this video will show you three ways to transform your confidence using reality
transfer fee now I'm going to show you a whole new paradigm a weight for thinking
about it that changed my life that I think can do the same for you
welcome back to another video my name's Erin and I help people expand their
consciousness now in this video I'm gonna be sharing with you those three
ways that you can totally transform your confidence and seeing things from a
totally new perspective so before I get into that let's understand the normal
way people go about it the normal way we go about understanding confidence is
that what we must do is we must in a way kind of puff ourselves up we must kind
of pipe ourselves up and knowing that I am worthy that I'm able to do something
we in a way need to pile in some new idea and start to see things from a
different perspective now that's the old way of doing things I was recently
reading reality transfer fein and I read it every night before I go to bed
because I have the reality transfer of an academy and I like I need to know
every little angle of it and even to this day there's five books there's like
a thousand pages of it every time I read it I pick up new things I pick up new
ideas and one of those ideas was understanding this of reality transfer
fear and confidence it's a totally new perspective so the first part about this
and the first way that you do this is you do something that is called ending
the battle so normally we think that this is where we are and what we need to
do is we need to upgrade ourselves we need to see ourselves with the new
perspective we need to see ourselves as superior but the thing is is because we
are not happy with where we are right now we are affirming in the present
moment we want to be somewhere else then we create this resistance and we create
this gap between the way we see ourselves to the way other people see us
to the way we see our whole entire life and how we relate our inner world to our
outer world so what is the power in understanding this it's that we are
already whole and complete we are perfect the way that we are
and sometimes this is one of the biggest paradoxes because what we normally think
is that if we get somewhere else we were going to be happy and we normally think
that it's all about piling on with this reality transaction idea it's about
knowing that the frame from which we're coming from is the most important thing
it's how you feel and the paradox is that when you allow yourself to feel the
way that you do many times the feeling will go away because then what we start
to do is we start to allow the feelings to be there we start to realize it's not
about being here and wanting to be here it's about being here allowing what's
here to be and then the flow starts to happen in a much more powerful way so
this from my perspective when I started reading this and I really started to
absorb it it totally changed my perspective of it because normally as
you probably see my videos I come off with the very kind of authoritative type
vibe like it kind of Ike it's almost like the vibes like very confident but
what I realize is that I can let that go and it's not that I'm trying to project
some type of confidence I'm just kind of sure and passionately what I think and
what I talk about what I learned so it does make me look at things differently
though because when I'm coaching people when I'm helping people to get the
results they want it's less about trying to get anywhere trying to pile on trying
to let go of you know maybe some childhood memory of not being confident
although those can be powerful but it's more so realizing there's a higher-level
paradigm than that and that has to do when you start to have this level of
understanding that you don't have to go anywhere else then from a certain
paradigm that can work just like the parrot the different paradigms of
manifestation there's a paradigm that says I am here I want to be there I'm
gonna take action to get there it can work it can also have a lot of
resistance there's higher paradigms when you raise your vibration and you raise
your consciousness to where you could just start embodying the emotions you
want now of what the emotions will bring you when you get to that external place
because the emotions exist within you right now
it's just that we give ourselves permission and we say once I attain XYZ
then I will have made it and I can get myself permission to be happy but you
can do that right now so the first part of understanding transforming our
consciousness is to end the battle of trying to be different than where we are
this is where you become authentic this is where you tap into more of who you
really are and paradoxically enough you end up just
letting go of what doesn't serve now the second way that we go about transforming
our confidence is understanding how to decrease importance now this is a
reality Tran surfing idea that has changed so many people's lives I get I
get messages probably every single day from people saying thank you so much for
introducing me to reality transfer fene I've decreased importance and it's made
that from the game-changer that was the game-changer I had when I first applied
reality Tran surfing I learned about the idea of decreasing importance I
practiced it and the results came quicker than ever so decrease importance
what does that mean anytime we put something on a pedestal
and we make it very important that we accomplish it
we immediately distance ourselves from it and we create resistance in the
present moment and that resistance will make it so that we do not perceive of
opportunities that are around us and it'll make it so in a way we create our
own internal blocks and resistance so the solution to this is to decrease the
level of importance and in the same way when we look at that of reality Tran
surfing and confidence this is where we naturally are this is who we naturally
are what we do is if we have to pump ourselves up we expend a lot of energy
because we are in a way looking and trying to perceive ourselves as more
important than it has to be because we're also trying to change where we are
because where we are isn't good enough so normally we pump ourselves up we
attain a new perspective and periodically or for a certain amount of
time we start to see ourselves as higher than where we were but this is the thing
it's a false sense of security because we were already home and complete so
that's what we do now on the other side of this if you really don't feel
confident maybe you feel less than other people so other people it's
in a way when you're out other people it's very important that things go well
because you really care what people think that's where we put ourselves
below that of other people and either one of these is what's called excess
