how to find a true love four secrets to keep in mind as you are pursuing to find the right person
to spend your life together with now what I would like to use the example of today is the example of
shoes now before you turn off the video hang in with me till the end I believe you will not look
at your shoes the same way after this video and it will really give you some insights on how to find
your true love I'm going to also use the scripture to back up my points I'm going to have four of
them the first thing is they have to be opposite of your gender now some will be like uh duh but
we do have to mention that because if you want to find true love you have to do it the biblical way
in Mark chapter 10 verse 7 Jesus talking about love relationships romance he says for this reason
a man should leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife so I want you to notice that
Jesus makes it very clear by making the standard of how love is found that a man should be joined
to a woman you know when you think about a shoe there has to be a right shoe and a left shoe
now if you will take shoes that are you know both shoes that are right it's just not gonna
fit it's not gonna be comfortable and same thing happens with our biology God created a male body
and a female body to fit together and so there's an order with which God created this is not God
being homophobic this is not God saying that not you know he's discrediting or dissing on love it's
that God who created love has the only right to Define what love is not everything that we call
Love Is Love if you want to find true love I'm not talking about lust I'm not talking about just you
know when you yield to your carnal nature but love as defined by the Love of All loves which
is God he says that the perimeters or his Secrets is left has to be with the right a male has to go
with a female that's the first secret it's very basic and it's very simple but if we miss that
we will not find true love the second one is as it's with shoes so is with love not only that you
have to have left and right you have to have shoes that match I call it they have to match your faith
in second Corinthians chapter 6 verse 4 it says do not be unequally yoked together with
unbelievers for what Fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness and what communion has light with
Darkness God isn't saying we cannot you know live together with unbelievers in the same neighborhood
go to the same school and live in work in the same place but the moment you begin to be yoked yolked
is a very strong word you know what happens in marriage you actually go into a covenant you are
being yoked yoke is a agricultural or it's it's an animal term where you would take two accents you
would put a beam a yolk over there next so that they go together in the same direction and then
you would do some work with them and that's really the example of marriage it's not a prison sentence
but it is a yoking together and you can't go into agreement in the same direction if you are not
yoked and you can't be yoked if you are unequal it says don't be unequally meaning if you're not
equal so for example if you take a high heel and you take a normal male shoe you know it's not it
could be right and left but they're not matched they're not the same and same thing with our faith
many people ignore this and they're like well we have a good chemistry the question is do you have
same convictions the question is do you have the same Faith the question is are you yoked equally
is there a similarity in your faith you can't simply say well you know he's a guy I'm a girl
or hey he's a she's a girl and I'm a guy and we like each other and you know we're not going to
put our religion above our love it's so stupid the reason why is because you won't be able to
go in the same direction now at first it's lovey-dovey everything is fine until you hit
a problem until you hit a trouble you're gonna run to God and he's going to run to his God she's
going to run to her God and you're going to have a very big problems the Bible is very clear that
God's secret of finding true love is finding a person that you can be equally yoked with
number three they have to fit so not only shoes left and right not only they have to be similar
they have to match same color and same brand and they also have to fit you can have the right shoes
left and right same color same size they're just not fitting you they're just not your size they're
like 10 and your foot is like eight or they're like seven and your foot is like nine they just
won't fit they're the right ones just not right for you this is huge because so many Christians
at this point this is where they get confused now I'm going to read to you a verse this is
we're not just talking about shoes We're talking about the scriptures First Corinthians chapter 7
verse 39 says the following a wife is bound by the law as long as her husband lives but if her
husband dies she is at Liberty and that's that's huge at Liberty to be married to whom she wishes
only in the Lord so remember the Third Secret we talked about it has to be in the Lord you
have to be equally yoked not unequally yoked okay the first thing we mention is you have to be the
opposite gender like I actually had a person that left a comment this week saying that they married
or they're living together with their boyfriend it's a guy and they went to church and they got
you know they want watch the video and they got so convicted they actually are getting divorced and
they're recommitting their life and not following the Abomination as the Bible describes it I know
it's popular in our culture but we're talking about true love not the culture love and so
when you begin to have opposite gender that's a good place to start then you gotta have the
same Faith you gotta match in your faith but the third thing is you have to marry or find someone
you wish to be with so the question now is who do you wish to be with how do you know somebody who
