- I ran out of toothpaste two days ago,
and I still haven't gotten more.
(old-fashioned, light music)
Hooray, it's everybody's favorite kind of video,
the getting into the weeds of the cognitive functions,
which some of you Myers-Briggs people don't even understand.
Yay, hooray, we're doin' it, guys.
Today, we're gonna talk about what is it like
to have extroverted sensing as your inferior function,
and this is what INFJs and INTJs have as the inferior.
It's the thing that is really trippin' them up in life,
and here's something I've realized
as we're talking about this.
Everyone has basically all the same problems in life.
It's not like because you're a specific type
you don't have problems with one area or another.
It's not like, if you're Se dominant,
that doesn't mean
that you're not gonna have problems relating to that,
but what it means is your inferior function,
that's where the problems are gonna come up
that you didn't see coming,
and it's gonna be the ones that you're afraid of the most,
and those are the ones that are gonna keep you up at night.
So first of all, quick refresher,
extroverted sensing is
basically just the real physical world.
It's what you perceive in the moment right now.
That's all it is.
It's also a gathering function.
So it's taking in new information.
So being the inferior function for the INFJ, INTJ,
that means that the lead function Ni is kinda the opposite.
It's not about the real world.
It's all about this dreamland,
this fantasy world in your head,
where you're trying to see possibilities.
You're going really deeply into concepts and the abstract
and disrespecting the real world happening around us.
The reason I started thinking about this today is
because it seems to me like
why can I get anything done in life?
Maybe it's because I disrespect the real world around me,
and I'm spending too much darn time in my head.
Earlier today, I was trying to sell a watch on eBay,
and it has taken me a long time just to get started with it
because for a long time I've known that I wanted to sell it,
and the thing is, though, I don't sell on eBay all the time.
So it was like, oh crap, now I'm gonna have to do research.
I'm gonna have to refresh my memory,
learn new things on how to do this.
I'm gonna have to look up
what did other people sell this watch for?
How much money can I get for it?
Crap, now I'm gonna have to list this thing.
I'm gonna have to get it out, and crap, where's the box?
There it is.
Oh, no, now I can't find the instructions.
Where have I put everything?
No, now I have to take a picture,
the lighting, the background.
I've gotta get a tablecloth out to underlie everything
for a background.
Crap, the tablecloth has creases in it.
Now I need to iron it out.
(sighing)
So it took a lot.
Anyone would have to deal with that.
Anyone who wants to sell something on eBay
who doesn't normally do it,
they would have to first figure out how to do it,
and they would go through all the same issues,
but for someone with extroverted sensing last,
it is like you are afraid to even get started
because you don't wanna open the Pandora's box
of all the new stuff that you're gonna have to face
'cause it's like you know,
even though I didn't know exactly what was gonna happen,
I knew that, as I go down this road
of trying to take pictures,
that there was gonna be some stupid thing
that's gonna distract me.
I knew, even though I didn't know exactly what it was.
I knew something like having
to iron the background was gonna happen,
and I had this fear of it because who knows
how many other things are gonna spread from that?
You know what I'm sayin'?
Maybe it's just the one thing.
Maybe it's just the ironing,
but maybe from there, it could be all this other stuff.
The iron's broken.
The electricity bill hasn't been paid.
(chuckling)
Not that extreme, but it can get that extreme, man,
or you know your toothpaste has been running out,
but it still seems like a surprise when you go back
for the second day in a row, and there's no toothpaste,
and you're like, oh yeah, I guess I need some more.
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and it causes me to never wanna start anything
because I know that almost anything I do is gonna have
these unexpected detours of stupid little crap
that I have to take care of,
and the problem is I'm discovering as I have matured
that life is all just a bunch of stupid little things,
one after the other.
As Winston Churchill said about history,
and as Eckhart Tolle likes to quote him,
it's just one damned thing after another.
That's really what life feels like (chuckling)
when you have extroverted sensing last,
and if someone who has lead extroverted sensing, yeah, sure,
life is one thing after another, but they can handle it.
They're like sure.
They're like a baseball catcher, and they've got the mitt,
and they're like sure, new thing, new thing, new thing.
I don't care, whatever.
I'll deal with it.
Their problem is gonna be at the end of the day.
They'll be like what am I doing?
What does this all mean, you know,
but for an INF or INTJ,
they're gonna know what the meaning is.
They're just not gonna be able
to handle the baseballs being thrown at 'em.
They're like someone behind home plate with a bare hand,
and they're gettin' out of the way
as Max Scherzer throws a 95 mile an hour fastball at them.
That's what it's like, and you're scared
'cause you know another one's coming,
and then as soon as you get the mitt,
and this is an extended baseball metaphor warning.
As soon as you get the mitt and you're like, okay,
I can catch a fastball, all of a sudden,
he throws a curve ball, and you're like,
crap, what is that?
What am I looking at?
F if I know, and so in everyday life,
it's sort of like I have this idea of what I wanna do
with my life and where it's heading, and unfortunately,
I have to do things like get the oil changed on the car,
and I have to buy toothpaste,
and I have to go to the doctor,
but then it's not that simple,
and that's where the fear comes in,
as you know it's never that simple.
You never it's never just get an oil change
because we often have a tendency to ignore the things
that are piling up.
It's like okay, whatever, there's a noise of the car.
Maybe you don't even hear it,
or maybe you hear it, and you're like whatever,
so that when you finally get faced with these things,
they've been piling up,
and so you take the car to get an oil change,
and they're like a squirrel has made a nest in the engine,
or it's like actually you need a new everything.
That'll be $2000, please.
Lemme tell you, I got a new car in December,
and it has been the biggest relief ever
that I don't have to worry about it breaking down.
It has been heavenly.
From there, it's like you know it's not just gonna be going
to the doctor.
