- When you raise your love vibration
to another level,
you will be more magnetic,
you will feel more in your own embodied frame,
and you'll notice your whole entire outer reality
begins to change.
What I'm gonna share with you in this video
is what has completely revolutionized my own vibration,
allowed me to attract love in unlike anything before,
and also how you can do the same exact thing.
I'm gonna show you the five things
you must let go of
in order to raise that love frequency
to a completely new level.
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Welcome back to another video.
My name's Aaron and I help people
expand their consciousness.
And on this video,
I'm gonna be sharing with you
the five things that I've let go of
that completely transformed my own life
and my own vibration around love as well.
Five, six months ago,
I had much more blocks in the love compartment,
whether that is receiving love,
giving love,
understanding how I saw myself.
And I felt a lot of blocks.
It was almost like energy blocks
that were there from childhood experience.
I was experiencing at the time,
like boundary issues,
where I would find myself in situations
where people were in a way
taking advantage of my energy
because I allowed them to.
I'd find myself feeling guilty
if I were to not do things
that maybe I didn't wanna do.
I felt like,
mainly I wasn't in my most powerful frame
of me unapologetically being myself.
And I realized that I also had this very important,
I made people in my life very important
and kind of put them on a pedestal.
And I had these patterns
that were reflections of childhood patterns.
And once I became aware of this,
so much in my life began to change,
but one of the biggest game changers for me
was when I met my shadow work integration coach.
My shadow work integration coach,
whose name is Doug,
been in my life now for about eight, nine months.
He has completely transformed my life
because what he helps me do
is look at my own shadow,
look at the unconscious parts of myself
that are running different levels of my life.
And really what he helps me do
is to become more embodied,
literally to bring the energy more
into my own body.
And once I began to do that,
my results and the way people responded to me,
my ability to set boundaries,
my sense of worthiness,
my sense of self,
completely transformed.
And that's why I wanna share
what those five things are in this video
that has allowed me to really transform my love life,
the way that I relate to other people
and just the way I show up as well.
So the first thing that I've had to let go of
is I've had to let go of codependent patterns.
Codependent patterns are these patterns
that we have within us,
where we may rely on other people
in order to get our needs met.
I realized that growing up,
I had experiences with parents
that were doing the best they could
with where they were,
but there were definitely
some emotional unavailability patterns there.
And what happened is
that gave me in a way,
a sense of low self-worth,
where I thought there was something wrong with me.
I felt like I was broken.
And I had to mold myself
in order to accommodate other people.
Now, when you look at this,
when I am molding
and I am changing my own center of gravity
to make other people happy,
that was also dwindling my own masculine energy.
Because masculine energy is meant to be still,
it's meant to be present.
And when that's the case,
then the feminine can in a way
be safe in that container.
But if I'm moving depending on what
the woman's emotions are doing,
then it's really ungrounding my sense of worthiness,
my sense of self as well.
I realized that
through becoming more embodied
in working with Doug,
helped me become aware that I had this pattern
of tuning myself to the woman's emotions
because I had to do that
to survive when I was a kid
because I had the step-mom in my life
from seven to 15 years old
that I had to constantly tune myself to
in order to survive.
So what I had to learn to do
is how to bring the energy more
into my body,
and how to release the codependent patterns
of having to change for anybody else.
Once I began to do this,
my whole entire life changed.
I didn't care what people thought nearly as much.
I could set boundaries with people.
People stopped taking advantage of me.
I used to feel like sometimes
when I would go into public
and meet people that knew me from my YouTube channel,
that sometimes I would in a way lose my sense.
I'd want to, in a way,
be a certain way for them.
And there was this sense of losing myself
versus just being grounded.
And once I began doing that,
the interactions became so much better.
It just changed so much in my life.
And also, I was able to really let go
of past relationships.
There was a past relationship
that was so hard for me to let go of
because I was so attached.
And once I realized that
that relationship to me
represented the relationship
with the emotionally unavailable parents growing up,
it made it way easier,
but I had to really go within myself
and feel safe in my own container
knowing I don't need to be around anyone's else energy
in order for me to feel whole and complete.
Once that happened,
everything began to change.
And that's really one of the most important parts
of understanding attracting love
and being love
is detaching and unattaching yourself
from other people thinking
that they are going to make you happy.
