There’s so much focus on how you look when it comes to attracting. But anyone who knows
men knows that touch is as important as sight, maybe even more so. In this video, I’ll
tell you four ways to touch any guy to make him see you as more than just a friend.
Hi, I’m Amy North. I’m here on Youtube to help women take charge of their romantic
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So first up, I need to be very clear that touch is something you’ll want to use sparingly
if you want it to have the effect you’re looking for. If you start touching every guy
you see, it’s going to lose some of its power over time. This is because touch is
not just about creating a reaction in him, it’s also about the feeling YOU get when
touching him and how it colors your interaction with this guy. This sounds like magical thinking
but it’s really simple psychology. You see, when you do anything repeatedly, it becomes
almost routine. And for touch to be exciting, it needs to be exciting for both of you.
And second, keep it above the belt (for now). If you’re at the point where you’re considering
the inner thigh touch, you need to be past the point of wondering whether or not he likes
you. Just a thought.
1. On the arm
The touch on the arm is a romcom classic for a reason, because it works. When he says something
funny, laugh and grab onto his upper arm for just a few seconds before pulling away. When
he stands next to you, waiting to cross the street, steady yourself on his arm for a moment
and then keep moving. However you choose to use this technique remember that a little
goes a long way. Don’t hold onto his arm for any longer than a few seconds. That’s
all it takes to send a powerful subconscious signal to him that you’re interested.
2. Eye contact
Not technically touch but it can feel like it if done right. A recent study found that
eye contact can actually make you think that someone likes you, is interested, and actually
have them rate you as more similar to them than they would have without the eye contact.
Yes, eye contact is a powerful tool in the attraction game since you can use it from
afar, without having to worry about crossing a line. Just like with physical touch, a little
eye contact goes a long way. Another recent study found that 3 seconds was the ideal length
of eye contact with any eye contact over 8 seconds being reported as ‘uncomfortable.’
3. On the hand
Similar to the on the arm touch, touching a man on the hand is considerably more intimate.
Save this one for the right moment. If he does something particularly kind or cute,
touch his hand with yours. It only takes a small graze to get your point across. Don’t
hold his hand. While this can be nice, usually men prefer to make the first move when it
comes to actually holding hands with a woman.
4. Surprise hug
Only use this one if you two are already getting close. Wait for a moment of triumph or excitement
for the two of you, like say the team scores the winning goal, and go for the celebratory
hug. This simple movement can accelerate things from friendship to more, real quick.
5. Stand by me
Another, non touch that feels like touch, is simply to stand very close to him. This
gives him the signal that you feel safe around him and that you’re willing to get as close
to him as he is to you. If he’s telling you something important and you can’t quite
hear him, this is the perfect excuse to get right up close to him so you can feel each
other’s body heat. Try it out.
Just remember, knowing when to touch him is almost as important as knowing where to touch
him. Probably best to avoid touching him in any professional setting, especially if you
two work together. In any case, save this move for when the two of you are alone together.
And it should go without saying that touch should never be your first or only move with
a guy, despite what you may have seen in some adult themed movies. Touch is something to
work up to and mixed in with conversation, flirting and other attraction techniques.
To learn more attraction techniques, check out my free video presentation over at CoachNorth.com.
In it, I outline some little known methods to entice men and make them notice you in
new and exciting ways. Check it out now at CoachNorth.com.
And finally, be aware of body language
Body language is very important to be aware of if you’re trying to attract a guy through
touch. Both his body language and your own.
If he seems uncomfortable, don’t push your luck and keep your distance from him physically.
You need to feel out his comfort level rather than just going in for the kill, as this can
be awkward, or downright creepy.
Thanks for watching, I’m Amy North.