can NLP help determine the right career
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Cart from NLP Gym neuro-linguistic
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regular basis this question actually
comes from one of my subscribers Mila
who sent me an email asking if NLP can
help her determine what is the right
career for her because she's 29 years
old
and she's been trying a lot of different
things she's gotten into various
interest are various types of careers or
started to learn in only to find that
something really wasn't working for her
or something there was a part about it
that she really didn't enjoy or maybe
she got into it and suddenly she lost
interest and she's feeling this pressure
then she must figure something out soon
she's 29
people are also pressuring her from the
outside saying you know she needs to
find something and stick with it
and create a career that way so she's
looking to NLP to help her determine
what that is so the short answer to this
is that no NLP is not really a tool that
can help determine what's the right
career for you what NLP can help you do
is it can help you get very clear about
what it is that you want and what will
fulfill you and it can also help you
create a strategy in order to get there
the difference here is more about
mindset and framing one of the things
that Mila put in her email was the four
letters of her Myers Brigg determined
personality type and these are very
popular right now I noticed them even on
dating apps whenever people are putting
in their profile what would
four-digit myers-briggs personality type
is and these personality type questions
or quizzes are very popular on social
media what's interesting to me about
this is how obsessed we are about
finding out who we are what is our
personality type and where do we fit
best we're looking for where do we
belong where do we belong in a career
where do we belong in life itself and
actually I think this is a problem where
this creates a problem because what it
does is it boxes you in now another word
for box I'm going to use is category
we're looking for our category who are
we where do we belong where do we fit
what is our category in this case the
category is a career but within that
career within that category where do I
fit so you might look at it like this
here's me here's the category or the box
called career and then the greater box
called
life here's the thing you as a person or
far too big to fit into a box category
is very important the category is how we
organize meaning in our lives the
problem is is that if we're able to come
up with a category which is conceptual
categories aren't real we make them up
if I'm able to come up with a category
how then am I able to fit myself into
that category that's the problem and
that's what creates a lot of suffering
and so when people are looking for a
career basically they're looking for a
box to fit themselves into but you can't
fit yourself into that box it's way too
small because this is just a concept
that you've come up with a category that
you've come up with a thing to say well
no there's careers out there yes there's
careers out there and there's this thing
we call career but how am I making that
up in my mind how am i perceiving that
so anytime you've tried to fit yourself
into a category
fit yourself into a box you're always
going to find that it never fully meets
your needs it's always going to cause
some
at all when people especially when
they're right out of high school they're
pressured to go into college find a
major and stick with that and then
finish in four years or five years come
out with a degree go straight into a job
that is your career for the rest of your
life and who does this anymore not many
people in fact as the generations go on
from the baby boomers fewer and fewer
people are actually sticking with one
career and that really supports what I'm
saying here you're not going to get all
your needs met by fitting yourself into
a career trying to find where do I
belong you don't belong in a concept in
your mind so stop looking for the box
that you're going to fit in and I would
take this even further and say stop
looking for the place that you fit in
the world stop looking for where you
belong in the world now that doesn't
mean that you don't belong anywhere and
it doesn't mean that there isn't a good
career for you it just means that
looking at it that way is going to cause
problems more problems than it solves
my best career advice to year is to let
go of this idea that there is a right
career for you or that there is a right
place for you certain careers will
satisfy you more than others certain
careers will meet more or less of your
needs but when you're approaching career
as if you're looking for the right one
the right place the right fit you're
probably going to be disappointed every
time so what do I suggest in a situation
like this because we need to have a
career right we need to make money we
need to do something that gives us some
sense of meaning what I suggest that you
do is create the life that you want to
live create the life that you desire
create the life that fulfills your
values and along the way create a career
or get a career or make up a career
that's going to serve that now this
doesn't mean that you have to go out and
start your own business but along the
way of creating the life you desire the
career becomes a part of that rather
than
you trying to fit yourself into the
career so it might look something more
like this these are just some categories
they don't have to be your categories
but something like this where here's
your career
here's life and here's your vision of
your life and you're these are stairs
and you're walking up these so each one
supports what it is you one each one
supports the life you're wanting to
create now this is a ongoing process
this is something you can do for the
rest of your life so it's about
