Heya playa, are you waiting for the right moment to ask out your crush?
Well that right moment is now!
In this video I'm going to share 5 reasons why you should just go talk to them, ask them
out and do anything you can to get that ball rolling.
This is The Josh Speaks.
You're watching The Josh Speaks.
I've heard a lot of reasons as to why you can't ask out your crush and believe me I
totally understand the fear that's holding you back.
One of the most common reasons I've heard is that you're just too nervous.
That all you need is the motivation to actually go for it and take that plunge.
In the past I've talked about the three second rule and why you should give yourself no more
than three seconds upon seeing them to go talk to your crush but today I want to give
you five reasons why you should go ask them out.
First off, if you're worried about people finding out that you like your crush, put
that fear to rest because if your friends know, chances are other people do too.
Some people look at that as a reason not to ask out your crush, if your crush finds out
that you like them it might all blow up in your face but I see it the opposite way, I
see it as an advantage.
With your feelings out in the open, you don't have to worry as much about getting friend
zoned.
You can be honest and direct and you don't have to pretend that you're "just friends".
Not to mention if they like you back, you might just skip all the way to go.
Past the confusion, past the "what are we" and all the way to being in a relationship.
Second, think about the alternative here.
How would you feel if you put off asking out your crush for so long that someone else swooped
in and did it instead?
I've been in that scenario before and it is a rough one.
No one likes to see their crush go out with someone else.
The longer you wait though, the higher the chance that someone else will ask them out
leaving you to watch them walk the halls together, be all cutesy and just make your life miserable.
Don't let that happen to you.
I know that you're nervous but everything is small steps so even if you could just start
talking to them, asking them to hang out or getting to know what their hobbies are you
could start planting those seeds.
Third, you might feel like you're not good enough, or attractive enough or cool enough
to go out with someone like that that is so out of your league, right?
I know it feels like a safe answer to rest on, you look the way you do and that's that
but the only reason you need to ask them out is because you want to.
The truth is you don't need to justify or prove anything about yourself.
You're good enough presenting you just the way you are.
I'm willing to beat that you're a very likable person that once you break out of your shell
you are awesome to be around.
So don't hide that from your crush, always be willing to show them your best self.
Fourth, not knowing if your crush likes you back or whether or not if you ask them out
they may or may not say yes can be a torturous mindset to sit on.
On on the one hand it may feel safe just being where you are, not doing anything to rock
the boat or potentially lose them from being a part of your life in any way.
But on the other hand, you're not being true to yourself and therefore you're caught in
this vicious cycle of what if, as in what if I actually did something about it.
What if you ask them out and they say yes?
What if you guys connect on such a deep level that you realize that you're soul mates?
Or what if you just don't get along with them?
No matter what you'll be able to cut through all the mixed signals and have a definitive
answer, even if it's a no at least that's a no that you can rest on which will allow
you to move on with your life and stop worrying about it.
And fifth, the final reason is that if they do like you back, they may just be waiting
for you to make that move.
So by you not acting on it, you're only allowing time for them to get bored of waiting.
Sometimes when you wait too long you end up missing out on your golden opportunity because
you're waiting for it to be perfect when all it had to be was natural.
Trust me on that, I've made that same mistake before and got rejected by the same girl twice
because I waited the entire night to make a move to show her that I was interested in
her.
And there's no doubt in my mind that your crush is gonna wanna see that you're confident
now because let's face it, if you can't show that you're confident now what's going to
lead them to believe that you'll be confident later if you do go out.
What do you think though, are you waiting to ask out your crush?
What's holding you back, what's really holding you back?
Leave your comments below and we'll talk about it.
I know it's super scary to do but I totally believe in you and after all the points I
laid out, I think you should do it no matter what.
So what are you waiting for?
If they're single, take that small step go say hi to them, ask them what their hobbies
are or just ask them to hang out.
I believe you can do it and I want you to showcase your best self here.
I'm gonna be there to help you guys out if you need it.
As always, love and peace.