Hello! This is Cynthia Sue Larson of RealityShifters dot com
Today I'm talking about a subject that all of us can relate to--
it's how we can ask questions.
I'm bringing in a subject in addition to question asking,
which has to do with forgiveness
and the way that sometimes if we do or don't forgive ourselves or others
we can carry a lot of stuff inside.
As an example, I've got my little friends here today
and they're going to demonstrate
one of the many things that happens in life.
It happens to all of us. It's not something that only one of us is suffering
through.
Every single person on Earth right now
has been wronged in some way.
Perhaps grievously, perhaps it's
just beyond belief how bad it is.
Yes, these things happen to everyone.
Sometimes when that happens,
people hold the
results of that
encounter inside for a long time
which affects everything. It effects
the way that they move
forward, whether they blame themselves for what happened.
So for example, if these two bunnies are
just meeting for
an encounter, and one of them snubs the other
and just refuses to look
at him or talk to him in any way.
And maybe when he does turn back and says something,
he's very mean and hits his
friend and then runs off.
Something like that could leave this bunny
feeling ashamed.
He could feel
that maybe it was
her fault.
She might feel very bad about it.
Whatever's happening is happening on the inside, and she can carry that for
years afterward.
So this is something that
I've been reading about month. Usually I talk about books at the end,
but this time I'm going to do things a little differently.
Starting with an illustration from the book, "Aura Advantage."
If you look at this picture,
it's a picture of holding hatred inside.
You can see that there's
a lot of nasty energy that can get held inside when people are angry, and they hold that
feeling without releasing it.
So what's that all about? How do we do that?
We can hold anger inside, blaming ourselves or blaming
the other individual who did something.
But whatever the reason, if we hold that kind of feeling inside,
it will affect
the way that we move through life and
the way that we encounter everything.
I've got a couple of books on forgiveness, and I want to talk about them.
This one is "Radical Forgiveness"
The authors is Colin Tipping.
It's a powerful book. It's kind of a one method book. book
This is a book that works exceedingly well if a person is very spiritual
and pretty much
open minded and willing to take a look at the possibility that
everything's just fine and
totally letting go of the victim mindset.
That may sound
easy and doable, but the truth is it's
maybe not as easy as it might sound.
This book has some examples,
and it does have
an amazing story about a woman who is able to recognize
that some of the anger and
disappointment that she'd had in her marriage turns out to be something
that she doesn't necessarily need to fully understand--she could start seeing
what was going on, but
she got to a place where she realized that everything is perfect just like it is.
The other book
is called, "The Forgiveness Solution," and this book is by Philip H. Friedman.
This is another outstanding book. This one has lots of different techniques and
possibilities--ways that a person can use the entire book as a kind of a workbook
even though it doesn't have worksheets.
It does include information such as EFT, which is Emotional Freedom Technique,
of tapping,
and recognizing that even when one is in a difficult situation,
things are okay
and it's going to be alright. This has been proven successful
for people who have had PTSD and so forth.
That's what I want to talk about, is bringing all of that concept of forgiveness
into the way that we ask
questions.
Because when we ask questions to the world, my favorite one is, "How good
can it get?"
We leave
the universe open to surprise us and show us how good it can get.
I had an amazing thing happen to me when I was in college.
I was working on a project with a couple of teammates, and the three of us were
tasked with going around the university and doing data flow diagrams that showed exactly what was
going on with the different processes in each department.
What happened--
we didn't know this was going to happen, but it's what turned out to happen to us--
We got declined permission to
track that processes in each department. They had lots of good reasons and
excuses, but every time this happened
and our project was on the line,
we would just look at each other and say, "What next?!"
That may not be the best kind of question to ask, but it was kind of
interesting,
although at the end we had nothing to show for our work--nothing at all.
No processes that were tracked, nothing with data flow diagrams whatsoever.
We returned to do our oral report
and I presented for our group
standing in front of the class and just saying
what happened. I described it like it was a bit of a disaster,
saying what we wanted to do was track the procedures and
processes
to do the diagrams.
I just explained that
we'd get declined, and look at each other and say, "What next?!"
It became kind of funny.
It sounds like a tragedy, but a tragedy told properly can be
very humorous,
and the professor
definitely thought it was very humorous.
Somehow we got an "A" on the project even though
we didn't manage to do what we'd set out to do.
I think that's a good example of asking a question and finding where it leads
you.
The reason I like, "How good can it get?"
for obvious reasons,
lots of things can be wonderful and very blessed if we're open to realizing
there are new opportunities around us every day.
So with that, I leave you
with the wonderful question for yourself
and for the world
to ask today, "How good
can your life get?" Thanks a lot!
I'm looking forward to talking to you next time.