90% of women who are killed in domestic violence incidences are not killed by
men who planned it.
Today, I'm talking about the most dangerous type of male dating personality that you can
possibly come across. It's the rage-aholic. I'm going to give you the five warning signs,
so you can spot him early and get away from him. If you haven't got it already, download
the guide to the top 10 Male Dating Personalities That Lead To Heartbreak.
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So as I said in the intro, the vast majority of DV deaths do not happen from perpetrators
who planned it. Rather they happen from an acute bout of rage, where you didn't see it
coming. If you don't want to become the next statistic, then you need to know how to spot
this male dating personality and get away from him early. So anger is a normal emotion.
It's a response to perceive threats and it serves to get things done in the environment.
It makes stuff happen. It makes a threat back down. It's an important emotion. But for the
rage-aholic, anger becomes an addiction. He slips into bouts of rage and doesn't know
how to control his anger. And that's when something indescribable can happen.
This pent-up rage can often come from a background of childhood abuse or neglect,
but that's not for you to fix. That's for him to fix.
Your job is to be able to spot the signs early and know when you need to get away to keep
yourself safe. So here's five signs of a rageaholic that you need to know about.
Number one, big physical displays of anger.
So it sounds obvious, but if you're seeing slamming doors, if you're
seeing pounding bench tops, if you're seeing him throwing things, if he's raising his voice
excessively, a lot of the time, it's a big sign of a rageaholic and a man who doesn't
know how to control his anger. If these displays are getting to the point where he's damaging
the environment or he's breaking things, it is a strong warning sign of a rageaholic that
you need to take seriously.
Number two, displays of anger that are disproportionate to what
actually happened. So it's expected that if he's lost a big work deal or if he's dropped
$1 million on the stock market, maybe he'll yell, slam a door. That can happen.
We all get angry at times.
But if his displays of anger are totally disproportionate to what actually happened,
then it's a strong sign of a male dating personality that you want to avoid
- the rage-aholic.
If he's throwing things across the room and yelling because he dropped his pen
or he misses a turn off on the highway and it goes into a hysterical rage.
These are strong warning signs of a man who cannot control his anger.
And if he cannot control his anger at the little things now,
odds are he won't be able to control his anger at you later.
Number three, he throws you off when you try to calm him.
So it's one thing for a guy who may not want to be touched and he might say,
"no, I just need to sit on my own right now."
But if you put your hands on his arm and try to calm him down
and he throws you off or you try to give him a hug and he pushes you off from your chest,
then while he's not directing the physicality towards maliciously hurting you,
he's still directing physicality towards you and early on,
he might not be trying to hurt you, but later on he will.
If he's showing early signs of being physical towards you in the form of throwing you off
him, then he's likely to show it later in the relationship. It's a strong warning sign
of a rageaholic and one that you need to get away.
Number four, he insists he didn't see it coming.
So for the normal guy, he might get angry at times, but he can usually say
what will trigger it, and he can acknowledge it and work on it to not do it again,
but the rage-aholic has anger that can't be controlled.
When you ask him what triggered it or where it came from,
he'll tell you that. "I don't know, it just, it just came up in me."
He'll insist that he didn't see it coming because he's totally oblivious
of his own triggers.
This is what makes him so dangerous to himself and to you.
The angry rage-aholic doesn't know where his anger comes from, which means he can't control
it and that means he could come out at any point.
This is a warning sign that you need to take seriously.
Number five, you feel like you're walking on eggshells when you're around him.
So if you've now seen one bout of rage and you're starting to feel like you have
to tip toe around certain subjects or around certain things, you don't want to set him
off so you don't say things. You're constantly aware to not trigger his anger., that is a
strong sign he is a rageaholic and that you need to get out. If you've seen any of these
five warning signs today, I urge you take them seriously. Do not risk yourself dating
a man with pent-up rage.
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