fits you here's some few questions you should ask to know if this person fits you now when it comes
to shoes when I go to the store you know I try the shoes on right I just put my foot in into one shoe
I don't you know take them for rent I just try them on and kind of see if it fits I check the
size if it fits and so there's a few things you need to ask number one is do you like this person
okay they're opposite gender yeah they're Christian but do you like them do they like
you that's huge do you agree with them doctrinally okay they're Believers but do you agree with them
on things like tongues deliverance and like some of the major things that do matter you can't just
ignore them um their friends are they mature and respectable because you can say a lot you can say
a lot about a person based on the kind of friends they have what kind of friends do they have close
friends what about your close family and your mentors what do they think of this person because
that could determine whether they fit you or not you can't always rely on the chemistry and the
feelings that you have on the Federation because sometimes that could fade away and then you can
end up with the person that actually doesn't fit you at all and people keep getting divorced over
irreconcilable differences I wonder how much of that could have been avoided if we would have
patiently approached this with prayer involving our family involving people that we look to for
advice and counsel in the multiple of Consular safety if we will not just kind of look at the
shoe and say oh wow I like this and take it home and then realize wait that's a different
size yeah they match yeah they are opposite right and left but that's not even my size
and so what about peace do you have peace in your heart about it how do you know if they
fit does your gut say run ah like you don't have peace there's like tension pay attention to that
can you trust this person would you want your children to become like this person would you
want your sons to be like him would you want your daughters to be like her how do they treat their
siblings how do they treat their parents you know have they recovered from their ex or they're still
in a relationship with their ex or or you're talking and they're only talking about their
ex and the past they've been doing maybe they need a little bit of healing not a dating relationship
and so it's important not to just assume that just because they speak in tongues
read the Bible and go to church they're the one for you because you have you have deep
infatuation with them you kind of want to um try to see if it fits you by asking these questions
the last thing let's say that it's the opposite gender let's say that they match your faith
and they fit you you get peace about it there's a sense of chemistry you got a blessing and like
support from people around you like you've really trust this person what do you do then and this is
huge because God's secret to true love is when you find that love that you pay the price instead of
trying to seal that love by fornication what I mean by that let's say you found the shoes that
you like how many of you know you don't just wear them you gotta actually go to the cashier
you actually have to go and pay for them and then you wear them same applies to relationships when
you find the true love you gotta postpone physical relationship like sex until you pay for it when I
may when I say pay for it I'm not saying when you bring a dowry to the to the girl of the father or
um or to the family members I'm talking about when you actually go and you say your vows you ask God
to bless this Union and you keep the Purity in the area of sexual relationship until your husband
and wife now I know the culture scorns and makes fun of this but but culture is not your example
culture has a lot of divorce culture has a lot of abuse culture is not living under
God's blessing culture lives under God's curses because they disrespect and they rebel against
God's commandments so if you want to end up like the culture yeah follow the culture but if you
want to follow Jesus then you're going to have to obey his principles and Jesus makes it very
clear in Hebrews chapter 13 verse 4. marriage is Honorable among all and the bed undefiled
but fornicators what is fornicator is somebody who has sex before marriage an adulterers who
is an adulterer is somebody who has sex outside of marriage God will judge so God makes it very
clear I want your marriage bad to be not defiled holy I want marriage to be honorable meaning
sex belongs in the marriage bed with your spouse it does not belong with another person
no threesomes no hey but we agree we're just gonna spice up our marriage life and
bring porn into our marriage no no nor does God say you should be getting into a marriage bed
until that person is not your girlfriend your fiance but your wife until that guy he's not your
boyfriend he's not your fiance he's your husband I know the culture prioritizes cohabitation but the
Bible focuses on Covenant Covenant for life not until problems hit us but till death do us apart
I do believe if we will honor God's principles God will honor our Relationships by giving us
deeper love with time because if we honor these principles then once we get married there are
other principles to make marriage be successful we will be able to honor them as well but if you
keep breaking God's principles in getting into marriage what Assurance do you have that you
will honor God's principles in marriage so I want to invite you this season February where churches
talk about love relationships dating and all of this stuff honor God in your single years and
if you're married honor God in your marriage if you're dating honor God in your according
and in your dating and you will see God's grace and blessing on your life and most importantly
you will honor God through that thank you for watching this video let me know in the comments
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