Unknown: Hey, everyone, welcome back to this week's video, which
is, hey, canceled plans. I'm sure you've had some canceled
plans in 2020. So how to deal with disappointment. And I'm
sure that when the ball dropped at the beginning of this year,
not one of us thought that every single one of our goals for
2020, we're going to go out the window, I don't know about you.
This is something everyone's been talking about. This is not
new, that 2020 has been the year from hell. And so we all started
this year full of hopes and dreams and, you know, things
that we were going to do for the future. And now, I'm recording
this video in October of 2020. In here, it's October. And my
guess is at some point, you know, you've had at least one
big thing be canceled this year. That was really important to
you. That was maybe a trip, maybe you graduated, maybe it
was a big birthday that you had planned. But my guess is you've
had something canceled for you in 2020. And so how do you deal
with disappointment? Because disappointment is one of those
pieces and people will tell you Yeah, disappointments part of
life, just accept it. It's like, Well, yeah, disappointment is a
big part of life. And yes, you do have
to accept it. But
you know, one of
the things that I want to talk about in terms of disappointment
is, is that what I see a lot of is I have a lot of clients who,
you know, they never try anything new or different. They
never try to challenge themselves in any real way, or
go after the goals that are really important to them,
because they have this fear of disappointment in the end. And
then when things like this happen, like 2020, we say to
ourselves, see, you know, life is full of disappointments, life
is hard. And we use that as an excuse not to go after the
things that we want to. So just because 2020 didn't go the way
we thought and just because when the ball dropped, that the goals
that you set for yourself on one 120 20 are maybe out the window,
doesn't mean that you should not have goals, it doesn't mean that
you should not go after the things that you want. It just
means that it's you've got to learn how to manage and just
accept and embrace disappointment. So what I always
tell my clients is how do you deal with disappointment? Well,
you get to feel sad, you get to be down, you get to be all of
the things that you want to be. And that is absolutely
positively part of the process. But what's going to separate you
from other people, is how long you allow those disappointments,
to be a part of your life and to dictate future choices. So you
know, and it, because you have the right to your feelings, and
you have the right to feel down. We all do. But it's really what
we do and how we take, you know, our experience and our
disappointments and take them and push forward in our lives.
That's really the crux, what will separate you from another
person is being able to right now say, Okay, this year has
been full of disappointments. And this has been tough and
difficult, difficult. But how do I then take these
disappointments? And take a step back and really figure out? What
do I need to learn from this? What are the you know, what are
the life lessons? And what do I need to do differently in the
future? That's it. That's what disappointments are here to
teach us. You know, I'm still trying to process 2020 I think
we're all trying to process this year and try to figure out like,
how does all this mean to us? How do we think about it? What
is it you know, all of those things, but in the end, people
who will be most successful with all of this are the people who
are going to be able to say to themselves, I have to take I
have to take these downtimes these disappointments and figure
out what is it that I need to learn about myself, the world
around me? And what do I need to do differently? Moving forward,
right. So if you're someone who struggles with this has a fear
of you know, as a fear of failure, because you just don't
you hate the disappointments all the time, then I have something
for you. I launched a brand new course this month. It's called
find your path to find your path coaching program. There should
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