. Why? Why do they
do that? Well probably it is because they just don't like you or they just love criticizing
others. Now there is a difference between criticizing and giving a feedback. Feedbacks
can be constructive, can be positive or can be negative as well which is okay because
you are here to improve yourself. And you definitely can demand for a feedback. But
when it comes to criticism it's not very well appreciated. There are people who would always
come out with something negative about you. They would always try to put you down in front
of people. For example, if you are great at giving a presentation, they are not going
to appreciate your presentation skills, they are going to try to figure out points that
you are horrible at and they will keep putting you down in front of people. And that's what
you are not going to like, right? So it's always better to get rid of such people who
love to criticize constantly.
The other kind of people that you need to
say goodbye to are the mood swingers. Well there are people around us who have these
awful mood swings. Yes, there are people who would be super happy on a day and the very
next day, they are so grouchy. Now you need to stay away from them. Self control is extremely
important. If there are people who are going to have these childish outbursts, it's not
going to take you anywhere because it drains your energy out. You are not here to take
their tantrums. You are not here to listen to them and take these childish outbursts.
So the simplest way is to get rid of such people.
The last kind of people that you need to get rid of are the judgemental types. Yes they
are considered to be way too toxic. There are people who would always try to form an
opinion about you. There are things that we really like to do. We are very passionate
about and we try to follow our dreams. But the moment we have these kind of people who
are very judgemental, who try to form an opinion about you. They will bring you down. Yes they
will make you feel terrible about your passion, about your dreams. So what's the point? We
always say that dream big, grow big. Now if you are around such people who are going to
have assumptions, form opinions it's not going to help you out. So just stay away from these
kind of people.
So here we are at the end of this session today. Always remember that there are people
who inspire you, there are people who drain you. So it's important for you to choose people
wisely. And for more such sessions, do not forget to subscribe to our channel, Skillopedia,
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