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- Good morning, good life. Welcome back to Amy TV,
where we come together to help you
go after the life you want.
I think we can all relate to a time or two in our lives
where we felt like we're just not doing this thing right.
Bookshelf is filled with books unread,
bank account is terrifyingly low,
gave up your workout routine
after just a week of trying.
It was a great week though.
The grocery shopping app
keeps recommending the same flavors of ice cream,
you're trying really, really hard
to not keep in stock at your house.
You realize, you know too well,
the plots and endings of many series of television
that you've binged probably the same time
as that ice cream.
Hit the like button if any of this sounds
relatively familiar and you feel like it's about time
you got your life together.
Look, a lot of these things are going to happen
and it doesn't mean your life isn't together.
But after a little bit of too much on the side
of not really what I want my life to be,
you start to think like,
"Hmm, maybe I need to make a little bit of a change."
First, you got to decide what a life together
even looks like.
This is really important because it's easy to look
around at what is, that you don't like,
and even easier to look around at what is for other people
that sounds kind of cool.
But it is your life.
It is the only one that you get.
These are the only moments you have right now.
And you're choosing to watch me,
really appreciate that.
But other than all of that,
what does a life together for you actually look like?
The reality of it is one person
can not tell you the right thing for you.
Many people can not tell you what is going
to be your best life.
You have to decide that for yourself,
and it's based on your own preferences.
And you have to really have a conversation with yourself.
Not in a weird way,
I mean, I'm not telling you to talk to a mirror.
I just mean like,
what are your actual thoughts on things?
What do you wish you were doing?
What do you look at and go,
"God, if only I was luckier, better, stronger,
had more time." What are those things?
What does a life together look like?
Because if you don't know what that is for you,
there is no motivation that is just going to show up
and lift you off the couch to your destiny.
It's not gonna happen.
Having that clarity is so important.
Another simple step to getting your life together
is just starting the day on your terms.
I talk about this a lot, shameless plug in my book,
"Good morning, good life."
But it's not even about having a morning routine.
Even if you're like, "Screw that, I'm not about that.
I like to do something different every day.
I don't want a specific chain of events."
No problem.
But are you waking up on someone else's terms?
Are you waking up to your email?
Are you waking up to somebody telling you what to do?
Are you waking up the very last moment
before you have to rush to get somewhere,
to have somebody to tell you what to do?
Even if that somewhere is your laptop in your living room
and your boss making sure that you checked in on time.
Are you starting the day on your terms?
Because, usually when we feel completely out of control
or that we've let go of control of our lives,
it's because from the moment we wake up in the morning,
we're not the ones taking charge.
We're allowing any circumstance or occurrence or ping
to tell us how to be, what to do, as soon as we wake up.
And that's just not going to work for you long-term.
If you can't start the day on your terms,
how are you supposed to dictate how the rest of the day
is gonna go for you?
Take charge and do it as soon as you open your eyes.
Another simple step to getting your life together
has a lot to do with making sure you've got a life to live.
Give yourself a little health assessment.
Tomorrow is not promised.
You may feel like, right now, you're dealing
with some really crappy issues.
But what if you got sick?
What if things changed where you are not as healthy
as you are now,
and maybe you already have health concerns at the moment.
What if they got worse, and you couldn't even do
what you have the capability to do right now?
Making sure that we're taking care of our bodies
and our minds is a really important step
to getting your life together.
Because even if you have great plans and lots of motivation
and can do the thing and you want to go do the thing,
and suddenly you're debilitated
because you didn't do the work on the front end
to try to prevent that as best as you can.
What's the point of making all those plans?
Here are a couple of health boxes to check,
just a few that I thought of.
First of all, do you wear sunscreen every day?
Everyone knows I'm a big fan of the sunscreen.
Okay. I've made many mistakes with the sun in my life,
so I feel I'm here to tell you,
"You're preventing a lot of crap in your life
if you wear sunscreen."
Okay. Not just sunspots, like real-life cancer danger.
I'm not a doctor clearly,
but I think there's a lot of people on the planet
that are super smart and have many, many degrees
that would tell you, "Sunscreen is a really good idea."
How often do you go in for a physical?
When was the last time you saw a general practitioner?
I personally forgot to do this for a long time,
'cause I used to go see my lady doctor on a regular basis,
but I wasn't going and seeing somebody who was checking
for some other things that are going on.
So when was the last time that happened?
Have you done the research to find a doctor
if you don't have one?
Here's a box to check that I think a lot of us can do.
How many steps do you take in a day?
Have you checked in on that?
Is it like 4,000?
Because if that's true, if you try to change that,
increase it by double what you already are doing,
you're going to be so much healthier,
automatically just by getting more movement in your life.
This is something I have to pay a lot of attention
to, 'cause I do a lot of this in my day.
Okay. I sit here, I make videos.
I sit here, I'm on the computer.
I sit here, I watch some Netflix.
I sit. You gotta move.
What was the last time you got your teeth cleaned?
Are you afraid of the dentist? Try to figure that out.
Do you really wanna wake up with a toothache one day
and actually have to go in and have some serious work done?
Nobody wants that. No.
Getting your teeth cleaned,
going to see a general practitioner, getting your steps in,
these are some simple things to just cover your bases,
do the best that you can, to try to keep yourself
as healthy as you can.
Because getting your life together
means being able to live it fully.
And your health is a big piece of that.
This is one of my favorite steps
about getting your life together.
A lot of times we feel like we're completely on our own
and we have nobody that we can trust or rely on.
And we're all just saying that, because it's complete bull.
Now, if you've written off everybody in your life
and you're really lonely and I'm your only friend,
that could actually be the case,
and maybe we gotta do a couple of things to change that.