Now, one thing that we're gonna be doing
from 1st July to 21st July
is a 21 day Raise Your Love Vibration challenge.
Now, I've done the 21 day
Raise Your vibration challenge before,
this is a completely new one
on raising your love vibration.
So whether you're in a relationship
and you wanna go deeper,
or you're single
and you want to release love blocks,
you want to heal your attachment pattern.
you want to let go of codependent patterns
that may be in your life
so that you can feel 100% worthy,
whole and complete
and have magnetic energy,
that challenge and this challenge is for you.
You can click the link below
or go to aarondoughty.com/love
L-O-V-E.
You can join right now.
We have everybody joining.
There's gonna be thousands of people in this.
You're gonna become part of a high vibe tribe.
What makes this different than YouTube
is it's not just videos,
this is 21 days in a row
of a process that you go through,
through wiring in and letting go of the old,
to then wire in the new
so that by the end of it,
you are a completely new higher vibrational
loving version of you.
So if you wanna join right now as well,
this video is gonna go out
when there is still time to get the bonuses.
There's two amazing bonuses.
One is with my shadow work integration coach.
He is the one that I've never shared before.
He's completely helped me transform
my own masculine energy
and understanding really how to tap in and tune
and hold the container for the feminine energy.
He also helps women too, though.
So there's gonna be this workshop
on masculine and feminine energy.
So if you're a woman that feels like
maybe you have too much masculine energy activated,
that'll help you,
that'll help you as a man.
Also, if you wanna become more tapped
into your masculine energy.
So that's a whole workshop
that you're gonna get access to.
We're gonna be going live with that.
And then there's gonna be another workshop as well
with my friend, Matt,
who is a dating expert,
who's gonna help with attachment styles.
So if you want those two bonuses,
click the link below.
Now is one of the last chances to join
with those bonuses.
You'll see that at aarondoughty.com/love.
And the second thing that you must let go of
in order to attract love
that I had to let go of
is the emotion of shame.
Now, this also ties back to the first one
where I was feeling,
there's this thing that happens when we're kids
where something happens
and we then make an internalization that says,
"I'm broken.
"There's something wrong with me."
When I was a kid
and my parents started becoming emotionally unavailable,
I felt like maybe there's something wrong with me.
Maybe I'm not worthy of attention or love.
And then what happened
is I internalized that.
Shame is an identity.
Once I became aware just months ago
that my identity was that
I'm not worthy of love,
and I realized I tend to attract
emotionally unavailable people,
it's because it feels like
a familiar pattern from when I was a kid.
Now, the key and the cure to this
and something we go over in the 21 day challenge
is realizing that your mom
or dad's emotional unavailability when you were a kid
had nothing to do with you.
Your parents divorcing when you were a kid,
had nothing to do with you.
As kids we internalize these things.
We then think it's a part of our identity
that our parents or that somebody else
maybe wasn't present
or showing up in that way.
And therefore, what we do
is we didn't settle
and we bring that sense of identity
into our current relationships.
Realize it has nothing to do with you.
Maybe you've attracted someone in your life
that's also emotionally unavailable
and maybe it didn't work out.
Or maybe what happened
is you have an ex that you broke up with
or they broke up with you
and maybe they're now dating someone else
and you think that means you're unworthy.
It's almost like we're afraid
somebody is gonna leave us
or not be with us
and then it means we're not worthy.
It doesn't mean that.
It just means it didn't work out
and it has nothing to do with you.
But you have to take responsibility for that.
You have to take responsibility for knowing that
that's not your energetic thing
that you have to prove.
You don't have to prove your love.
When I begin to be in my own body
and embody that energy
and feel the separation between my parents
knowing they did the best they could
but it had nothing to do with me,
I started to feel more worthy.
I started to have higher standards.
I then attracted someone in my life
that is emotionally available.
It's crazy how powerful this stuff is,
but that really is the key.
Now, the third thing that you need to let go of
in order to raise your love vibration
is you need to let go of attachment
and trying to control love.
Love is something you can't control.
Love is something that happens naturally.
Trying to control it
and put the ego desires into it,
butchers up the vibration.
Let go and trust.
When I was going through
some of the patterns from the past
where I was feeling in the moment really attached,
I now look and can see
that I had to go through that,
but also it led me to something even deep
and something that just feels so aligned.
