Older men, younger women.
Have you ever considered
dating a woman who is younger than you
maybe even substantially younger than you?
Uhh...
Well, in this video, we're going to go over the
pros, cons, and risks
of dating a younger woman
and what she's thinking
So, first of all, what's the acceptable age gap
when dating someone younger?
Well, really
as long as she's of legal age
then it
is entirely up to you
and it's based on your
values, beliefs systems, long-term goals
to see if you're actually compatible.
Now this is talking about
longer term relationships.
Of course, if you're just interested in a shorter term relationship
or a very short-term
perhaps a one-night
relationship
then these are probably not going to apply
however if you really like her
or if that one-night relationship
is really great
then that's going to cloud your judgment
and you're going to ignore
some of the red flags.
We'll talk about those in just a moment.
Before we get into that,
let's just go over
a few of the things
that you want to consider
for long-term relationships.
So, the first thing is chemistry.
For a younger woman
dating an older man
chemistry isn't just about looks.
She is more concerned about your character
than the package that you come in.
So, we'll go over that a little bit more
later
maybe.
Now, that doesn't mean she doesn't notice your looks,
but she's not...
If she's a younger woman
who's interested in an older man
then she's not going to expect you
to look like Chad or Tyrone.
Character
and personality traits
are not one and the same.
And your values, beliefs
don't have to be
the same,
but they have to be compatible.
They have to align.
The next area we want to look at
is long term goals.
So, these are really foundational.
These three things are foundational
in all relationships,
but you want to particularly pay attention
when you are dating a younger woman
because first thing into consideration
for long term goals
is children.
Of course, the younger she is
the less likely she is
to have already had children.
She won't know if she necessarily wants children,
she
may already have children.
And these are all things that you have to think about
if you're considering
a relationship with someone
who's a lot younger than you.
Along the same lines is
work and retirement.
Are you in retirement?
Are you getting close to retirement?
Or are you still active
you know in the workforce?
And what about her?
So, if she's still working
and has to work
to be able to pay for her own expenses.
To pay her bills and whatnot
and you're ready to retire
and go out and play.
If she can't afford to retire along with you
are you prepared to pick up the slack
in order for her to be able to do that?
Definitely a consideration.
Yes, we're getting to
the financial aspect.
So, along with that is
how much money
do you have?
Or are you bringing in?
Versus how much money does she have?
Or is she bringing in?
Is she able to contribute enough
to make it worthwhile
being with her?
If she can't contribute
as much as you need
to have a lifestyle
that you want.
Again, are you willing to pick up the slack
and go along with the risks
that, that entails,
which could be obligations down the road
if things don't work out
and you end up breaking up
As well, In terms of lifestyle
are you
both on the same page?
Do you want to travel?
And or do you want to you know nest?
Or do you want to
move out to the country
and start farm or whatnot?
Like, are these sort of
lifestyle aspects.
Things that are going to be compatible now
and in the future.
And of course, there's intimacy.
So, do you have the same
sex drive?
Are you on the same page?
And if not are you able to
sort of navigate and negotiate
the compromises you may need to make
in order to have that fit
because obviously
it's still going to be an important factor
even if it's not just
"the act."
There's going to be a level of sexual intimacy
that you're going to need to be
on the same page with.
And just before we get into
what she's thinking about
when considering dating an older men.
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So, some of the potentially negative things
that she's thinking about
when considering dating an older man
are to do with
one, sexual ability.
Are you on the same page?
Can you still do
what she still wants to be able to do in that arena?
And if not, are you willing to get the blue steel pill
to be able to make that happen?
And the next thing is
life expectancy.
If she's sincerely interested in you
because she cares about you and loves you
or this is the goal of the relationship.
Then she's going to be wondering
how long you're going to last?
How healthy are you?
If she really genuinely cares about you
she's going to want you
to live a long time
so that she can share
her life with you.
Along with those lines
your health and care plans.
Is she going to have
to take care of you down the road?
All things considered equal.
I mean anybody could get
you know injured
or some kind of disease along the way.
She could as well,
but
the law of averages says that
you're probably going to
have health issues
before she does
based on age
and that's what we're talking about here.
So, those are things that she's going to consider.