If that's not the case, and you've got family
and you've got friends and you've got people close to you
who you can talk to,
even if they don't always get it with the things
that you're passionate about,
start to think about who those people are.
What do you rely on them for?
And then create a list of your personal board of directors.
Just like a business might have a board of directors,
people who they call upon to seek advice from,
who do you call upon to seek advice from?
Who do you talk to that motivates you
from a fitness standpoint?
Even if they're not an expert,
they could just be your partner going to the gym.
Who do you talk to about love and relationships?
Who do you talk about when it comes to your career?
Who do you talk about when it comes to business?
If you're growing a business,
do you have a mentor or somebody who can guide you?
Do you want to travel the world?
Who do you know that is a traveler
that can give you tips or advice or the inside scoop
or the, "Skip that place, go here?"
Who are the people that you talk to,
that you know you can trust and you can ask questions
and you can glean that information from them
about the things that excite you.
Maybe there's something that excites you
and you don't have someone that fills that seat
on your board of directors.
Can you find someone?
This is exciting for me,
because I think that we look for people to be our friends,
and we're like, "You're a friend,
you're a friend, you're a friend, you're a best friend,
you're a friend, you're a friend."
But, I like to give people even more of a purpose
than that, because I want to connect with them
on a deeper level.
I got a Real Housewife bestie. Okay.
I got somebody who can absolutely talk to me
about every single thing that has to do
with the Real Housewives, A to Z.
I got a Real Housewife lady
on my personal board of directors.
It's important to me.
I also have very successful entrepreneurs
on my personal board of directors,
who I talk to when I'm dealing with business issues.
I have very emotionally intelligent friends,
specifically my best friend,
who I go to when I'm like trying to grapple with a feeling
or two, that can actually walk me through it.
We have to have people that we can rely on.
Even if we feel a little jaded,
and we think that we can't trust everyone
implicitly, that's okay.
Giving someone a role,
even if it's just in your mind, to be able to say,
"I can call on this person for that," not use them,
but really leverage them
for the things that they care about.
It strengthens the bond so much more,
because you allow them the platform to talk
about what they love,
and you're also able to learn from them.
Here's what you don't do, "Hey, I want you to be my mentor.
I'm going to put you on my personal board of directors."
That's a lot of pressure.
Try not to freak people out.
Have your list, like you have your goals,
like you have your habits that you're working on.
Write them in your bullet journal,
put them in your Evernote, whatever.
But know who they are,
so that when you're in a moment where you're like,
"I need to level up."
Who's on your personal board of directors?
And it is okay if that person doesn't know you in real life.
Maybe I'm one of the people
on your personal board of directors,
and this is the kind of relationship that we have.
If you're having a moment where you're not sure about time
management or your mornings,
or making sure you put yourself first, you come to me.
But diversifying that group of people,
so they're not all digital, some in real life,
people you can have a conversation with,
is really important.
And my last simple step for today,
I think we could come up with millions of simple steps.
Maybe we should make this a series.
Let me know what you think in the comments.
But the last one for today, is to commit to better sleep.
No, I did not say, "Commit to eight hours of sleep."
No, I did not call out anyone who has real sleep issues.
I want you to commit to better sleep.
No matter what your issues are with sleep,
whether you know they are self-inflicted issues
or you really do have a sleep problem in general,
that is a condition, you can always commit
to doing a little bit better.
Even if you don't get those results,
setting yourself up for success on this front is huge.
This is one of those really big ones
from a health standpoint that you just gotta do.
You gotta sleep.
If you don't sleep, you die.
It's real simple.
So if we're getting our life together,
we gotta sleep.
And so trying to get better sleep is the key to it.
If you can, do not scrimp on time.
You can reverse engineer your schedule.
If you know what time you have to wake up,
how do you get seven to eight hours?
If you can't sleep for seven to eight hours,
because that's an issue,
at least be in bed for seven to eight hours.
If you're in bed for seven to eight hours
and you can't sleep that whole time,
don't get on your phone,
'cause that's going to keep you awake.
Don't get on your iPad.
Don't turn the TV on.
Maybe even don't read a Kindle.
If you turn the light on and read a regular book,
so you hopefully drift back to sleep,
that's a little different.
Hopefully you don't have a partner in the room
that's disturbed by that.
But you have to do the things that it's going to take
to knowingly put you in the right direction
to catch some z's.
Don't scrimp on the bed, get the right bed for you.
Get the right pillow case for you, the right bedding.
How many fans do you have going?
Get the oil diffuser,
get the sound machine, get it all.
I have it all. I have a sound machine and a fan going.
So I'm just like that over the top.
When you are committing to better sleep,
it's not just, "Oh, I need to get eight hours."
It's the whole thing.
If you can't do the blackout shades,
you got the mask on, and you keep it dark.
You know full well that if you don't sleep well,
you may resort to things that will keep you
from being bored, but then definitely keep you
from falling asleep.
If you're committing to better sleep,
commit to not doing that anymore.
The reality of the situation is if we're getting our life
together, we are rested,
we are able to approach every day to the best
of our abilities, hopefully starting the day on our terms.
And that starts with resting and rehabilitating.
So commit to that better sleep,
so that you can really get your life together.
I've left some links in the description things
that I may have mentioned throughout the video
that have helped me get my life together.
So definitely check that out.
That'll be in the description below.
Question of the day,
"What simple step are you going to take today
to start getting your life together?"
Maybe it's not something I said.
Maybe there's another idea of something
that inspired you today that you need to do.
Share that in the comments down below.
That's all for today.
Thank you so much for tuning in.
I appreciate it as always.
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Kiss the ones you love, and go after the life you want.
Cheers.
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