- This question sucks because it's so triggering.
(laughs)
Hi guys, what's up?
This is Merritt Larray.
And today I'm at home with Seventeen
to answer your dating questions.
So let's begin.
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Question number one is my boyfriend follows
a lot of hot girls on Instagram.
Should I be nervous?
Listen, just being jealous of other people
when it's not necessary, it was just not it
at the end of the day, he's with you for a reason.
So if he's following other girls on Instagram,
you shouldn't really care.
If you don't really feel comfortable with him following her,
just be honest and let them know
and be like, hey, she gotta go.
You gotta cut that and unfollow.
That's what I would probably do.
Question number two is how can I avoid
having a terrible first kiss?
As a person who has never kissed a boy,
I'm just kidding, oh my gosh.
I would honestly say like, I can't tell you to practice
because I remember like in high school
we saw like, watched those movies
where they practiced for their first kiss
with their hand or something.
You can't really do that because it's no.
So you gonna have to just wing it.
You gonna have to full send it and just try
because you're not gonna know until you find out.
And you know what?
Try your best.
And if it doesn't work out, try again.
Who knows?
Maybe your first kiss will be iconic.
Maybe he'll text you back later.
If he doesn't, so what?
Find another boyfriend (laughing)
I don't know where I'm going with this, but yes.
Good luck.
Question number three.
What are some pickup lines that aren't cheesy?
And I would probably say
cheesy is like, it's in it's quirky.
It's, everyone wants to be cheesy.
I mean like right now it's a vibe.
I would say, go into his DMS,
be like, I'm here now.
What are your other two wishes?
Delete this whole video. (laughs)
That was so, I can't I'm uncomfortable.
Question number four.
Is it okay for the girl to make the first move?
Absolutely.
I think girls should make the first move.
I feel like guys get intimidated
when girls make the first move,
which is a little bit sad, we're in 2020 babe.
Girl power, period.
Question number five.
What do you do when your crush likes your best friend?
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I don't know. (laughs)
Like what do you do?
You can't really do much
because if your crush likes your best friend
you can't get mad at your best friend
because it's not their fault.
But also like you can't control
how your crush is supposed to feel.
So like, what do you really do?
I guess just move on.
Like find somebody else.
There's a lot of fish in the sea.
You're like little mermaid
and he's like, I don't know the crab
and you can do much better.
Where was I going with that?
You know what?
Just move on.
Okay?
Thank you.
Question number six is why does it seem
like boys always pick girls with
the nastiest attitudes instead of normal girls?
And you know as me being a normal girl,
I would say I agree.
Men, they don't have the facilities of a big brain energy.
So they always go for the worst for them,
which I understand.
It's a boy thing.
If he chooses a nasty girl, that's his life choice.
You can't really take that upon yourself.
Don't feel like you should change yourself at all
to make them want you
because it's not how life works babe.
There are so many other guys in the world
that will probably treat you like a queen.
I know it's corny to say, but it's the truth.
So chat the deuces.
Didn't leave, peace out.
Question number seven.
What can girl do to impress a guy?
Girl, I honestly think you shouldn't have
to do much to impress a guy
because at the end of the day,
I feel like girls hold all the power, on blink period.
And I mean, just be yourself.
Because the moment you guys
get into a relationship where you guys are talking
and you tried so hard to get him when you were
just in the stage of flirting with him
and then he meets the real you
he's gonna be like, who is this?
So honestly don't do too much and don't go too crazy.
Just long as be yourself.
That's how I got my bae, period.
Question number eight.
How do you flirt?
You're asking the wrong person
because I'm the absolute worst person at flirting.
I have such bad anxiety when
it comes to like being cute.
Calling my boyfriend babe for the first time
of us dating, I couldn't do it.
I was cringing the whole entire time.
So flirting let alone was just too much for me.
I couldn't be like, hey cutie.
Like I can't do it, I'm sorry.
So if you wanna flirt,
I would say like blow his notification.
What do the high schoolers do?
What do they do in middle school?
Like blow up his notification.
They're like, I don't know send them those streaks
of you just being pretty, I don't know.
Do something. (laughs)
But yeah, I have no idea how to flirt.
So question number nine.
What are the most clear signs
that someone has lost interest in you?
This low key hits different, this hurts.
Ways you can tell if someone
lost interest in you is super simple.
For example, if you guys started talking
and they were just texting every day,
being all cute and like cheesy and corny
and texting you, good morning
and bringing you flowers
and telling you like cute all day.
And then in the middle of your relationship
and they stopped doing all those things
that were meaningful.
This question sucks because it's so triggering.
(laughs)
And they stopped doing all
those things were meaningful to you.
You can obviously tell that they lost interest in you.
And it's a sucky thing
but you can't really change how someone feels about you.
Question number 10 is how can I slide
into someone's DMs if I don't know them?
And is that creepy?
Honestly, sliding into DMs is like normalized.
So I feel like it's not creepy at all.
Back in high school I did this thing
where I'd screenshoted his picture.,
I zoomed in really, really close and I sent it to him.
I was like, what is that in the corner of your eye?
And he was like, what?
And then I zoomed it a little closer and it was my number.
It didn't work out because he ended up
not responding, but it's okay.
Maybe it'll work for you.
Not everyone has the best luck of getting guys.
Question number 11 is what would you do
if you text your crush and they haven't replied to it yet
and it's been more than a day?
Block him.
Check his Snapchat location,
see who is snapping.
The best finessing way to figure out
if someone's ignoring you,
screenshot their Snapchat score.
Oh my God, I sound crazy.
Am I toxic?
Maybe.
But screenshot their Snapchat score
and then check it an hour later.
And if it goes up, that means they're talking
to somebody else, but you didn't hear it from me, okay?
(laughs)
Okay, I'm crazy.
I am crazy but you know what?
It's fine, someone has to do it.
But if your crush and haven't responded
and it's been longer than a day,
double text him be like, hey are you okay?
Because you never know,
they could be going through something
or they could just not be interested
anymore, which just sucks.
But that's just how life works.
Not everything is gonna work the way we expect it.
So I mean, if they don't respond them more than a day,
show them the same energy.
And if they text you back, then be like,
I don't see it for a day.
Okay, I'm toxic and crazy.
Don't listen to me. (laughs)
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