Ever wonder why you keep falling for the wrong guys?
Been searching non-stop for your very own prince, but you're just landing frog after
frog?
The good news is, once you recognize the reasons why you keep choosing Mr. Wrong over Mr. Right,
you'll finally find the fairy tale ending to your love story.
"Dear Nnamdi"
"You were the one for me from the very start."
"And knew that from the depths of my very doubtful heart."
Check your selfie
A 2014 Glamour survey revealed that over 50 percent of women are unhappy with their bodies,
and roughly 80 percent of women can't look in the mirror without feelings of disappointment
and self-loathing.
Ladies, with these sad stats, it's not surprising women can end up attracting men who don't
treat them well.
Research has also shown that many women are more than willing to stay in unhappy and unfulfilling
relationships because they're afraid of being alone.
And another thing?
Fear of commitment.
Some women purposefully sabotage their relationships by pursuing men when there's no possibility
of a future — just because there's also no risk of getting hurt.
"So I was thinking some day we could catch a movie some time… nothing scary."
"That sounds great, Kathy."
"You know. You're going to love my boyfriend.
He's like a total chick-flick nut!"
Fixer-upper
Some women think they can change a man into the person they want him to be.
There's the way he dresses, how he behaves, what he eats, his profession, his thoughts
about marriage, his relationship with his family, or his smoking and drinking habits...the
list goes on, right?
But if you fall for a man you think you can "change," the only thing he's likely to change
is his relationship status — to single.
So rather than hunting down "fixer-uppers" you can mold, shape, and rebuild, it's time
to look for guys who already have your top qualities, characteristics, and priorities
in place.
Material girl
Do you care most about what a man looks like, what kind of car he drives, or how much money
he makes?
Sure, you don't wanna settle when it comes to choosing a potential partner, but it's
equally important to dig a little deeper to connect with someone on a meaningful level.
Are a man's looks your number one priority?
Or do you care more about his other interests, passions, and personal attributes?
Once you clearly understand what specific qualities and beliefs you truly value in another
person, you can then pursue the right man who meets your new and improved standards.
Going in blind
You might be falling for the wrong guys because you're not paying attention to red flags.
"And if you ask her what she does… she'll tell you 'I'm a dancer.'"
"Red flag."
Does your guy behave in a rude, possessive, dishonest, or jealous way?
These are clear indicators that he's not the guy for you.
According to the National Network to End Domestic Violence, his incessant need to spend every
waking moment with you, his moving your relationship at warp speed, as well as his tendency to
deflect blame, are also red flags that can have serious consequences for your mental
and physical health and well-being.
So rather than playing it cool, pay close attention to his unsettling behaviors from
the get-go.
Back to the future
According to Current Psychology, research has shown that people tend to pick partners
who share similar characteristics with their opposite-sex parent.
And when these shared characteristics are highly negative — like, your partner and
father are both short-tempered — it's been shown that your relationship satisfaction
is lower as well.
Creature of habit
If you look back at your past relationships, do the men you've been with seem to share
similar negative qualities?
Were they narcissists, unwilling to commit, or did they treat you poorly?
Many women can become trapped in a negative relationship cycle that causes them to keep
falling for the same type of wrong guy over and over again.
First, recognize that you do have a pattern of choosing the wrong men.
Then, make a list of your relationship non-negotiables.
With this knowledge in hand, you'll be setting yourself up to meet the right man who changes
that pattern for good.
Drama queen
Many women act like drama queens who not only overreact, over-exaggerate, and over-complicate
different situations, but they thrive off of the attention.
And by seeking out men who are disrespectful, self-centered, or immature, these women have
the perfect excuse to go full-on drama queen mode.
"I'm not a kid and you're not a kid, you're a grown woman, you are a grown woman."
People who seek out drama simply want to feel cared for and loved.
So if you lean toward the dramatic side, it's time to put the focus on yourself and take
steps toward improving your self-esteem.
Mismatched and looking for Mister Right
Maybe you simply haven't met the right person yet.
Perhaps you're not truly putting yourself out there, haven't made dating a priority,
or feel a bit discouraged because of the different duds you've dated thus far.
But, if you're wondering why you keep falling for the wrong men, it might just be that you
haven't yet crossed paths with the right one.
Put the odds in your favor by signing up for dating apps, asking others to fix you up,
factoring time for dating into your busy schedule, and seizing the opportunity to meet new people!
Clearly, there are many different reasons why women fall for the wrong men.
Fortunately, once you fully understand the underlying causes, you can close this chapter
in your life and look toward a better and brighter future.
Mr. Right...is right around the corner.
"What's wrong with being confident…"
"She's re-writing her happy ending."
"Bring on the men!"
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