Confidence is one of the best traits you can have,
arrogance is one of the worst,
and the line between the two can be blurry.
Some people are worried that if they become confident,
they'll cross the line into arrogance
or that even if they don't,
other people will perceive their new confidence as arrogance.
In this video I want to help you demonstrate and feel confidence--
I can do anything good.
Ya, ya, ya, ya, I can do anything good.
--without the arrogance.
...something like, "I am a god."
Everybody says, "Who does he think he is?"
I just told you who I thought I was, a god.
And to do it, we're going to take a look at Conor McGregor
and determine whether he is mostly confident or arrogant.
so let's start with the obvious.
Confidence is attached to reality -- it backs up what it says.
Arrogance is overinflated and is often proven to be false by reality.
In light of recent events,
Conor definitely gets one point in the confidence column.
So lesson here --
don't talk if you can't back it up.
But the defining aspect of arrogance
as you're most likely to encounter it or even exhibit it is loudness.
Confidence is a statement -- arrogance is a scream.
Check out this example.
...f** pimp rocking guilty mink
and without me, this whole f** ship sink.
Notice how that scene contrast with Conor's calmer yet confident
prediction for the Alvarez fight.
I have everything on him -- reach, height -- everything so
I don't see him getting out of the first round.
If he does, great, I'll take my hat off to this tough--
he's a tough dude.
He can get into fight -- he's been doing it for a long time.
But tough is not enough to go against me.
In addition, arrogance comes through when someone's status or track record
leads them to believe or behave as if they are superior to other people --
not just in a single sport like MMA but in life.
Conor's lateness and subsequent non-apology at the UFC 205 pre-press
conference communicated that he didn't think he should have to keep
his commitments to be where he agreed to be.
Take a look.
Are you annoyed at all that Conor McGregor can't make it on your own time?
Speaking of the devil.
Here he is.
Sorry I'm late -- I just don't give a f**.
I operate on my time.
I operate on my own time and I'm running early on my time.
I'm not suggesting that Conor McGregor needs to value each reporters time
in the same way that they value his.
He have no life if that were the case.
I am suggesting that he take his agreements seriously as should we all.
No matter what success you may have in life,
you need to get clear on your values and standards
so that you know how you and other people should behave.
And those standards apply whether you are at the top of your industry
or just breaking in.
So while you might decide that it's not a problem to write a shorter email
when people are demanding of your time,
it would probably still be arrogant of you to agree to a meeting,
don't show, and then not apologize.
In short, do not let yourself believe that you are better than other people
because you have achieved more.
That same kind of arrogance superiority can come through
and loudly shouting down people who respectfully disagree with you.
This dynamic doesn't often occur at a UFC press conference
so check out this video of Kanye West's telling Sway
that he doesn't know what he's talking about.
Chill out.
You ain't got the answers -- you ain't got the answers.
Relax.
You ain't doing the education -- you ain't doing the education.
Calm down.
You don't have the answers though because you're trying to give me advice--
No-no-no, listen.
You didn't spend 13 million dollars trying to empower yourself.
But I spent hundreds of thousands in clothing lines at a smaller degree.
All I'm asking you--
It ain't no Ralph though.
Imagine the same scene except imagine that Kanye had been looking Sway
in the eye instead of away.
Imagine that he'd waited for him to say what he'd said
and then Kanye had responded with exactly the same words
except just more quietly and controlled.
The arrogance probably would have seemed like confidence from someone
who had been there before.
He could have said, simply, "You don't have all the answers.
I know you haven't spent the money that I have and you don't
have the experience that I do.
Abrupt, yes.
Arrogant? Not really.
Lastly, you can spot arrogance by how its shares or doesn't the credit of success.
MMA is a lonely sport.
You're out there by yourself but no one does it by themselves.
They're trained by coaches, supported by fans, pushed by their competition,
and as cheesy as it sometimes sounds, we want to see that
acknowledged during victory.
So when we see people shout at their fans and their coaches,
we realize they know the contribution of others
and see those people as less arrogant.
Check it out.
I'm absolutely blown away by the support.
I can't put into words how grateful I am for everyone who supported me
and followed me that's why I still showed up here.
Some went on during the build-up of it is.
I say thank you to my team, my family -- everyone that's come up on me
because we built a tight, tight circle.
People since day one are here with me now so I--
I just want to thank everybody that's been with me
and the Irish people that supported me.
I swear to god, I've done this for those.
I've done this for those.
In summary, confidence is secure because it is based on reality,
it's quiet, it doesn't act morally superior,
and it remains humble while acknowledging others and even luck
but it still has conviction built both through experience
and through visualisations.
I talked about this in other videos which I will link to
but for sneak peek, just listen to how these top performers
talk about visualization.
It feels great and it feels familiar.
I saw it all clearly,I swear to god.
I saw it so clearly, so consistently, until it's here in reality.
You have to visualize what that body ought to look like in order to make it win
because that's what creates, then, the will --
the will that you need to go to the gym every day,
the will that makes you go into the force grips,
the will that makes you go beyond and do a 500-pound reps in the squats,
and when you can't do another rep and your body is shaking,
it's the will that makes you go one more time down
and struggle up one more time.
...for it can't be done.
This is why I try to tell you -- anything and everything can be done
if you can visualize it and if you believe in yourself.
Arrogance may look like extreme confidence
and I think that's why people are worried that confidence will turn to arrogance.
But the way that arrogance is created is almost exactly
the opposite of confidence.
Arrogance often comes from insecurity.
The arrogant person may still visualize themselves winning
but their visualizations focus more on the praise that they will receive
than on the achievement itself.
And that is because arrogant people feel like they need a
constant stream of external approval
so they'll give opinions where they have no experience,
flaunt their successes loudly, and still not feel great inside.
If I had to boil it down to one distinction, it would be this --
arrogance occurs when you identify your self-worth
with your skills and your opinions.
Because they are yours, they must be superior
and if they weren't superior you would feel worthless.
Confidence occurs when your self-worth is so solid
that you can evaluate your skills honestly.
Sure, you're gonna put in the work to make sure those skills are top notch
and that your opinions are well-founded
though you always recognize that they can probably be improved.
You don't need them to be superior or perfect to feel like you are enough.
So returning to the question that I posted in the beginning,
is Conor McGregor arrogant or is he confident?
And the answer, at least in my mind, is that Conor McGregor is a performer.
He can rile people up with big brash boastful claims
but the fewer cameras are on him, the more you see the quiet confidence.
I'm sure he's gonna play up the arrogant character
and maybe the praise will get to him but
his most recent post and his comments make me think that we are not
quite there yet.
I'm very confident in my abilities and what I'm predicting I'm gonna do.
And I back it up with work ethic, I back it up with hours upon hours
of time and dedication.
I never slip -- I never take a second off this game
so I'm very satisfied, very grateful, very happy but
not surprised.
I knew it's going to happen for me.
That's all just speculation though.
The more important question is what are you?
Are you confident or you unsure?
Are you self-assured or are you arrogant?
Hopefully this video has given you a hint
and he sense that you're tilting towards the arrogant side,
the root of the problem is self-esteem which I'll be talking about in future videos
and having past videos though, hopefully, this one is a good primer.
And while deep-rooted confidence take some time to develop,
you can boost your situational confidence very, very quickly --
literally inside of 60 seconds.
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