Heya Playa have you ever sent a DM to your crush only to just not get any type of
response back from them? It's like they just left you on read or ghosted you
completely. Don't worry in this video I'm gonna explain what you can do when your
crush doesn't respond back to your DMs. It's not hopeless and I'm gonna teach you why.
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to click on the notification bell. Now the first thought that might run through
your mind when you don't get a response back from them is what did I do wrong?
Did I say something, did I do something? Why aren't they responding? And this is
pretty typical right? You start to think that you messed up along the way instead
of really thinking of some other potential things that might be causing
them to not respond. We really do live in a world where people expect instant
gratification, meaning, if I send you a message and even if you look at that
message I'm expecting a response back when I want it but one thing we have to
remember is that not everyone is ready to go into a text conversation. Not every
one is ready to respond to someone or not everyone knows exactly what they
want to say. There have been plenty of times where people text me something, I
read that message and I tell myself okay I'm gonna respond to this when I have
the time and energy to invest in that conversation. Doesn't mean I don't want
to talk to that person it just means in this moment I'm not ready to do that. But
when it comes to our crush we play it up because we have these deep feelings for
them we're hoping and wanting that they like us back just as much as we like
them and the truth of the matter is the question you have to ask yourself is
have you invested the time to get them to feel that way? If you haven't invested
that time then chances are there's more hoping than doing going on here, so
you're gonna want to change how you communicate with them. The first way to
go about doing that is to stop spamming them and sending them multiple messages
over and over when they haven't even responded to the first one. People think
that by offering a variation of a greeting eventually one of those phrases
is in a catch wind with your crush and your crush is actually gonna respond but
instead all you end up making is a wall of text that says "hey", "how's it going",
"what's up", "what are you up to" "what's new" and that just will totally turn your
crush off. So if you not getting through to your crush by
texting them what are you supposed to do? Well I would recommend talking to them
in person. I think if you have the opportunity to approach them to say "hey",
to ask them how they're doing and to start a conversation like that it's
gonna be way easier for them to remember that you're a person that they want to speak
to so when you do end up texting them after you talk to them in person, it's
gonna be easier for them to respond because there's a face to that username.
Chances are your crush is getting way more text messages and it's involved in
way more group chats and conversations than you probably think they are so if
you want to stand out from anyone else who's trying to get with them through
text, talk to them in person. That's gonna show a level of confidence that no one
else is doing. It's gonna let your crush see that you care about them, you want to
get to know them better, so, you're willing to take that extra step and have
an in-person conversation which is gonna ultimately hold more value to them. Trust
me on this I'm not forgetting about the people who can't talk to their crush in
person. Maybe you've never talked to them before or they're way out of your league or
they live in a different state or country or there's just no other way to
communicate with them other than through DM so what do you do in those
situations? Well, I would recommend changing up how you message them. For
example if you're just sending these single lines of texts that are asking
them how they're doing that can be an incredibly boring conversation, so
instead try recording an audio clip of yourself and send that over to them.
Record a short video and send it their way. Comment on their pictures and their
stories. Tag them in things. Change all the different dynamics of how you
interact with them up do things differently because if they're getting
different kinds of notifications, there's a higher likelihood they may respond to
one of those rather than just seeing that you've written a ton of messages in
their inbox. Plus, people tend to be a little bit more invested in the
conversation when there's a shroud of mystery attached to it so sending them
an audio clip where there's no way they could know what it says until they play
it or a video clip doing the same is gonna probably catch their interest
better than a line of text they can read, ignore, and just go on with their day. Now
look let's say you've tried it all: you've sent pictures and videos you've
tried talking in person you've done it all and yet no response from them
they're just not invested in that conversation so is it something you
should take personally? I would say no but a lot of people do.
A lot of people look at it as a sign of failure or weakness or you're just not
good enough as a person but the truth of the matter is simpler than that, they
just don't feel close enough yet to you to respond. And that might not be
something that sits well with you. You might just think to yourself well if all
it takes is me getting closer to them then I'm going to keep trying to do that.
But at some point, you have to respect the person's personal boundaries. If
they're just not investing in that conversation don't take it personal.
Accept that they just aren't interested and that's okay. And if you're someone
that just refuses to stop trying to pursue their crush then I think the
problem isn't so much the fact that they're not responding, it's the fact
that you're unwilling to let go and I think the first step towards recovery in
that process is to pursue multiple people. If you're having different
conversations, if you're talking to different people, some people might
respond some people might not respond but you get over that hang-up, that oneitis
that you have for that one crush. It allows you to actually move on a lot
simpler. And I know, you like them. Maybe at some point they even gave you a bit
of attention but it fell off. Or maybe you just don't want to lose hope but the
truth of the matter is this. That just because you want something in an
equation doesn't mean the other person wants it back and it's important to look
at both sides of it to see where they're coming from because if you're only just
going based on what you want, yeah then that's gonna override whatever they want
and they make their own decisions in their own life. That's something you have
to come to respect. So if you're just getting ignored by DM it's okay, be
willing to move on and pursue other people.
Now if texting someone and having a conversation is something you're
struggling with definitely check out my playlist over here because those videos
are gonna help you navigate the whole texting world so you don't have a boring
conversation that causes the other person to just stop responding. Also I
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As always love and peace.