They feel, about a hundred and a hundred and fifty of them, can look to one of
their direct leaders to one of their direct managers and say that person
cares about me mm-hmm that's our boss that's my boss that's my leader not the
leader it's the CEO that's my manager my boss my leader what does it take to be a
great leader to have leadership mindset can you pretend to be a leader now
people see the difference between pretending and actually being a leader
what skills do you need to be a leader simon Sinek explains what's the most
important thing to be a leader so people will follow you and look up there and at
the end to have leadership mentality is the difference between success and
failure in life hit subscribe button and don't miss new videos enjoy well I think
one of the things that we forget is that we are a legacy machine working in a
very different environment than we were designed for you know our species sort
of started showing up about 50,000 years ago there were other hominid species
that existed at a time they died off we survived and it was those evolutionary
traits that gave us the opportunity to outlive our competition but also survive
and thrive even as the environment around us changed we lived in
populations that were never bigger than about 150 people for 40,000 of the
50,000 years that we've lived on this planet it's only the past ten thousand
years with farming that we've been living in populations that were than
were larger than that in other words we're not made for this which means all
the rules of being human are exactly the same as they used to be when we were
living in populations of about a hundred and fifty and so if you can understand
those things you really understand what works and what doesn't work
regardless of the conditions the fact of the matter is we are social animals and
we respond to the environments were in always our very survival depends on our
ability to cooperate and trust with the people that we live or work with right
you can take a good person and put them in a bad environment
and that person will do bad things you can take a person who maybe the group
doesn't trust maybe they've even performed bad acts you put them in a
good environment and they're capable of turning their lives around and becoming
remarkable members of society in other words it's not the person it's the
environment leaders are responsible for that environment and I think it leaders
forget that leaders think that they're responsible for the results there's not
a leader on the planet that is responsible for the results a leader is
responsible for the people who are responsible for the results and if you
take care of that take care of the people take care of the environment
things go just fine you know we're obsessed with this idea
of like getting the right people on the bus you know as if it's this game that
you just sort of keep changing people out you know some sort of sort of mix
and match or something but we never ask which bus and who's driving the bus you
know because it's not it's it the bus matters so I'm I'm I'm more obsessed
with what happens to people when they come together and protected or
unprotected environments and how we respond to those environments I know
many many people who sit at the highest levels of organizations who are not
leaders they have authority and we do as they tell us because they have authority
over us but we wouldn't follow them and yet I know many people who've made a
choice who have no rank but they've made a choice to look after the person to the
left of them and look after the person to the right of them and we would follow
them anywhere and that's what leadership it is it's the responsibility to take
care of the people around us the people with whom we worked and leadership is a
practice like any other it is a skill that can be learned and that means it
requires practice you don't just suddenly get a promotion you're now in a
management position and you're a leader right it's not how it works
if only right if only I know the reality is we have to learn it and we have to
practice it we have to get good at it which is what the junior ranks are for
so even if you don't have the ability to make decisions that will impact the
entire organization you do have the ability to make decisions that will
impact the life of another human being how they feel about their own jobs how
well their responsibility goes how easily they can get work done how
supported they feel how supported they feel if they make a mistake you know do
they feel that they can turn to you and ask
for help that's all within your control it's the same thing as being in a
relationship or being a friend being a good friend you know means that our
friends can rely on us that can trusted us they can turn to us there's no
difference it's human beings it's human relationships at the end of the day
becoming a leader is about a transition and everybody has to go through it if
you want to become a leader and as an aside I will say leadership is like
parenting in the sense that everybody has the capacity to be a parent that
doesn't mean everybody wants to be a parent and that doesn't mean everybody
should be a parent leadership is the same everyone is the capacity to be a
leader it doesn't mean everybody wants to be a leader and it doesn't mean
everybody should be a leader and the reason is it comes with massive massive
responsibilities sometimes people just don't want it it's a lifestyle they
choose not to have and that's fine that's absolutely fine but if someone
chooses that that is a lifestyle they would like to have they would like to
become a leader then they have to acknowledge that they will or need to go
through a transition and the transition we have to make is that we are no longer
responsible for the job thank you as I said before we now become
responsible for the people who are responsible for the job right there's
not a manager around who's responsible for the results we're responsible for
the people who are responsible for the results I love talking to CEOs and I'm
like what's your priority they say my priority is my customer I'm like you
don't talk to a customer in ten years you know you have no impact on a
customer at all what you can do is screw with someone's life who will then impact
your customer or support someone who will then impact your customer and so I
get this question a lot which is what do you know what are the most important
characteristics about being a leader you know vision charisma you know
I know some spectacular leaders who don't have big Steve Jobs and visions
they're just not visionary you know and I know some spectacular leaders who
really don't have a lot of charisma they kind of just shuffle around and you're
