this video is going to cover some topics
on self-awareness but I wanted to tell
you guys first
the information was gathered by my
friend inside junkie but you got his
channel for more videos like this so
self-awareness is the biggest asset that
you can have if you want to be
successful in life is what you need in
order to choose the right career the
right relationship and the right social
circle if you have to get from one city
to another you have to know which city
you are in right now on the map
similarly self-awareness is like knowing
where you are on the map of life so you
can chart a course to your destination
here are four tips are developing
self-awareness and he's even included a
bonus tip number one keep a journal
so the first step to become more self
where is to keep a journal numerous
studies have shown that people who keep
a journal are more happy and are also
more successful
it doesn't have to be a very time
intensive task if you don't want it to
be the whole point of this exercise is
to become more in tune of how you are
feeling every day and then look back and
reflect on it something that I like to
think a lot about with regards to
keeping a journal is that the value of
writing is not in the writing of itself
but in reading it when you're in a
different state of mind however I'd like
to draw a very clear distinction between
keeping a journal and writing a diary
while writing a diary does not really
have an end goal apart from just writing
down your feelings and what happened
that day keeping a journal has a very
direct purpose and that is personal
evolution in order to get you started
with writing a journal here's the basic
structure inspired by tim ferriss every
morning before you do anything else
write down three things that are
bothering you the most
then write down three things that you're
grateful for in addition to this I also
like to write down my task for the day
then write down whatever else I feel
like writing and then at the end of the
day before going to bed you should write
down a few words about how you felt that
day the events that occurred another
stuff this is for you to vent and to
document your thoughts
you can also write down the tasks that
you plan to do for the next day keep
doing this every day for at least a
month to make it a habit and every
weekend go back through your journal and
look at everything that you wrote the
previous week once you start to do this
enough you will begin to see patterns in
your behavior patterns that you couldn't
see before maybe you realize that your
interactions with your neighbor really
do make your day better
so you should start hanging out with
them or maybe you realize that whenever
you eat junk food for lunch the rest of
your day becomes unbearable to start
eating healthier whatever you can
measure you can improve and keeping a
journal is the best way to measure
self-awareness doesn't matter if its
digital or in a traditional notebook
the matters is that you are consistent
tip number two is to make an 18-month
plan so according to peter drucker the
author of managing oneself if you don't
know where your strengths and weaknesses
are you should make an 18-month plan
before taking any key decision in your
life
write down what you expect to happen 18
months later now this timeframe of 18
months is very important
the reason is chosen to be 18 months is
because it's neither too short so that
your goals seem too big to achieve lures
a too long of a time frame so that you
don't even want to work on it i think
this can be particularly helpful in
deciding which career you want to pursue
if you want to become a graphic designer
before starting write down what you
expect the outcome of this job to be 18
months down the road
write down your expectations your hopes
what action you're going to take then
when the 18 months are up compare your
reality to what you wrote down now you
will be able to deduce where your
strengths and weaknesses are
maybe you didn't do so well in group
projects that involve a lot of people
maybe you work really well under stress
them whatever it is you find try not to
identify yourself on the basis of your
strengths and weaknesses i think of life
as an RPG game and each person has
various attributes that can be approved
incrementally with that being said once
you find out what your base strengths
are you need to double down on them
which brings me to my next point number
three always play To Your Strengths it's
much easier to play in the NBA if your
7-foot tall vs if you're five foot tall
it's much easier to become a public
speaker if you're naturally have thick
skin
the point is in life you're going to
have certain predispositions to certain
activities
it could be a nuisance you're born or
that you have acquired through your
childhood
whatever the case maybe it's much easier
to work on your strengths rather than to
improve on your weaknesses and in order
to do this you're going to have to get
rid of any romantic notions that you had
about your life and be very honest with
yourself if you always thought that you
want to be a computer programmer but you
tend to do your best work in outdoor
activities then maybe it's best for you
to pick a career that is more outdoors
it will be far easier to leverage your
natural strength been working hard on
improving a weakness which will give
nearly as many returns
there's also a part of the problem with
education systems around the world
standardized tests weren't built to
measure your strengths and weaknesses
like they say you can you judge a fish
by its ability to climb a tree it will
live its whole life believing that it is
stupid when you figure out what your
strengths and start applying them in the
right places you're going to have a much
easier time entering the state of flow
like we talked about in the early
the video in the last tip is to ask your
family and friends even after journaling
introspecting you may not be able to
find all of your strengths and
weaknesses
some things are only visible from the
outside which is why you will need the
help from your family and friends figure
out 10 people in your life who you trust
people you can rely on to give you
honest feedback and ask them what they
think your strengths and weaknesses are
if you have a hard time doing this in
person you can also send them an email
or like a message on facebook
why you're asking them this be sure to
tell them that they can be a hundred
percent honest with you that you won't
take offense to anything they have to
say but you have to be true to it to
most people will have a hard time being
completely honest with you to let them
know that you're comfortable with him
being brutally honest after you get
everyone's responses are going to have a
good amount of data to analyze yourself
with the best thing you can do with this
exercise is that most people's responses
overlap then you will immediately know a
fact about yourself
so for example if you thought that you
were a good listener but eight out of
ten people that you asked said that they
wish you were a better listener than
that is something that you need to work
on and then other things one overlap
keep them in your mind and see if any of
them holds true
not everything that everyone else has to
say about you will be true but it will
be in your best interest to at least
give it a thought the bonus tip is
meditation meditation is a really
helpful tool that has gained a lot of
popularity recently and for good reasons
meditation doesn't have to be
complicated and you can do it in 10
minutes before starting your day inside
donkey does it right after writing his
journal simply sit still for 10 minutes
and focus on your breath
observe your thoughts and keep your mind
still don't get annoyed if you get a lot
of random thoughts that is simply part
of the process you will soon realize how
much chatter there really is going in on
your mind and all you have to do is be
patient and let the thoughts pass this
helps tremendously in taking control of
your thighs which lends itself perfectly
to becoming more self-aware now on a
personal note I want to say that
self-awareness is really important to me
is one of the main reasons that I
dropped out of engineering school I was
good at it but I didn't enjoy I couldn't
be the best in my field if I didn't
enjoy it and i want to wish all of you
best of luck and becoming more
self-aware i want to say a big thank you
to incite junkie for coming up with this
script and coming up with a lot of the
information for the script you check out
his channel for some awesome videos
thanks for watching and I hope you guys
enjoyed