Another thing she'll consider is
your
mental and intellectual capabilities
as you age because
you lose brain cells along the way.
If you don't exercise them.
So, be sure to
get your choline,
choline, choline.
Anyways, there's a song
I use for choline which helps your brain,
but you can also eat egg yolks.
I have a great ice cream recipe
that includes egg yolks.
Anyways, so she's going to be considering
your mental capabilities
as you age together.
And then the fifth thing that she's going to be considering
on the potentially negative aspect
is generational relating.
So, you're
going to be...
Not being able to relate necessarily
in terms of the
what's the word,
what's the word.
I forget the word.
I need more choline.
So, anyways,
the idea is
songs of your generation
versus songs that she's listening to.
Things that you grew up with
she's not going to be able to understand or relate to.
So, that may or may not
factor into whether or not
you're going to be able to have
a compatible relationship,
but there are definitely things that she's going to think about.
However, on the positive side of things.
Some of the positive things that...
If she's interested
in dating an older man
will be
that along with
age potentially comes
sexual
experience
and skill.
Especially if you've ever been in
a longer-term relationship
and you've been a caring
lover.
So, that's definitely one thing that she...
If she's ever had any experience
with an older man
she will know that, that could potentially
be a positive.
The next thing that is
a potential positive for a
younger woman dating an older man
is your maturity
and certainty.
Especially again compared to
younger men or men her own age.
Next thing that she will see as a positive
is along those lines
self-assurance.
You know as we age especially...
Well, maybe not especially men,
but definitely men as you get older
you kind of get to a point where it's like men,
you know, it is what it is.
So, there's sort of a level of self-assurance
where you're constantly
second-guessing yourself
and you're just
kind of getting more comfortable
in your own skin and your own
way of being in the world
and that's really attractive to a younger woman.
And along with that
is wisdom.
So, of course, you can't have wisdom
without having had experience.
And usually
the wisdom we gain from experience
comes from bad experiences,
which means you've learned something,
which means that she can rely on you
to probably get through difficult or troubled times
or have some reasonable
life experience advice
that she wouldn't necessarily
get from someone her own age.
And finally, leadership.
So, the more
wisdom
and certainty
and self-assurance
you have as you age,
the more that she'll be able to
rely on you
for leading
the relationship and leading in life.
And those are all really, really attractive qualities
for any woman.
So, in other words,
you're not some
starving artist,
young buck,
struggling student
in debt up to his eyeballs,
not sure where he's going in life,
and having to prove himself
before being able to settle down.
So, that's actually another little bonus point
is that she's probably more certain
that if you're ready for a relationship
you're actually are really ready
for a relationship and commitment.
You're not just saying it
whereas you might not really be ready
like some younger man.
They might say they are but they really don't know
what they want or what they're looking for.
And so, it's a greater risk
to be with someone her own age.
Now, of course, there's always going to be
young women who are shallow
and or gold diggers.
So, you know there's... If you're only interested
in a temporary relationship
or you don't mind not being truly cared for
then you can go for the *** and gold diggers.
There's definitely many of those out there
some are really hot.
So, the more money that you have
the more you can afford those ones.
And the only thing is,
is that you're just not going to feel like...
That she really cares about you.
The other thing to consider
when dating a younger woman
is that people have preferences
just like you might have preferences.
So, that's okay
don't take it personally just move on to the next.
More likely
women who are
interested or open to dating older men
probably have
daddy issues.
(Sighs)
Either their father left them when they were young
or died.
That's what happened with my dad.
I can speak to this personally because
I married a man who was 16 years older than
I am.
And...
So, yeah that's my personal experience.
That doesn't necessarily mean it's a bad thing
it just means that she may be
looking for
or open to
that sort of father figure
that comes with being with an older man.
And again, that's not necessarily a bad thing,
but you do want to look for signs
that she's damaged, emotionally damaged.
So, watch my
damaged women video
or playlist on narcissists
because
you know just because she's interested
or open to dating someone older.
If she does have issues
that she hasn't resolved.
Could be trouble, could be a big red flag.
No, you don't want that.
Okay, stay tuned.
My next video I am going to share with you
how to attract a younger woman.