like that's the guy that's the guy right and they're spectacular and people will
give blood sweat and tears for these people the one thing I am comfortable
saying that all effective leaders must have is courage because it is hard it is
hard to stand up against outside pressure it is hard to stand up to an
external constituency who's pushing you to do something for their short-term
gain to do the right thing for your people it is hard it is
thankless it is lonely it sometimes sometimes you get fired sometimes you
get in trouble sometimes you'll lose your job and the next guy will get all
the credit it's all true and the courage to do the right thing in the face of
overwhelming pressure only the best leaders have that courage only the best
leaders and here's the folly courage is not some deep internal fortitude you
don't dig down deep and find the courage right it just doesn't exist
courage is external our courage comes from the support we feel from others in
other words when someone when you feel that someone has your back when you you
know that the day that you admit you can't do it someone will be there and
say I got you you can do this that's what gives you the courage to do the
difficult thing it's not going off to an ashram by yourself somewhere for four
weeks and coming back and finding the car it's not what happens it's the
relationships that we foster it's the people around us who love us and care
about us and believe in us and when we have those relationships we will find
the courage to do the right thing and when you act with courage that in turn
will inspire those in your organization to also act with courage in other words
it's still an external thing that's what inspiration is right I'm inspired to
follow your example but those relationships that we foster over the
course of a lifetime will not only make us into the leaders
we need to be and hope we can be but they'll often save your life they'll
save you from depression they'll save you from giving up they'll save you from
any matter of you know negative feelings about your own capabilities your own
future when someone just says I love you you know how do you measure leadership
any measure it'll be one of my question how do you measure how do you measure
trust you know they lack good metrics it's very easy to measure revenues and
profits and market share so let's focus on those things because I can I can like
pull a lever here and see what happens over there
right but in terms of like trust I'll pull a levy here and I won't see
anything for six months so it's not that I don't know that it exists everybody
talks about the importance of culture it nobody seems to be focused on building
it I've never met a CEO in my in my life who doesn't think people are important
and yet every day they're making decisions that prioritize a number over
a person yeah that literally don't care about people they make decisions that
literally brush people aside because it's hard to measure in an ultra speedy
you know algorithmic world that we live in what gets measured gets done these
things are measurable just not in the short-term the metrics are fine they're
just not in the short-term and they're just not fixed entire they so for
example do you love your wife yes right prove it
like what's the metric give me the number that helps me know right because
when you met her you didn't love her right now you love her right tell me the
day the love happened it's an impossible question right but it's not that it
doesn't exist it's that it's much easier to prove over time right so all
leadership is the same thing it's about transitions so if you were to if you
were to go to the gym right sit like exercise right if you go to the gym and
you work out and you come back and you look in the mirror you will see nothing
and if you go to the gym the next day and you come back and you look in the
mirror you will see nothing right so clearly there's no results can't be
measured it must not be effective so we quit right or if you fundamentally
believe that this is the right course of action and you stick with it like in a
relationship I bought her flowers and I wished her a
happy birthday and she doesn't let me clearly I'll give up you know that's not
what happens if you if you believe there's something there you commit
yourself to act an act of service you commit yourself to the regime the
exercise you couldn't screw it up you can eat
chocolate cake one day you can skip a skip a day or two you know you it allows
for that but if you stick with it consistently I'm not exactly sure what
day but I know you'll start getting into shape I know it and the same with the
relationship it's not about the events it's not about intensity it's about
consistency right you go to the dentist twice a year your teeth will fall out
you have to brush your teeth every day for two minutes what is brushing your
day twice a day for two minutes do nothing unless you do it every day twice
a day for two minutes right it's the consistency going to the gym for nine
hours does not get you into shape working out every day for 20 minutes
gets you into shape so the problem is we treat leadership with intensity we have
a two day off-site we would invite a bunch of speakers we give everybody
certificate you're a leader right those things are like going to the dentist
they're very important that good for reminding us or getting us back on track
learning new lessons but it's the daily practice of all the monotonous little
boring things like brushing your teeth that matter the most she didn't fall in
love with you because you remembered her birthday and bought her flowers in
Valentine's Day she fell in love with you because when you woke up in the
morning you said good morning to her before you check your phone
she fell in love with you because when you went to the fridge to get yourself a
drink you got her one without even asking she fell in love with you because
when you had an amazing day at work and she came home and she had a terrible day
at work you didn't say yeah yeah yeah but let me tell you about my day you sat
and listened to her awful day and you didn't say a thing about your amazing
day this is why she fell in love with you
so the courage is the key to be a leader and you can't train it in one day it's a
process that takes time to acquire simon Sinek found his courage in people or
around him in the environment around him is this the only way to find courage or
you think there are some other ways to find it maybe there isn't much longing
people in your life is it possible to gain such mentality by recognizing we
already have all the skills in our self but we just wasn't aware of them leave
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