confidence is a must when you enter uncertain situations think speaking in
front of an audience giving an important sales pitch trying to make a strong
first impression in a job interview or even on that special someone it isn't
only about what you say how you say what you mean goes a long way this video
gives you five speaking tips to overcome yourself doubt and project more
confidence hi I'm Riaz Meghji founder of the Every Conversation Counts
platform and 17-year television broadcaster this is the channel that
helps you present with confidence captivate your audience and connect
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single week psychologist and author of the Rena case says it best true
confidence is not thinking that you'll get a great result it's knowing that you
can handle any results one of the biggest ways of building this resilient
mindset is through practice and practical experience your confidence
will make you a magnet for new opportunities and earn the trust of
others when the stakes are high if you want to connect with confidence in your
next conversation or presentation consider these five ideas if you want to
train your brain to perform under pressure
start by developing the habit of practicing under pressure after studying
high performance athletes and professionals neural scientists have
shared findings that the most successful performers practice under mild stress
think a fleets practicing taking that game-winning shot presenters dress
rehearsing in front of the camera or a trusted group to get critical feedback
even having someone ask you the tough questions before an all-important job
interview recording yourself which we've talked about on this channel or
practicing in front of the mirror that's good rehearsing in front of an audience
is even better because others will see what you don't rehearse your message in
person or in a zoom meeting and learn to improvise in uncertain surroundings when
it's game time you'll be battle tested and if you want
to create a calm state of to help you stay fully present in the
moment check out this speaking video on the channel on how to calm your nerves
one of the most common habits that works against us is making a statement that
sounds like a question you know what I'm talking about
you're speaking with confidence and all of a sudden the tone of your voice goes
up at the end of a sentence making your well-intended statement
sound like a question okay I'll stop now this inflection of tone undermines your
authority it makes you sound unsure of your message keep a consistent tone of
your voice that allows you to communicate your statements with
conviction and avoid ending your sentences with what sounds like a
question mark for more tips on tone pitch and duration check out this video
on becoming a better speaker on-camera you know we've got to talk about eye
contact your eye contact is one of the greatest indicators of confidence think
about what your eyes do when you look at someone in your audience or someone in a
position of power do you look them in the eye or do you look away are you
really seeing them are you just scanning the room because you're nervous your
eyes communicate much more than you think the average person blinks 8 to 21
times per minute in a restful state when under stress that number yeah you
guessed it shoots way up researchers at Johns Hopkins Medicine reported that
rapid eye movements can indicate impatience and impulsive decision making
if you record yourself pay attention to these subtleties your blink rate do you
arch your eyebrows do you narrow your eyes all of these are clues as to your
emotional state of mind one of the things I always like to do when I take
the stage I'll get the introduction I'll walk to the center and then pause for
five seconds and then just look around the room and give people my eyes I know
this is harder to do in a zoo meeting but if the audience is listening to you
keep in mind they want to be seen and in every presentation I try to find my Fab
five five people that are consistently giving me their attention and I'll
return the favor with consistent eye contact so that I can be more present in
the moment this gesture can build trust and connect
and convey a great deal of sincerity for many the fear of failure is kryptonite
to projecting confidence if self-doubt begins to creep up into your picture a
popular tool to recalibrate your mindset is to draw from the after-action review
a process developed by the US Army this system is used by organizations to help
teams learn from failure prevent future mistakes and discover new solutions to
the current problems when you're dealing with your next step back to combat
losing your confidence embrace failure by asking yourself these questions what
was your desired outcome your ideal scenario here then ask what actually
happened and be honest about the reality look at what went well and why look at
the positives and understand what worked and then finally what can be improved
and how what went sideways and how can you adjust this for future projects if
failure is feedback these questions will provide the insight to build your
confidence allowing you to navigate your next roadblock with a more conviction
final point avoid the filler words I covered this topic in detail in a video
here on this channel when overused your arms and eyes the you
knows and likes they can undermine your credibility and make you unsure of your
message this is an important habit to become aware of in order for you to
correct it if you want to learn five key tips to curb those filler words check
out of this video to help you speak with more impact remember there is a big
difference between confidence and arrogance confidence is your belief in
your own ability to achieve a desired outcome arrogance is your sense of
entitlement to that outcome real confidence is built through having the
courage to try new experiences networking unfamiliar surroundings and
maybe even learn a new skill using these five tips will ignite your belief in
your own abilities and project the confidence you need to succeed in any
situation what helps you communicate with confidence share your best tips in
the comments below for more ideas on building human connection you can
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