On Hero TV today,
Sydney Jacques. She's going to be teaching us how to improve
communication in the workplace.
Hey everybody its Sydney Jacques and I'm so excited today we're talking about one
of my favorite topics, communication.
Would you be surprised to know I have
the nickname and engineer with a personality?
yes how some people refer to
me and I think it's because I love to communicate.
Not all engineers love that
so much. I want to share with you today a model that we've developed and it's
called, living large.
Ok. Before I dive into it
and tell you what the acronym stands for I want to give you the philosophy behind
it. The philosophy is that life can be better than it is right now.
I really believe that you can be larger not just in size, but you can be larger in your
personality,
in your outreach, in your influence, than you are right now.
So that's the goal is that by living large and taking these communication steps and
implementing one at a time that it will truly be a benefit to your life. Probably
both at work and at home.
So our acronym, LIVING LARGE. So we're
going to start with the L. The L stands for, listen. Probably no big surprise
right? But how good are we truly at listening? I don't think for most of us
that would probably had any training in it you probably don't practice it but
yet I think it's one of the greatest skills that we really need to be
conscious about developing and being more intentional about it.
So when I
decided I wanted to start my business I hired a business coach to help me
because I had a degree in engineering, I didn't have any classes in business. I
knew nothing about accounting so I hired a business coach to help me set up my
business plan do some real basics accounting and just get me started off
on my first year.
So he taught me a lot of different things but the thing that
he taught me that has really made the most impact as he told me, "Sydney if
you're going to be successful in your business you need to learn to be 100% present"
Think about how often were truly a hundred percent present.
I always have things going on in the back of my mind.
Sometimes we're thinking, I already know the answer to that just hurry up and
finish it or this is how I'm going to respond to that. That was his challenge to
me. You need to learn to be 100% present, Now I want you to realize that was over
20 years ago when he taught me that.
I didn't have an iPad, an iPod, that cell
phone that we spend so much time doing this on, I didn't have one of those. I
didn't even have my laptop computer. But yet that was his biggest piece of advice
to me. So when I talk about the first part of the communication model is to
really learn how to listen,
I want you to think, are you really a hundred percent
present?
is that something you could work on?
I want to tell you it's something
that traditionally have done better with my clients that I have with my family
and I'm kind of embarrassed to admit that. But I'm in the phone a lot of my
car and a lot of times I noticed that I would be on the phone and I'd walk into
my house and my kids would be there when I'd walked through the door and I'd be
coming like, Shh! I'm on the phone!
You probably done that before.
And one day I pulled up to my house and I just though,t wait a minute inside that
door those are my most important people in the whole wide world. Why should I be
shushing them when it's the first time that I'm seeing them after school?
I should be a hundred percent present with them. So I started a new habit that every
time when I Drive home and when I'm on the phone, I finished my conversation I
put my phone inside my purse. I zip up my purse and then when I walked through my
door frame of my house that's a trigger to me. When I walked through that door
frame that's a trigger for me to remember on the other side, these are my people.
Those are the most important people in the world I want to be a hundred percent
present for them. My kids, my husband, they'll call me out if I get on my phone
later they'll say and they're trying to talk to me,
"hey mom 100 percent present".
So it's a good language you can share with people so that you
can all be on the same page and I'll have that same goal to be hundred
percent present. I now use the trigger of the doorframe anytime not just at my
house but when I'm going into a meeting. I think on the other side of that door,
there's somebody I want to add value to.
I want to be a hundred percent present
when I get there so that I can be the best I can and help them the best I can
and add value.
So that's the L we really need to listen.
The A stands for asking
questions.
This is another thing that we probably never really had any training
on. So I'm going to share a couple of my favorites with you. The first one is to
just ask permission to have a conversation. Okay, a lot of times I'll
call somebody and just say, you know they'll answer their phone and I'll say,
"hey this is Sydney do you have a minute?" and they'll say, "no I'm in the middle of
a meeting" and I think to myself, well why did you answer your phone?
But I guess they thought I was important because they saw me on their caller ID.
But we need to get in the habit of asking permission to have a conversation.
