so your online-dating trying to find the absolutely perfect man the guy who is
every single thing that you would ever want on that very long list that you
know you have the hair the job the personality and you go out and you try
to find that guy but sadly before you know it you end up
kind of looking like this now I don't want that to happen you sexy single lady
so in this video right now I'm gonna be getting real with you about some very
practical science to look for in that guy and these will be signs that he's
the one keep watching
hey there Adam little jay from sexy confidence calm where I help you create
your love story and is a bonus part of this video right now I have a special
training that I love for any of you to join it is free and I'm going to teach
you how to attract the one so you see there's a link right there or there's a
link up there now we all live in a world of social media fantasy as it pertains
to love that girlfriend of yours who just met the perfect guy and she's
posing with pictures of him on social media and by the way he's a doctor who
also drives a BMW stop comparing yourself to these people posting on
social media as if they have the perfect lives for all you know this guy probably
kicks dogs in his free time don't be jealous
and it's a big-picture thought when it comes to finding love stop focusing on
these things that really look really good on paper that list focus on the
things that are going to actually make you happy so here are a few ways that
you can really look at finding the right guy in the right relationship for you
number one is he uses the words we and us to describe the relationship now a
few years ago psychologists at the University of Austin Texas found that
those who feel deeply connected to the partner are much more likely to use
plural pronouns such as we and us rather than the regular I or me and that's
because we found as we study really healthy relationships we find that the
people who are best in relationships are the ones that give a lot in the
relationship without asking for a lot in return and then of course their partner
also gives a lot in the relationship thus making both people much better off
in the relationship than they would be single sign number two is that he's your
best friend now I know for a lot of you sexy single ladies out there who are
trying to find love maybe you've never actually been in love and that's okay
but I guarantee most of you watching this video
have at one time or other or hopefully right now you have a best friend
so as you're getting out there and meeting new guys it's really good to
compare kind of your relationship with that guy as you would to just any best
friend I mean think of all the attributes that
a friendship really has and simply compare that to the relationship that
you're in and of course you're not going to be best friends with a guy that you
meet overnight but as time goes on you need to be thinking is there a
possibility that this guy would be a best friend does he really care about me
is he really interested in the things that I do in my life and do we have the
type of chemistry with each other that you've had with other best friends in
your life it's a very good benchmark to look at number three is that you are of
course very attracted to him now this seems like an obvious but I've seen this
time and time again women going for guys based on again what looks good on paper
and in theory sounds great but in reality they're just not that attracted
to them basically there's just no spark so my advice has always been you might
not feel a spark on the first date but if by the second date you're still not
quite feeling it then you know what move on to the next because it's probably not
going to happen the next sign is that the relationship
has what is known as costly commitment signals costly commitment signals
basically a fancy way of just saying that you're willing to make sacrifices
for one another even if historically you've always kind of been looking out
for yourself as number one psychologists coined this term costly commitment
signals when we carry out acts or behave in a way that are likely to cost us
either in terms of our time or energy or resources simply because we love our
significant other and a recent study carried out by psychologists at Japan's
Kobe University found that relationships where this is really lacking or as
absent we're far less likely to go to the distance make sense and finally
number five your lives are just compatible now I once had a client with
two kids ages 4 and ages 7 and we were getting or out
there she's meeting a lot of great guys but she met one guy who she really just
clicked with unfortunately for her at the time he was an Army sergeant now
this is amazing because they connected she of course respected what he did for
a living and they had a lot going for them except for one of course very
important thing is that he travels every single year to a new army base and
unfortunately because her kids were at an age where she really didn't want to
be moving until really they were graduating from college she was just
unwilling to make the sacrifice she wasn't going to be moving around with
this guy and unfortunately he wasn't willing to quit his job so this is a
scenario where everything else may have been going for them but they just
weren't compatible and this sometimes happens in life and maybe this has
happened to you where you feel like everything is clicking except for one
thing so if you're experienced that leave a comment in the comments right
there below telling me your story so if you enjoyed this video please give it a
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