- How do you maintain conversation with a girl?
Not just open it, but actually maintain it
and keep the conversation flowing
especially if you don't have a particularly
interesting life or you believe that you don't
have a particularly interesting life?
- Easy, I call this the Four Rules of Verbal Game.
Number one is it's not about what you say,
it's about how you say it.
And that first rule is kind of divided
into three sub parts.
Paint pictures in their head,
write songs in their head,
and talk about your feelings.
Like you just said, oh I don't have an interesting life.
Like okay, describe her how you woke up in the morning
and you walked, you got to work.
Shitting on a five job.
Now you can say, okay, I woke up, got into my car,
and I guess I drove to my job.
That's not rule number one, so what I would say is,
I woke up in the morning because there was this like
little sun ray coming through the window
and it was kind of tickling my nose.
I woke up, I had a healthy breakfast,
I chugged down some hot, freshly brewed coffee
and I rolled down the windows in my car
and I breathed the spring air.
It felt good and on the radio, got my favourite song
and I felt pumped because hell yeah,
I'm on my way to work, it feels good.
Later on, I'm gonna hit the gym.
I felt like I arrived, you know,
I felt like I'm doing things I'm supposed to do
and I'm contributing to something bigger.
Or if you hate your job, you can be like,
I feel like I'm in this prison and I need to get out.
I wanna be free, I wanna fly like a butterfly.
That way sounds a lot better because I'm painting pictures.
I'm describing what it looks like.
The sun ray tickling my nose.
I'm rolling down the window, right.
I hear the wind coming in.
I talk about my feelings.
I felt free, I felt awesome, I felt energetic.
That way you can make something very boring,
sound very, very interesting.
That's just rule number one though.
Rule number two is talk about your passions.
Here's the thing, girls don't care what your passion is.
If it's extreme sports, if it's chess or anime.
It doesn't matter if it's something cool or not.
For girls it's just important that the guy has
this glaring fire in his chest.
That's what's important for her.
She just wants to know is the guy passionate
about something 'cause if he's completely passionless,
he's not gonna fuck you up.
A guy talking about his passion is like a preview
of what it looks like when she has sex with him.
If he's just like yeah, I kinda,
I'm a freestyle snowboarder, I guess,
it's pretty cool, I fly through the air.
Doesn't sound very interesting, but if a guy talks
about mathematics in a passionate way.
Listen to mathematics, he explains the entire universe.
Sometimes I'm just sitting down on a empty sheet
of paper and I'm starting to make calculations
and the whole world starts making sense to me.
It makes you feel like I have the inside,
like I have control, mathematics.
And the girl's like, oh my god,
mathematics sounds so cool.
Rule number three is no filters.
Here's the thing, you always run out of things to say
with girls, right.
Funny, you never run out of things
when you hang out with your loser friends.
Or your fucking family because you don't have
an agenda there.
You're like this is my family, they can't run away,
they can't reject me, right, so you just talk.
But with girls, you're like,
you wanna say something and you're like (gasps)
you're running through the filter.
Is it cool, is it interesting, will I trigger attraction?
No, fuck that.
Just talk, just say whatever the fuck you want.
Girls feel that.
This guy has nothing to lose.
Girls feel like holy shit,
this guy can talk about anything.
Rule number four is the free associations.
I call it exchangeable associations.
Whatever the girl says, pick one word
and say the first thing that comes up to your mind.
She's like oh, yeah, you ask her,
do you come here often, yeah, I come here often.
You can pick yes, come, here, often.
Let's say we pick often and I'm like,
yeah, know where I go often?
I go to the gym often, it's quite interesting
because there's a lot of weights there.
Now you think weights, gym, a lot.
You know what else is a lot?
The pizza store right next to the gym actually
has a lot of pizza.
Every time I'm going out there, I smell the good pizza
and I have to resist.
The resistance is a bitch.
Actually I just watched Rogue One
where they talk about the Resistance rise, cool.
So Resistance Movement about the atom pay roll forces
and it kind of blends into Episode IV: A New Hope,
I don't know, I'm a nerd.
I know you girl probably haven't seen any of those movies,
but I'm a nerd.
You know who else is a nerd?
Elon Musk, right now he's doing this tunnel system
that connects Los Angeles and San Francisco,
isn't that crazy?
Just drive through a tunnel
and not through shit fucking traffic.
Traffic here is actually pretty all right.
I was thinking about getting a helicopter,
but then I was like, no, I don't know how
to fly a helicopter.
I wish it would be like in the Matrix
where you just download the programme
to steal a helicopter (dialogue drowned out by laughing).
Boom, right now I talked about 50 different things.
Here's the thing, if you as a guy,
like but that makes no logical sense,
there's no coherence.
Yeah, have you ever listened to a girl talk
(dialogue drowned out by laughing and clapping)
- So fucking right.
(laughing)
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