discovering what it is you value and
it's creating value and sharing that
value with people and moving through
that and developing that and then
becoming good at something this takes
time you can't just suddenly know it
exactly what it is and just snap your
fingers and it's all there this is a
process and so she's 29 trying to
discover this and figure this out and at
29 I certainly didn't have it all
figured out at 35 I finally had an
epiphany I finally after lots of NLP
training
got very clear about what it is that I
wanted and I got very clear that the
career that I was currently and was
making me miserable and it wasn't
working so from that I was able to
create a strategy and keep moving
through this keep discovering more and
more what I wanted what I was interested
in and then strategizing how they create
that how to bring that into my life so I
looked at it from an approach of what
was of life that I wanted to create and
within that life what career would I
have now I held this loosely I didn't I
didn't know it all right away and I knew
to hold it loosely because you can have
a lot of ideas about what it is you want
to do and then you start trying them and
then it'll work for you they're not
interesting you lose interest you get
bored whatever it is so have a bigger
vision of the overall life that you want
and what are the components of it that
support that life and careers go it's
inevitable that your career will be a
part of that so as you're going through
that process of learning of figuring
this out you will gain an expertise you
will get good at something and right now
we live in the most amazing time where
we have something called the internet
and if you watched any of gain
Gary Vaynerchuk who goes on and on about
this and this is the best time ever to
start a business because finally the
little guy the the person who didn't
have the Ivy League school who didn't
have all the the brakes can learn online
how to create an online business or how
to take the value that they offer and
present it to the world because we have
all these platforms all these social
media platforms and platforms on the web
where we can put our content out there
so like I said you don't have to do that
I'm just saying that this is an enormous
opportunity to follow your passion
follow what inspires you follow wood
drives you that you're interested in and
that's those are all good clues as to
what your career could be in is what
inspires you what are you passionate
about now here's the thing your career
doesn't have to be your level 10 passion
that's something that I've left myself
off the hook a few years ago I realized
my greatest passion in life doesn't have
to be my career
what does have to be my career is
something I'm interested in something
I'm inspired to do something I enjoy
doing doesn't have to be the top doesn't
have to be 10 but it has to be pretty
high up there because otherwise I'm not
going to be very good at it or I'm not
going to put too much into it I'm not
going to provide very much value if I'm
not really into what it is I'm doing the
same goes for you if you just try to fit
yourself into a career you're fine
trying to find that right place and it
serves you 50 percent or it fulfills you
only 50 percent or even worse it's just
it's just paying you money and it's just
a paycheck and so you feel like you're
stuck doing it that you have to do it
and people keep telling you you need to
stick with something so you feel bad if
you if you leave that job or you leave
that career so you just stick with it
like it's not worth doing that your life
is too short to do that this idea that
you make enough money so that you can
someday have enough money to then enjoy
it
no I'm telling you right now that is not
the way to go you should be enjoying
your life along the way and it won't
always be fun if some knows it'll be
hard especially if you have high
expectations or you have any
expectations that something's going to
work and
that never feels good but it's just part
of the process when you try something
out and it doesn't work out it doesn't
meet your expectations that's a good
learning now you know this this thing
doesn't work for you and it's time to
move on with NOP this discovery process
is a lot easier
you have an entire technology devoted to
you creating the life that you desire
creating what it is that you want
there's a lot of unknowns there's a lot
of darkness when it comes to trying to
figure it all out trying to figure out
what makes you happy try to figure out
what career is going to be best for you
so NLP is a technology that you can use
it gives you a methodology a way to
figure this stuff out much faster and
also to make to enjoy along the way to
feel good as you do it apply NLP to
career but do it in the way that you're
looking at your entire life what do I
want as a whole in my life and how does
my career support that and again go for
the things that interest you that
inspire you that you're passionate about
that you could do over and over and over
and still enjoy and something that helps
you to learn and grow as you do it this
is these are the clues to what is your
ultimate career and here's the thing it
doesn't matter at what age you're doing
this just because you're 29 years old
doesn't mean that anything is closing in
on you as you're figuring this out as
you're creating and expertise you will
be able to then create value for people
and along the way you can sell that you
can put that value out on the internet
for nothing else and people will pay for
it so stop trying to figure out what
kind of personality type you are where
do you fit what's the right career for
you or where do you belong because you
belong right where you are and you're
fine just like you are just follow that
passion follow that Drive see where it
takes you and along the way cultivate
those skills so that you can then offer
value
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