If I was at the office and I wanted to have a conversation with Scott, I would
walk to his door and say Scott I wanted to talk to you about this project that
we have in Logan. It's going to take about 15 minutes is this a good time to
talk? So if I give him the information so that he knows what it is I want to talk
about, how long it's going to take, then that gives him the option to say yes
this is a good time or to say you know what this really doesn't work let's
reschedule this and then I can be present and I can be attentive for this
conversation.
So ask permission to have a
conversations whether you're in person or even if you're calling on the phone. I
always ask on the phone, is this a good time? and tell them about how long you
think it will take and give them permission to come to the conversation
fully engaged and not distracted.
Another thing that we can do to ask questions is
to not be afraid to ask questions to get to know people at a different connection
level than we typically do at work.
ask people about their families, ask people
where they grew up, ask them about their hobby, learn to ask questions that will
help you to learn more and connect at a deeper level. Wo we have the L
for listen, the A for ask, the R is for respond.
Now I want you to think about this
because respond is what I hope that you will do instead of react.
Now I used to
teach the seven Habits of Highly Effective People through the Covey
Leadership Center. And I remember one of the models that Dr. Covey developed as
he taught about the thing that makes us different as humans from animals is that,
we have the ability to think and to respond instead of just react out of
instinct. So the question is, are you using that ability? do you let your
temper flare and you just react to things? or do you stop and think and say,
how do I really want to respond to this? how do I want to respond to this
communication?
Again, our communication comes in many forms and fashions could
be texts, could be email. Maybe the best response is to pick up the phone and
have a conversation or to say, you know what instead of continuing this back and
forth email let's just sit down and have a meeting so that we can talk about this.
So how are you going to respond to somebody? Do it thoughtfully. Make sure
it's not a reaction and not a knee-jerk reaction that could be negative but
respond in a proper way.
So L listen, A ask, R respond.
G stands
for the generations. Many of us are working in cultures and environments
where we have three to four, maybe even five different generations all working
in the workforce. So we have a whole training course that dives deep into
this but for this quick video I just want to share a couple of my thoughts.
One, communication is at the heart and soul of having positive generation
interactions. We have to be willing to do the things I'm talking about to truly
open our ears and listen and ask questions and do that withholding
judgment. Just because a different generation does things differently it
doesn't mean they're wrong and you're right. It just means they're different
and that's okay. Because if you're going to build a
football team you don't want everybody to be the same, you don't want all
quarterbacks on your team. We want to build a team where we have different
strengths and that's what the multiple generations can bring to us. The other
most important thing I think is that we need to remove the labels. I know because
I've been so many training sessions I know the Millennials are so tired of
being told or at least hearing that they're entitled,
that they're lazy.
They're just different. And so as they come to the table they bring technology
skills, they bring great benefits, we just have to learn how to work with them
different. One of my friends who runs a sales team of almost all Millennials said
you know what, they are different. They like to check their social media during
the day they, work differently, but you know what? I can also know that they will
respond to me at night which is different than it used to be. If I have a
question, if I have a problem, I don't hesitate to contact them at night.
They're okay with that.
The E is for manage emotions.
Each of us has to figure
out there's going to be times that it's harder, times that it's easier, but how
are we going to manage our emotions? one of the best ways to do this is to have
some sort of a morning routine where you start out knowing that you're in charge
of your emotions and that you have control over how you meet the day. I love
where I live. I, we are surrounded by beautiful mountains and one of my
favorite things is my picture window in my living room which straight out to a
beautiful mountain called Mt Timpanogos. And when I get up in the morning,
every single morning I get up and I walk to my living room and I pull up to my
blinds and I say, ah it's gonna be a great day!
And I just look out to the
mountains and I start with an attitude of gratitude knowing that I am grateful,
that I'm alive, that I live in a beautiful world, that I have a great work
to do that day. And as I do that and I start my day that way it makes it much
easier to manage the emotions throughout the day.
Take my challenge to go out
there and live large. Do that by listening,
asking questions, responding properly, learning how to communicate through
generations and manage your emotions.
Thanks so much for watching Hero TV
today. Anything we can do to improve communication in the workplace is a big
big deal. So thanks Sydney for everything that you've shared today.
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