Hey, this is Mat Boggs and today I’m going to share with you seven false reasons that
you’re single.
These are reasons that society makes up or maybe your mind has made up that actually
aren’t true that get in our way, that become like a façade or a false barrier that keep
you from meeting your man.
And because these aren’t true, the goal here with this video is to blow these reasons
up to help set you free so that you can move forward in attracting the relationship that
you want.
So we’re going to go through these seven reasons and then I’m going to give you three
things to focus on that are needle movers, that move you in the direction of having the
relationship you want.
So here we go.
Reason number one is your age.
A lot of women think, “Well, I’m too old or my age category – you know, I’m 40
or 50 and the men in my life, they want to date women younger.
They want to date women who are in their 20s and 30s or 40s.”
False reasons.
I know you might have evidence to support this belief, but your age is not keeping you
from meeting the man of your dreams.
One of my clients who just happens to be 52, months back, met this amazing 48 year old
man – healthy, fit, fun, active, the guys makes amazing money – and on their second
date, he asked her, “You know what?
Are you okay with dating a younger man?
Because I really want to be exclusive with you.”
Here’s this 48 year old man asking for exclusivity with a 52 your old woman because she’s the
one who he wants to choose.
Your age is not preventing you from meeting your man.
Reason number two is you might be thinking the thought that good men are hard to find
or all the good ones are taken.
Have you experience that where you’re thinking, “You know what?
All the good ones are either married or they’re gay.”
Right?
That might have been your experience but let me tell you, you don’t need to meet a lot
of amazing men, you just need to meet your man.
The thought can be, “It only takes one and what if it’s easy?”
There are great men out there and there’s a man with your name in his mind and heart
looking for you right now.
Reason number three is you might be thinking, “My location is wrong.
Like the culture in my city is really hard to meet men,” or, “I live in a small town
and there’s no men here.”
Right?
And you might be thinking, “Mat, have you been to my city?
Like have you seen the men in my city?”
Let me tell you, whether you live in L.A., whether you live in New York or Chicago, or
Mubende, Uganda, there have been women who have manifested amazing men in every city
on this planet.
Your location is a false reason for being single.
The number four false reason is that you think, “I’m not attractive enough.”
Look, it doesn’t matter beautiful you think you are or what your body style is; there
is a man who is digging on you.
Whether you have no boobs or big boobs, whether you have a flat butt or a giant butt, there’s
a man who is digging on you, right?
I’m not saying don’t work out, I’m not saying don’t look your best, but don’t
make that a prerequisite for you meeting your man because your current state, how you are
right now, there is a man who is loving you and on that style right now.
So the fifth reason that’s a false reason why you’re single is the whole idea that
you’ll find it when you’re not looking for it.
Society loves to tell us this.
People love to tell us this.
And it’s false.
You know it’s false.
You know people who found love when they were looking for love.
I know people who found love when they were looking for love.
In fact, I found love and I was looking for love.
What we’re really saying for this is don’t have desperation breath.
You may have been on a date where it’s finally an amazing guy you’re going out with, finally
someone that piques your interest and you’ve been lonely for a long time, you haven’t
had any great dates for a long time, you’ve got that desperation breath and you like turn
to them and you’re like, “Hi.
So great to meet you.”
It’s like the wrong vibe to be in, right?
Like you want to clear that away, you want to come from love abundance, but you can absolutely
find love and be looking for it.
The sixth false reason that sometimes stands in our way is the belief that it’s all in
God’s timing.
Well, I believe that yes, there is divine timing that helps us attract what it is that
we want most in our heart and mind and God cannot steer a parked car.
A lot of women use the “It’s all in God’s timing” to say, “Well, I don’t even
have to put any work in.
I can just sit at home, eat a half pint of ice cream, watch Downton Abbey, like this
is my night.
I don’t even have to put in the effort or the energy.”
God cannot steer a parked car.
It is up to you to take action.
It is up to you to move your life through action in the direction of your dream.
And finally, the number seven false reason that keeps people from finding love is the
idea that they’re unworthy or that there’s something flawed in them, that they’re unlovable.
And this one goes deep and it’s often programmed in from a very early age.
But buying into this idea that you’re unworthy or that you don’t deserve love or that you’re
flawed is false.
You are worthy of love.
You’re not damaged, you’re not unlovable, it’s not too late.
You do deserve love and you can have that experience in your life, so wipe any idea
that you’re flawed or you’re unlovable completely out of your mind.
Just by you being this amazing, precious human being on this planet, that makes you worthy
of having the love that you want to give and receive in your life.
So now let me reveal the three things you should be focusing on to help move you in
the direction of the relationship you want.
Number one is mindset.
Are your beliefs and are your thoughts in alignment with the relationship that you want
to have in your life?
Number two is heart-set.
Your heart must be open, it must be receptive, you must let go of the past and any past relationships
that might be holding you back and have the courage and willingness to risk again in moving
forward.
And third is skill set, right?
Do you know how to create opportunities for yourself with men?
Do you know what to say to build connection, attraction and desire?
Women having the right skill sets is super important in building the long-lasting partnership
that you want.
So mindset, heart-set, skill set.
Now, if you want support with that, I have a phenomenal resource for you.
Just click the link in the description of this video and you get information on that
to support you.
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And lastly, I want to hear from you.
Post a comment below this video on this question: of those seven reasons, which one most resonated
with you?
Or it might be another reason that resonated with you in what you hear from society or
you hear from other people as reasons that try to hold you back, but you’re saying
no to those reasons and you’re moving yourself forward, right?
What false reasons have ever bubbled up in your mind or heart or you hear from other
people that you’re saying no to and you’re moving forward anyway?
Post that comment below and I’d love to check that out.
Thanks so much for watching.
I hope this serves you and I look forward to seeing you again soon.