-Hi, in this video, we're going to talk about all the ways
that you can make a man melt with your mouth.
Buckle up.
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Hi there. Mat Shaffer, your dating relationship
and empowerment coach.
Today we're going to talk about a lot of ways that you can make a man
literally melt by using your mouth.
We're going to start up high and work our way down the body.
You definitely want to stay with us to the end on this one
because we are working our way down.
This is definitely the raciest video that I've done yet and I'm really excited
to share it with you because these are straight out
of what men actually enjoy and what actually makes them crazy.
Take a second, hit the subscribe button and let's dive in.
The first way that you can really make a man crazy with your mouth
is by focusing on his ears.
Like I said, we're starting up high.
Biting on his ear lobe is a really big thing gently,
of course, you don't want to be crazy with it,
but biting on his ear lobe using your tongue,
going around the outside of his ear and even into his ear.
I know for me, it's a huge trigger point and for a lot of men I know
it's a really powerful erogenous zone.
Any ear stuff can really get a man
very turned on and really get him very excited.
Another spot is to actually go back behind his ear,
right above his collarbone there,
that skin right behind the ear is super sensitive as well,
just by focusing on the ear and not just using your tongue
and your lips with hot air blowing into his ear and whispering into his ear,
what it is that you want,
how much you want him and how much you're desiring him.
That's super, super, super hot to most guys.
If you really start with his ears and use your mouth and use your tongue
and use your breath in a really sensual way,
you will turn him on.
The next way you can use your mouth to make him melt
is simply by kissing him in a more sensual,
more erotic way.
What do I mean by that?
There's so many different ways to kiss your man
because kissing truly is a form of communication.
I like to think of it like a dance.
One of the ways you can really kiss a man and turn them on and make him crazy
is by kissing him very lightly or even kissing him deeply,
but then pulling away and allowing there to be just a little gap of space
between your mouth and his mouth,
so that he can really feel that like electricity,
the space between his mouth and your mouth,
and then just take your tongue and just flick it across his lips
and just make it like you're teasing him with it
very, very, very hot.
Another way to use your mouth in kissing to be really hot with him is to give him
your tongue and want his tongue as well, like using your tongues with each other,
don't just like, stick your tongue in his mouth.
You want to engage a man on that because some men like a lot of tongue
and some men don't. It's up to you to probe,
pun intended,
(chuckles) with your tongue and see what he likes.
See if you notice him getting more aroused or more turned on when you give him more
and then invite him to do the same to you and gauge how much tongue play
you two are both into because sometimes you just avoid it altogether.
A lot of men are really into that,
but at the same time, you don't want to give him too much
if he's not into it, but using your tongue and dancing your tongues back
and forth can really be really, really hot.
Another kissing technique is to use your teeth and bite his bottom lip gently,
not hard,
but just bite it a little bit and pull it a little bit.
That's aggressive,
really attractive thing that really is going to make a man crazy.
Another thing you can do, and this is just a way
to think about kissing is to think of it like a dance.
When you're dancing,
you've got someone who's leading and someone who's following,
and the two of you are moving together.
You can do the same thing with kissing.
You can kiss very passionately and then pull back and let him come to you
and then kiss very shallowly and very gently
and very softly and pull back and allow your lips
to be close to each other, but not even touching.
You can use lots of different textures and intensities with kissing,
allow it to be a dance back and forth,
and let him lead some of the time and let you lead a little bit at the time.
It's really hot, especially and polarizing,
especially for him if you let him be more of the aggressor in kissing
and you tease him and invite him to be more direct with you
when it comes to kissing.
If you can just think of kissing like a dance and invite him to lead,
it's going to be very, very hot, very, very polarizing for him.
Another powerful way to really make him melt using your mouth
is to kiss your way down his body.
As he's getting more turned on and you know that you want to give him
a blow job or you're moving towards oral sex,
don't just dive right down for the breadbasket,
work your way slowly with your mouth down his body,
go down his neck, down his chest,
suck on his nipples a little bit, guys are into that.
They may not admit it.
They might not say it, but they like it.
Slowly kiss your way down his body.
Let him get anticipatory about it.
Let him get a little crazy about it.
Take your time,
kiss your way across his belly button and down his waist.
Don't just dive right in and even then when you get right
around his penis don't immediately just dive onto it,
kiss around his thighs, go all around it.
