HOW TO GET OUT OF THE FRIEND ZONE Have you ever been attracted to a girl for a long time,
but she only sees you as a friend that you want her so badly,
but it seems like there's nothing you can do because you're stuck deep in the
dreaded friend zone. Well,
my name's Matt Artisan and today we are in Cuba.
And these are five things that you can do if you're stuck in the friend zone.
We're in Havana, Cuba,
and today we're going to explore some other cities in Cuba.
Now don't do what most people would do in this situation,
which is confess their love to her.
Probably the most selfish thing I've ever said in my life.
When you confess your love to her,
she realizes that you've been fake this entire time.
It's like you've been wearing a mask pretending to be somebody you're not hiding
your intentions, acting platonic and friendly.
Where when deep down you've truly liked her and desired her and
you kept that from her.
So she's going to feel manipulated and pretty sure that's going to hurt your
friendship.
She's not gonna want to continue to be friends with somebody who is fake and
who's wearing a mask. So whatever you do, don't confess your love to her.
Instead, you have a few options.
We're about to go into this building behind us called the Palacio.
Which is now a museum,
and I guess it's some kind of old school, the Victorian style building,
let's check it out.
And your first option, you're not going to like. I'm sure..
But it's to stay in the friends though,
"
I'll always be your best friend." Its to value your friendship.
And you can still get something out of it.
In the sense of it can be an advantage to your dating life,
which is she can be your wing girl.
And this is huge. In fact, this can be a lot more valuable than dating her,
potentially because if you go to a bar club by yourself,
you could be seen as weird or creepy cause you're there alone.
As long as it's no big deal to you,
I've done it countless times and had great success going out by myself.
But you're not at an advantage. If you go with a bunch of guys, yeah,
you have some wing man with you.
So you had a little bit more of an advantage as long as they're good wing men,
but now you can be potentially seen as more dangerous or threatening because
it's a bigger group.
Remember women are always concerned about their safety number one.
But if you go there with a beautiful girl or a group of girls for that matter,
then not only are you seeing as safe because you didn't kill her,
you're obviously not a serial killer, but you're also not creepy right away.
She knows you're not creepy cause you didn't creep her out or the group out.
And she knows that you must have some kind of value, some kind of status.
If you have such a beautiful woman with you,
whether you're just friends with her or not, it doesn't matter.
So when you approach women,
they're going to give you a good response right away,
more likely than not because they have seen you there with that beautiful
girl.
And they know that you got something going for yourself or you can even have her
approach the girls first. And then she brings you the girls.
She introduces you to other girls at the bar or club.
And she can also talk you up to the girl that you're interested in and tell
the girl that you like, cool things about you and basically brag for you.
Things that you can't do on your own. If you start bragging about yourself,
that just seems as very low value and low status.. By the way, man,
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Smooth music] I'm at the very top.
This building here in Waco, Cuba.
And of course another option is they can date her friends if she has
any cute friends and what are you doing, man?
Why are you wasting your time on her?
Who is not interested in you when she can put a good word for you to her friends
and you can date them. In fact, that's what I do.
Anytime I meet a woman and we have some sort of connection,
but she's married or she's in a relationship. I just say, Hey,
do you have any cute single friends that are cool? Like you?
And oftentimes they do. And sometimes they set me up with them.
So I recommend you start doing that.
If you're stuck in the friend zone or anytime you meet a woman who is
in a relationship.
Chances are you don't like those options and you still want to get out of the
friend zone. I recommend you do is test the waters first.
That means amp things up five or 10% instead of,
I don't know where confessing your love to her or making a big move on her,
like trying to kiss her, which is probably going to freak her out.
It's going to really badly for both of you instead flirt with her five or 10%
more. Start touching her just a little bit more than usual,
become a little bit more sexual, but not to the extreme.
Just do it a little bit. Gradually over time, test the waters.
See how she reacts. Does she reciprocate or does she seem to like it?
If so, keep amping things up over time.
And in a few weeks it might take a few months,
but eventually things will progress into something a lot more intimate.
[
Lively music]. Now, if that doesn't work,
if she doesn't seem to reciprocate or enjoy the
extra attention and flirting and interest that you're giving her,
then next I want you to emphasize the friendship.
Basically put her back in the friend zone,
tell her that you guys are just friends while you keep flirting a little bit,
showing her some interests, tease her, touch her a little bit.
For example, let's say she's wearing a really nice dress, a really sexy outfit.
And you say something like, that's not cool. You're starting to turn me on.
And we're just friends. I don't see you that way.
But you say it of course in a joking, flirty tone,
not like a serious tone where you're like mad at her or anything like that.
But you can accuse her of trying to seduce you,
even though you only see her as a sister.. Now seems counterintuitive.
Sounds kind of crazy.
But the reason that that can work so well is because we all want what
we can't have. And as your flirting with her, teasing her,
that should give her some good emotions.
You're telling her that she looks sexy or gorgeous, which makes her feel good.
Of course she likes that, but then you're taking it away by telling her no,
what are you doing? We're just friends. Stop trying to turn me on. It's weird.
And by reemphasizing your relationship that she doesn't have a chance with you
because you see her just as friends, it's not guaranteed to work,
but it could have the same effect that her putting you in the friend zone has on
you making you want to get out.
It can make her want to get out of the friend zone. Because again,
we all want what we can't have. It's just human nature.
So try that, try showing some desire while also being a challenge.
Now look, man, at some point you are going to have to make your move on her.
I don't recommend you do it while you're sitting on her bed and she's
complaining about all the asshole guys she dates.
Cause that's just gonna be awkward. Instead, say,
Hey, let's go forget about all those asshole guys. Who've broken your heart.
Let's go grab a drink and then make your move. Now again,
it shouldn't be out of nowhere.
You should have been flirting with her for the past few weeks or months,
by touching more by teasing her by being a little bit more sexual.
And if all is good and that's working then going for a
kiss may work.
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Lively music..again!].
Let's actually talk about the root of your problem.
It's that you have "oneitis" and you don't have any other options.
You don't have women as beautiful and awesome as her chasing you,
wanting you and desiring you.
So you put all your eggs in this basket and it's not working out for you very
well. If you had other options,
then not only potentially would she like you more because she'd see all
these girls fighting for your attention and wanting you and being attracted
to, but you also probably wouldn't care about her nearly as much.
So instead of focusing so much time and attention on her and getting out of the
friend zone, focus on working on yourself,
becoming the best version of yourself, becoming more attractive,
becoming more confident when it comes to women and dating.
Approach women everywhere and put yourself in tense
situations.
So you become more confident and you're able to manage the tension when you're
talking to a beautiful woman. And of course I can help you with that.
My whole team at The Attractive Man can help you with that.
We have boot camps all over the world, except for here in Cuba.
We're probably not going to come here anytime soon,
but we've done bootcamps in over 43 different countries now.
So chances are we're coming somewhere close to you.
And we also have one on one coaching where we can come to your city and help you
out where you live. So check out our schedule down below,
you can even hop on a call with one of our team members who will assess your
situation and figure out the best roadmap and game plan to get you to
your goals with women in the fastest and simplest way possible.
So schedule your breakthrough call right now, man.
Also make sure to check out the videos that I recommended on touching because
you need to escalate your touch the right way,
starting small and working your way up.
And I'll show you in another video exactly how to do that.
I'll put a link down in the description and at the end of this video,
it should appear pretty soon. And if you've got questions hit me up, man,
let's chat. Find me on Instagram, @mattartisan,
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