So any of you can do that.
Now, also I was not able to attract in love into my life
until I completely let go of the past.
That's the key.
When you have an energetic thread
to the past relationship,
to a story,
it keeps that vibration alive
and it doesn't allow in room for anything new.
Imagine a dog with a bone in its mouth
and it wants a new bone.
Imagine there's one bone
that's been chewed up so much
and maybe it's run its course.
But imagine that there's a delicious bone
that would be much more resonant right over there,
but the dog's not willing
to let go of the bone in its mouth.
Well, that's kind of what happens
when you hold onto an ex.
You're keeping the bone in your mouth
and you can't actually make room and space
for something new,
for something else.
So you have to make the choice to let go.
Now, it seems like it's hard to let go of an ex,
but the only reason it's hard
is because there's reasons that keep you attached.
You're afraid that if you let go of your ex,
you're not gonna find a deep love in your life.
You're afraid that if you let go of your ex,
then it's gone forever.
Or you're afraid that if you do,
they're gonna find somebody better
or somebody that's gonna prove to you
you're unworthy.
Realize that letting go is an act of self love.
Letting go of that attachment
is something that you don't have to internalize
if they find somebody else.
But at the same time,
it's realizing that you always attract
a reflection of the inner work you've done.
I attracted somebody that was very deep connection.
It was an amazing depth of connection.
But at the same time,
I thought that that was the deepest
it was ever gonna get.
And the reason that was
was because I had this belief
that there aren't that many people
that I would resonate with.
Once I realized that you meet somebody
at the depth of where you are,
it's like,
no, it only gets deeper.
You're only gonna find someone
that's more of a resonance.
All you have to do is trust the process.
So that's the third thing you have to let go of.
The fourth thing that you have to let go of
is understanding your own sense of values
and not molding your values to other people's.
You wanna be in your own frame.
When I started living by my own values,
now, what this means
is this is one of the things
we talk about as well
in the 21 day Raise Your Love Vibration Challenge.
When your vibration is
you are tuning to your own inner compass of values,
you will then find somebody
that also has those values.
This is one of the activities we do.
Imagine that what you've been doing before
is you've been settling.
Maybe you've been molding your reality
to what everybody else wants.
And the key to this is realizing
what do you want in a partner?
What kind of values do you want in a partner?
Let go of the checklist as well.
They need to be this.
They need to look this way,
have green eyes and all this stuff
that it makes it really complicated.
Look at the values.
What are the values?
The desire is somebody that has integrity
with themselves.
Somebody that is spiritually focused
on doing the work.
Somebody that goes into their shadow.
Somebody that does and is very present.
These are all things you can begin to realize
that this is what you want.
Okay? How can I give myself these things?
How can I embody this vibration?
How can I be in integrity with my own word?
How can I be present with myself?
How can I be patient?
Or whatever your values are.
You then embody them.
You live by those values.
And when you're dating,
what you do is you compare to see
are they living by those values.
And then you have a standard.
So that's a good thing
that you have a sense of your own gravity.
So that's something that you wanna be aware of
is let go of molding to other people's
and have your own
because then you're leading in your own frame.
Now, the fifth thing that you must let go of
is you must let go of realizing
that sometimes deep relationships in your life
are familiar relationships in your life,
but what you must do
is you must be going into your own work
and you must become emotionally available.
I realized that I was attracting
emotionally unavailable people
because it felt familiar from my childhood,
but also I was emotionally unavailable.
I was afraid of what that meant to be
with somebody that was emotionally available.
And what I was doing
is I was choosing people that weren't choosing me
because it felt similar to a childhood dynamic.
Once I started choosing myself,
that's when my life really began to change.
So like I said,
that changes everything.
These five things will revolutionize
your love vibration.
And if you want to join the 21 day
Raise Your Love Vibration Challenge,
now is the best time to join.
You get two bonuses
21 days in a row.
I'll be going live every day
or I'll have experts I bring in
to do live that are experts at this.
And if you can't make the live videos,
they'll be replayed
so it's all good.
There's a high vibe tribe
you're gonna get access to.
We're gonna be doing and bringing in,
wiring it in with accountability.
It is so powerful.
Go to aarondoughty.com/L-O-V-E/love.
Join now.
And I'll talk to you guys in the next video.
Peace, much love and Namaste.