How to talk to guys, how to be less shy around hot guys and get rid of those nerves once
and for all. That's what I'm talking about today. We've got the videos on how to talk
to guys, demonstrated the techniques, but today, I'm telling you how to feel true confidence.
Stay tuned.
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How do you feel true confidence talking to men? How do you really get rid of those nerves
and feel confident to apply all the techniques that I've talked about in the other videos?
You know, I've had a lot of new clients come on board over the past six months and they're
applying a lot of the things that I talk about. They're getting out there, hopefully like
you are, and they're practicing things that I talked about in those other videos. Being
passionate, being expressive, being positive, spreading a great vibe around the room, putting
themselves out there, you know, being playful and practicing these techniques talking to
men, but the problem is they come to me and they still don't feel confident. They say,
Mark, I don't feel confident applying these techniques. They say, how do I get rid of
my nerves? And I mean it's important to do things like let go of your expectations and
not have focus on the outcome and that's going to help.
But ultimately, how do you get rid of your nerves talking to hot men and be confident?
You can't. You can't get rid of those nerves. Not all the way, not even most of the way.
This is an important lesson about confidence that you need to remember. Think about the
people that portray confidence. What's the real difference between someone who's confident
and someone who's not? Is it exactly what they do? Not necessarily because have you
ever had times, let me ask you this, have you had times where you've done something,
you've been nervous as shit and then people have said, wow, you are so confident. Oh my
God, you are amazing. And you're like, no, I wasn't. I felt terrified the whole time.
The real difference between confidence and non-confidence is one simple internal belief,
I'll handle it. The confident person believes I'll handle it and the person who doesn't
have confidence, even if they do handle it, doesn't necessarily go into the task believing
that they can handle it.
This is very important because we all have things in areas that we're confident in. What
are you confident in? You know, I have clients from 19 year old, single moms, two 50 something
specialist doctors and they each have areas where they are just supremely confident. You
know, for the mum it's like she has confidence in knowing what to do with her child. She
just knows she'll handle it. Whatever situation comes up, she deals with it. And when it comes
to diagnosing and treating disease, the specialist doctor, she just handles it. But there's a
very important lesson in confidence here. It's that neither of these people felt confident
in that activity to begin with. They did it, they were nervous as shit and then they got
the confidence and the nerves slowly but surely slipped away. There's only so much prep you
can do to being a mum before the baby actually comes and you're in the deep end.
You just gotta learn on the job, right? And eventually, I'll handle it. There's only so
much prep you can do for being a doctor. Five years at med school and the students still
graduate nervous as shit. Now, they're doing their jobs and to their patients, they probably
look very confident even though they are terrified inside, but eventually they do it enough times
and those nerves drop away. Nerves are like the gatekeepers. Don't ask, how do I get rid
of my nerves and be confident? Ask, how do I learn to act, to spot my nerves and earn
confidence? Nerves are the gatekeepers. You have to sit with them long enough before they
eventually leave. Go on their way and go bother someone else. You can never fully get rid
of your nerves. You can't even mostly get rid of your nerves. There's certainly a few
techniques that will put you more in the moment and knowing what to do will certainly help,
but ultimately learn to act despite your nerves.
Get out there, talk to guys, practice the techniques. It's not always gonna go perfect
every time. And I've got another video that's going to talk about what to do, how to recover
yourself, how to build resilience when you make a total fool of yourself, and you don't
want to get back out there anymore. But overall, put yourself out there. Understand that nerves
are part of the parcel and that just like the single mom or the specialist doctor, eventually
when you earn your stripes, they just wander on their way. That is how to build confidence,
talking to men and had to get rid of your nerves.
Well, thank you so much for watching. I hope you enjoyed the video. Leave any thoughts,
comments, questions, et cetera below. I'd love to hear it, do you agree, disagree? Let
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you in the next one very soon.
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