Do you think that the only way to win your ex is back is by begging and pleading with
them for another chance?
If so, then think again!
Believe it or not, the truth is that the ball doesn’t have to be in your ex’s court.
In fact, there is a way to turn the tables and make it your decision to give the relationship
another try.
This may sound impossible, but it’s simply a matter of shifting power.
My name is Brad Browning, and today I’m going to talk to you about reversing roles
to get your ex to chase after you.
As some of you may already know, I’m a relationship and breakup coach from Vancouver, Canada.
My online program, The Ex Factor Guide, teaches folks like you how to reverse a breakup and
get a second chance with an ex.
So, like I said, this video is about how to reverse the roles and have your ex chase after
YOU, instead of the other way around.
First and foremost, you need realize exactly what is it you’re trying to do here, and
that’s shift the power from your ex, to you.
At the time of the breakup, your ex was in complete control - They were the one who made
the decision to breakup, and you were left feeling powerless.
So much so that at the time you would have done anything to convince them to give your
relationship another try.
But now, since the breakup is still very much a real thing and your ex hasn’t come crawling
back, it’s time for you to put yourself in a position of power.
To do this you’re going to need to accomplish three things:
You’re going to turn the tables.
You’re going to remove your ex’s safety net and...
You’re going to make them chase you.
So, let’s get started by talking about step #1… the disappearing act.
Step One: The Disappearing Act
To put it simply, in order to turn the tables you’re going to have to show your ex you
no longer need them in your life.
The way to do this is to cut off all communication with them for about 30 days.
This disappearing act, which is also commonly referred to as the “No Contact Period,”
will not only surprise your ex, but it’ll also make them miss you.
Since they expect you to go running back to them, doing the opposite of this will make
them confused and insecure.
Rather than begging your ex for a second chance, the message you are sending is loud and clear:
You don’t need them, you are strong, and you are okay with finding someone new….
Don’t panic, this doesn’t have to how you actually feel, it’s just important your
ex thinks this is the case.
The more time that passes without communication, the harder it will be for your ex to fight
the feelings of longing and nostalgia.
Since you haven’t been in contact, all the negative memories that caused you to breakup
in the first place will be replaced with pleasant memories, and this will cause your ex to question
the breakup.
If, after this video, you’d like to learn more about the no contact period and how to
win your ex back, visit my website, BreakupBrad.com and watch the full length video presentation.
I also offer one-on-one coaching to a limited number of clients, so if that’s something
you may be interested in, then head over to BreakupBrad.com/coaching.
Again, the URL to that website is BradBrad.com/coaching.
OK, on to step number two, which is to remove your ex’s ‘safety net’....
Step Two: Remove Their Safety Net
Depending on how you and your ex broke up, they may have told you that they want to stay
friends.
This gesture may have seemed like good intentions, but the real reason for your ex wanting this
is simple: They wanted to keep you around as plan “B” incase they later decide to
take you back because the single life wasn’t quite as glamorous as the hoped.
This is something you cannot allow.
In order to shift the balance of power into your favour, you need to clearly indicate
to your ex that they must choose between being in a romantic relationship with you, or not
having you in their life at all.
By agreeing to “be friends” or remaining in contact with your ex, you’re basically
just agreeing to be their safety net, and you’re allowing them to slowly adjust to
life without you by their side.
If your ex tries to contact you, and they probably will at some point during this phase,
this gives you the opportunity to show them that you’re calling the shots now.
Although you’ve cut off communication with your ex, when they come calling it’s important
to be be calm, cool, and collected.
Be sure to keep the conversation short, and be the one to end the call.
Doing this will show your ex that you’re moving on, and best yet, when they see you’re
unfazed by the thought of life without them, they’ll realize that breaking up with you
was a big mistake.
Again, it’s all about making sure your ex knows that you’re moving on to bigger and
better things unless they wake up and decide to take you back.
And remember, if you have any questions about this this video...then please feel free to
ask your questions in the comments section below.
I do my very best to answer all of your questions, so go ahead and just send me a question below.
And on to step three, which is simply to wait for your ex to begin chasing after you….
As I just mentioned, by employing steps one and two properly, you’re showing your ex
that you’re fine without them, and that you won’t be their “plan B.”
The more time that passes, the more desperate your ex is going to become.
As the fear of losing you grows, they’ll step up their attempts to spend time with
you and talk with you.
Once your ex begins showing more interest in you, remember that you shouldn’t jump
the gun - don’t be too eager to talk about your relationship again, don’t tell them
that you’ve missed them, and don’t tell them that you want them back.
Remember, you’re still trying to hold on to the power you’ve just gained -- don’t
let that go.
That’s not to say that you should decline if your ex asks to hang out with you again…
after all, that’s an important next step towards winning them back.
But don’t seem too excited or get ahead of yourself and give back all the power to
your ex right away… take it slow, and apply the techniques I’ve outlined in my Ex Factor
program to build attraction and turn a simple ‘hangout’ into a new, stronger relationship.
For more on how to do this, watch the video on my website, BreakupBrad.com, where I share
some more advanced techniques.
Anyways, that’s all for this video, I hope you enjoyed watching…
talk to you soon, bye for now!