potential whether we're up here we're giving things more importance than they
need to have or we're down here feeling nervous we'll stir we are still giving
things more importance than they need to have so the key to this is to let go of
that resistance to let go of that importance to know like the first part
we are already a little incomplete but at the same time there's no need to go
up or down now what's the easiest way to do this there's a couple of easy ways to
decrease importance you want to know the easiest one and the funnest one is to
simply have fun it's to loosen it up if you see it as very serious you're like
yeah I'm not that confident bla bla bla start to see it more as funny just like
get out of your head just get more into the present moment have fun with the
process it doesn't have to be so serious in a way you can look at it from a kind
of a comedic point of view because we go around thinking it's so important that
we look better than other people that we don't look worse than other people it's
a game we play it's an it's an illusion it's only real in our own minds so have
fun with the process make it more about your state of being go out and do things
you haven't done before put yourself in situations that increase
your state of being whatever that is and as you do that you start to see yeah
it's not that important the other thing you could do is you can see the
worst-possible-case scenario this is something I don't recommend you this and
I do everyday but this is something that they talk about the book and what you do
is you see the worst case possible scenario what if everybody in your life
saw that you did something stupid is it the end of the world no because they're
gonna forgive you or they're gonna forget about it everyone is thinking
about themselves anyways so when we do that when we when we at least
acknowledge the worst case scenario we realize it's still not the end of the
world things will still be okay so then at the same time we're like you know
what this is where I am okay and the worst case scenario that's
okay too because I'm still gonna be okay so it's this new level paradigm it's
this new level of understanding now if you want to learn how to decrease the
level of importance for something I've created a free guided meditation that
will help you to do that so that you resonate more with your desires it also
helped you to wire in a lot of these reality Tran searching ideas so is that
stuff you want to be in the top of the description box below you will see it
right there and you can download it listen to it whenever you want I
recommend you listen to it for at least about a month and then periodically
after that but I think you will get the benefits that you want out of it so the
third way that we go about transforming our level of confidence has to do with
our self-image and seeing things as natural for us to attain what we want so
imagine this like normally we're looking at attaining a new perspective and that
new perspective normally is away from our defaults so this is our perspective
it's up here instead we can still change our self-image for the way we see
ourselves because our self-image the way we see yourself we walk around we
project that subconsciously out to other people and other people are responding
to us based on that self image that we project out but what we can do is
instead of focusing on some like high on a pedestal perspective just see it as
natural and chill for you to have this perspective so for example if I were to
see myself traveling the world and giving speeches and seminars which is
something I do it's one of my slides what in reality trans servant is called
a slide I see myself in front of a lot of people giving speeches loving what I
do answering questions connecting with people in the crowd
afterwards going out to amazing restaurant to eat and I see that and
that's my what we call a slide now if when I saw that slide I gave it a lot of
importance and meaning I was like well that would be just the top of the world
the night immediately distance myself from it so what do I do instead when I
think of that and I'm looking at it through my own eyes that's another
important part of the process I look at it and I feel this sense of passion
but it's very settled because I realized that is who I am
that is who I choose to be that is my natural self image is natural for me to
go out and speak in front of people I do it on YouTube why can't it be natural
for me to do it in person you see that's the mindset I have that's how I think
about it because then I moreso resonate with it so that relationship that maybe
you want to attract in your life rather than thinking that it's going to be a 10
out of 10 you're going to go to the beach and just feel this a static
feeling the whole time have a sense of passion but for that
version of you it's not that like 10 out of 10 it's natural because then maybe
then your set point of 0 out of 10 goes to 0 out of 15 and that 10 out of 15 is
just your natural set point so you see we raise the bar when we actually get
there so by the time I'm traveling the world and doing all of these things it
will be natural for me because it's a part of who I am for you attracting the
relationship it's natural for you so focus more on your state of being on
feeling the emotions you want right now and know that as you start to see it as
natural for yourself image that those things will fall in a place naturally so
it's about that naturalness that's why in reality transcription I think is such
a powerful concept because when we really wire it in it's more about being
authentically who we are but understanding how we can really connect
to who we are without trying to pile in some new perspective some new idea so
you are all incomplete all you have to do is really recognize that understand
that when it comes to this whole process you can end the battle of trying to be
more confident than you are trying to come at it from this perspective of
trying of needing to change you are a whole and complete understand you can
decrease importance instead of making it not ok that you're here you have to be
up here or down here let it be okay where you are decrease importance have
fun with the process even just look at the worst-case Ameri know you are still
going to be ok and then start to see it as natural for your self-image to be the
way you prefer feel peacefulness feel that connection know that that is who
you choose to be and as you do all of these things you will transform your
confidence because you'll realize that true confidence is this inner sense of
connection but as long as you do that you won't care what people think and
everything in your life will begin to transform so hope you guys enjoyed that
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