- I have been dealing with this gentleman
for about three and a half, four years almost,
and six weeks ago, I found out I'm going to be a mother.
He told me he didn't want anything to do with
me or my child and I told him that that's fine.
He told me that he's gonna be sending me a paper,
basically that he wants me to sign,
saying that I won't reach out to him
for any type of emotional or financial support
in the future.
So my question to you is what if one day,
my child wants to know who their father is?
Should I sign the paper and just lean on my family
or should I just keep him blocked as he is now?
- Okay, you and this guy obviously are not married.
- No, we're not.
- Y'all been seein' each other how long?
- For about three to four years
but we're only friends with benefits.
That was our agreement from the jump,
and then boom, here I am.
- Oh you had an agreement from the beginning,
just friends with benefits?
- Yeah.
- Listen, when you're an adult,
you can do what you wanna do.
If you wanna have a relationships, friends with benefits,
nobody can say you can't.
If that's your agreement, that's what you wanna do,
that's what you wanna do.
But now this can turn into somethin' else
'cause now, somebody's expecting a child.
See here's what I don't understand.
You can't sign a letter that frees him up from nothing.
Once you're the father, you the father.
The state and the court don't give a damn
about no letter.
If the DNA says you're the daddy,
guess what, you the daddy, partner.
(audience applaud)
When y'all first started
this friends with benefits relationship,
it was just supposed to remain that?
- [Woman] Yes sir.
- So when you told him you were pregnant,
what did he say?
- Very disrespectful words,
trying to tear me down
and things like he doesn't want me to have his legacy.
He doesn't wanna have a child with someone who's half-white.
Just a lotta different negative things.
- Oh the benefit package was fine when you was half-white.
- Mhm, that's what I said.
That's what I said.
(audience applaud)
- Well just outta curiosity, what is he?
- He's black.
- How long y'all been seein' each other?
- Three and a half to four years.
- Four years?
Wonderful, the benefits was wonderful.
Well now the benefits turned into an obligation.
- [Audience Member] That's right.
- See that's one thing about benefits,
after a while, sometimes the benefits turn into obligations.
Now this four-year benefit plan
turned into 18-year obligation.
And that's what it is.
Partner.
Now you got to man up.
See, you dudes kill me.
You all the man when it's time.
(audience applaud)
Oh you all up in there.
Oh you clownin'.
Oh you puttin' on a show.
Whose is it?
What's my name?
Well daddy is your new name.
(audience cheer) (audience applaud)
First of all, don't sign no papers.
Tell him, quit signin' papers.
Ask him does he wanna do this the right way,
just the right way.
Let's just do it the right way.
We can be cordial.
This is his obligation.
You can't make children and walk off, partner.
They hardest work.
And that's all you got to do.
Don't feel bad about this letter.
Don't worry about nothin' you said to him.
Skip all that conversation.
That ain't got nothin' to do with the facts.
The fact is you're pregnant and you wanna have a baby.
The fact that he don't want one,
they ain't got nothin' to do with you.
You can't dude have go against who you are.
This who you are.
Don't worry about him.
He'll be all right and if he ain't,
I got some friends for $500,
they just travel round the country
whooping people ass.
(audience laugh) (audience applaud)
Call us, let us know if you need help.
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