That's actually some of the most sensitive skin on a man's body.
We don't even know how much we like it until you do it.
Give it a shot, kiss your way down his body.
Take your time and just let him build that anticipation of what's coming.
This next tip is for oral sex
and this is something that's really interesting.
You've probably never done it before.
Take a little bit of coconut oil and put it in your mouth
before giving him a blow job.
This is really powerful because it acts as a natural lubricant
and it makes the whole experience even more sensual and more fluid,
pun intended, for the man.
Put a little coconut oil and kiss your way around him
and when you're going down on him, use a little coconut oil in your mouth
and it doesn't have to be just for the blow job.
You can put coconut oil in your mouth and use it for kissing his body
and for everything. It's just one of those substances.
It smells great, it tastes great,
it keeps a lot of smoothness and a lot of viscosity on the skin.
It's really, really hot so use a little coconut oil
in your blow job and see what happens.
This next tip is related to using your mouth,
but it's what to do with your hands while you're going down on a man.
Here's the thing a man wants to feel you really want him,
you're really craving him,
that you're really into the process of giving him a blow job.
One of the ways you can do that is by grabbing him
while you're doing it and pulling him into you.
Grabbing him by his butt or grabbing his hips and pulling him up
into you while you're going down on him, super, super, super hot.
That's going to make a man feel you're primally enjoying the experience
of giving him a blow job and it's very, very, very hot for him
to feel like you're grabbing him and like you can't get enough of him.
Now it's time for some blow job tips.
First off that twist.
Twisting your head around his penis when you're giving him a blow job,
very powerful.
Licking the bottom of the shaft and just licking your way up,
super, super, super hot for a man.
Men love to feel different types of sensations,
different types of motions and experiences in that process.
The more you can do that, the more you can mix things up
for a man and tune into what he's really enjoying,
the more he's going to melt for you.
When you're giving a man a blow job, don't forget about his balls.
Don't forget about even the area below them, right?
I guess they call it the taint, all that area.
It's all super, super, super sensitive, and a lot of guys,
they don't even know how sensitive that area is.
Maybe you can introduce him to that.
That's one of those ways you can use your mouth to make him melt
that he might not even realized he liked until you do it.
Take the initiative, see how he responds.
One of the most powerful ways to make a man melt using your mouth
is with your words.
What I mean by this is ask, ask for his cum,
ask for what you want, tell him where you want it.
I'm telling you, there's nothing hotter to a man
than to feel a woman really powerfully ask him
to give her what it is that she wants.
That's super, super, super arousing for a man.
Just think of all the ways you can use your mouth.
One of the most powerful ways you can use it to turn a man on
and make a melt is with your words. Isn't that great?
Another powerful thing you can do with your mouth to make him melt
is to not just use a blow job as foreplay for sex.
This is something that I think a lot of women don't recognize.
A lot of times a blow job just is foreplay to get a man fully aroused
so that you guys can have sex and maybe a man has learned
to think of a blow job that way, but here's the thing.
A blow job can be a standalone experience.
If you can actually just get him off with it,
that can be really powerful because it means that you were willing
to just go all the way with it and you wanted that,
you wanted that experience with him.
That's something that can make a man feel really safe,
it can make him feel really special
and it can make them feel like you giving him
pleasure isn't just a means to an end, isn't just a means to you guys having sex,
but it can be a standalone experience.
That's really powerful as far as you deepening
the sexual chemistry between you and your man.
Lastly, and this is a bonus tip, try waking your man up with a blowjob.
There is no better alarm clock in the world than waking up
to a woman giving you pleasure.
I'm telling you, you want him to be completely
a puddle for you and putty in your hands,
wake him up with a blowjob
and he will be completely enamored with you.
I hope these tips landed for you and that you really realize
that you can use your mouth to create profound pleasure
and profound experiences with your partner.
There you go.
There are some powerful ways that you can make a man melt
with your mouth and those are just a handful.
There are so many more out there, but really, a lot of that is going
to come down to communication, so start with these,
see what he likes, and then from there ask him more
and tell him what you like.
That's going to just really deepen the physical connection
between the two of you and the emotional one as well.
Get out there, have fun,
and I'll see you next time on my YouTube channel.
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Talk to you soon.
Bye-bye.