You know your doctor's gonna say your cholesterol,
and you're going to be like crap,
and then you get your cholesterol under control,
and then you go to the dentist,
and he's like your tooth, it's got a cavity,
and your like crap w--
Maybe I should have gotten
that toothpaste a few days earlier
and not let it go so long,
and you start to get this feeling like you're trapped
by all these stupid things,
and the life is getting strangled out of you
from one stupid thing after another, and it's like please,
somebody just take care of the stupid crap for me.
Just let me focus on my big plans
and my big philosophical musings.
Lemme focus on that crap,
and all the jokers around me can worry
about whether or not there's toothpaste in the house
'cause it's frightening to have to face that.
It's frightening to have to be like,
man, I've gotta be ready for anything coming,
and I've gotta keep an eye out.
I've got a be vigilant,
and you know what the big irony is?
The big irony is that I consider myself
to be detail oriented.
I would never call myself,
what's the opposite of detail oriented,
detail not oriented, disoriented?
I can pick a typo out better than anyone.
I am a typo spotting monkey fudger.
I can spot inconsistencies.
I spot detail issues.
Maybe it's also a thing like when it's your inferior,
you feel really proud of being able to pick out that stuff,
and you're like I caught you.
I caught you on that.
I caught a detail.
Maybe it's also because you're so afraid
of it you become hypersensitive to it all,
especially when it's other people's lives.
Your like, hey, joker,
I see that you're missing a detail, yeah.
Meanwhile, someone pointed out in my video the other day,
the love languages video, that I spelled it
in the hash tag lanugages or something.
So it goes to show you how detail oriented I am.
All right, so here's something else
that I'm wondering about.
You tell me what you think about it,
but when someone has a major revelation in their life
about what life is really about
or how to find happiness and all that stuff,
maybe it's related to what their inferior function is.
It's like I figured out life,
and so I wonder if, I don't know.
I haven't typed Eckhart,
but I wonder if he's like an IJ, like an INFJ, INTJ,
something like that
because his key to life is just be
in the present moment all the time and don't think.
So that makes me wonder if that a-ha moment for him was like
I've been ignoring extroverted sensing all these years,
and that's the point of life.
Now I know a lot of you have asked how do we get better
at this extroverted sensing thing,
and I'm not the best person to give out life advice here,
but I would say that it really comes down
to just really disciplining yourself
and finding ways to be more in the present moment,
but it's not just be in the present moment
but figure out how to handle your life in a way
where you're not afraid
of things breaking down all the time,
and so that means not disrespecting things as they come up
and to try to be ever more vigilant to be on top
of the things breaking down in your life around you,
so buying that toothpaste, making sure that your car,
you're keeping up with the maintenance on it.
I mean, this sounds really boring, doesn't it,
(chuckling)
and it should.
It should sound boring.
If it's your inferior function,
it's gonna sound like the last thing you ever want to do is
to be on top of all the little stupid things in life,
and you know you have to do it,
and you probably are in a state
of low-level anxiety all the time because of all the things
in your life that you know you would have to do,
and you know that you have been kind of the collecting it
and that it's gonna blow up on you sooner or later.
Suddenly, my mind went somewhere,
and I'm just gonna go there,
even though this video has gone on a bit.
This can even manifest itself in relationships where,
I'm gonna make a whole nother video about it, I think,
but you start to have this fear in relationships
that there's something that's gonna blow up,
and you don't understand where it's gonna come from.
You don't know what's going on.
Over at Objective Personality, aka DaveSuperPowers,
they talk about the "missing information"
that's the INFJ's biggest fear and INTJ.
C.S. Joseph talks
about how INFJs are really all about loyalty,
and then they get paranoid that the people
around them aren't loyal.
I think it comes from this.
I'm not sure if he explains it this way,
but I think it comes
from feeling like there's some information
or lots of information missing
that you're kinda just like waiting
for this curve ball to come out,
and it makes you not wanna trust people
because you feel like they are gonna be like everything else
in your life,
where all these little stupid details are gonna come up,
and it ultimately is either in your imagination
because you're so used to things blowing up on you,
or it's your fault because you're ignoring things,
and there's been things cropping up,
and you've just chosen to ignore it and not tend to it.
So that's extroverted sensing as the inferior function.
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Switching topics, I almost did this today.
I almost made a video where I'm gonna try to type Sir Paul,
Sir Paul McCartney using the objective personality method.
Now, I held off on it because I'm like, you know,
I'm not really sure.
I'd like to feel a little bit more confident about this.
I'd like to try to disprove the thing I've come to right now
'cause right now, I'm unsure.
It's between two types.
Plus, he's really hard to type because he is a PR master
who I don't even know if he's ever his real self
in interviews,
but he has a lot of interviews,
so I'm trying to catch him just for a minute,
see where his brain goes.
I'm not doing it today.
If you are in the Objective Personality class,
or if you've watched DaveSuperPowers,
and you kinda know what's going on with that,
and you wanna get the checklist on their website,
I think you can get the checklist there,
it would be cool if you all, separately from me,
tried to type Paul, and then when I make that video,
which will happen fairly soon, maybe my very next video,
then we can compare notes.
You can tell me what you got.
This is sort of like the "partner system"
that they recommend, except this'll be a bit more open.
Anyone can be my partner in this,
and then we can critique each other,
see where we went wrong,
because it's probably gonna be a disaster,
and I'm gonna make a fool of myself,
but I gotta try.
This is sort of my thing is thinking
I've mastered something in two months
that took other people years to do.
Those chumps, how could they not get it as fast as I can,
(chuckling)
and as soon as I get some knowledge, I need to use it.
So that's about it for me.
(chuckling)
Thanks for watching.
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(tin crinkling)
and that's about it for me, bye.